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Be Aware Of The Example You Are Setting


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Saturday, January 28, 2012

I've been working on losing weight and being active for a few years now - haven't we all, on and off again for ages... One of my main reasons for wanting to create this change in my life is for my boys. I want to be a good role model. I want them to be healthy, and active as they grow older. I want them to admire me for the healthy choices and actions. And I want a healthy lifestyle to be something that they grow up just knowing and not something they have to struggle to learn later in life.

Back on August 16, 2008 I blogged about my son, Daston (then 4years old) stating that "I want to be fat, just like Mommy" (This was also the title of my blog if you want to check it out). Anyway, he wasn't trying to be hurtful, he was just being honest and matter-of-fact about it - that's very much his character. And this really stuck with me. I've struggled many times since then, and even set my high weight after that. But I've always tried to remember what it would mean to my boys to have a healthy role model. And hoping one day, maybe I'd be it.

They are my world. And my boys have seen a lot of change and growth (or shrinkage) in me over the past few years. But sometimes I wonder how I'm going to know if I've imprinted on them any kind of fitness or healthy living - will I be able to see something in them that I can directly relate to the choices and efforts I've made? Let's be honest, they are little boys and they are quite active on their own. They don't need me chasing them for them to be busy bees.

Well yesterday morning, Daston (now 7 years old) handed me a note folded in half and although it's a secret and I'm not supposed to tell anyone - this is what it said:



We talked for a while after I read it. Daston said that he wants to teach me strength like Bob (as in Bob Harper). He also said that when he grows up he wants to teach fitness classes and teach people fitness, like Bob. I nearly cried!!!! I do not hide my efforts from them - sometimes that even means doing my BL Bootcamp DVD in the middle of our living room with them. And we sometimes watch Biggest Loser together even. It's nice to know that they really are paying attention. I am so proud that my choices are having a positive impact on my family. Today Daston had a sheet of paper and was planning our fitness class for tomorrow. He said so far there are 9 exercises, and I'm going to be really strong afterwards. I am so excited!!!!! Tomorrow, I will be putting on my gym gear, filling a water bottle and letting my lil' man instruct me.

I am so thankful to have been able to document this in my blogs. Being a mom is the most rewarding thing ever!


Daston and I, November 2011


My oldest, Braeden (10) and youngest, Isaiah (5), December 2011
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BRAVEHEART4ME 3/22/2012 10:27AM

  Love your blog! We often don't realize how much are actions are viewed by our children. It always brings a smile to my face when my children emulate me (when it's a positive thing that is!). emoticon

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SEATOWN_GAL 3/7/2012 4:12PM

    Omg that is so sweet! You are providing such a great example - way to go!

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JOSIEISHEALTHY 3/2/2012 3:18PM

    I loved reading this :) congrats on all of your achievements and how sweet is your son? What a cutie. I do my workouts in front of my son who is going to be 2. He likes to mimic what I do and I think it's the sweetest and it really makes me happy that I am being a good role model for him. :) just like you :)

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SOPHILI 2/28/2012 12:32AM

  it was so cute and touching about what he said :)
good luck and hope everything is going well and fun during the fitness class :)
good day!

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KENTUCKYGIRL01 2/26/2012 12:13PM

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NEEDSTHEBEACH 2/23/2012 2:41PM

    Good for your little man!

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DIVASPARK 2/22/2012 7:49PM

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RAGAMUFFINKEL 2/22/2012 10:39AM

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METAMORPHUS 2/22/2012 6:15AM

    awwww...............so cute!

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BEATLETOT 2/21/2012 6:19PM

    What a sweetie! Makes me almost wish I had a child... =)

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ABB698 2/21/2012 12:06PM

    How awesome (and sweet) is that? It's so nice to actually be able to SEE that you are influencing them in so many positive ways! Love it! SO proud of you girlie! emoticon

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SARASMILINGINKC 2/21/2012 9:15AM

  These little people bring us so many blessings!!!

My sons like to exercise with me also, but sometimes they just dance for me while I run on the treadmill. :)

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ASHES420 2/21/2012 7:52AM

  You are an amazing mom and role model (this goes beyond just your kids) you have inspired me so much and together we are both going to reach our goals! I love you Ellie, keep up the fantastic work!! :)

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EMFRAPPIER 2/21/2012 5:53AM

    That is fantastic!!

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LINDYLIME 2/21/2012 5:10AM

    thats just wonderful!

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BEAUTY_WITHIN 2/20/2012 11:44PM

    That's awesome! Have fun with your son! Enjoy your class! emoticon

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JOCEPINK 2/20/2012 9:59PM

    That is the cutest thing I've ever heard!

Sounds like you're an emoticon role model for your kids!

Jocelyn

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CHERYLSBUTT 2/20/2012 8:57PM

    Love moves mountains!
Your story touches my heart
thank you for sharing

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MUPPETB 2/20/2012 7:31PM

    Words our kids say sometimes hurt, but sometimes inspire. Adults definitely don't tell it like it is....it must be amazing to hear the turn in your son for the positive. Just like you have done!

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SLUDERCATS 2/20/2012 7:02PM

    What a wonderful young son you have. That's a keeper!!

Gayle

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BBROBOZIO 2/20/2012 3:09PM

  I can't believe how many spark members are thinking of their children when it comes to getting healthy. I think this is so great! As a pediatric nurse, i care for kids who've adopted their parents' bad habits. Genetics is difficult enough to deal with, let's give our kids every bit of help we can!

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NOIRNATURAL 2/20/2012 2:29PM

    Love it!

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MAVERICK59 2/20/2012 1:59PM

    Heart warming story.
Congratulations.

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HOLLY404040 2/20/2012 1:38PM

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BARBWMS 2/20/2012 1:35PM

    Great going! I have two grown sons and feel the same responsibility even now.. and I have 165 students I see daily.. they are very helpful as I lose weight.. and it's amazing how caring they are! I get applause every milestone loss that occurs. You are very inspiring to me, and I know to your children! emoticon

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PRINCESSLSH 2/20/2012 12:20PM

    Wow you have a have smart son. He's adorable. I just love how he is going to be your trainer. This story is really good for the soul, the body, and the heart. Thanks for sharing it with us.

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FELICIA1963 2/20/2012 12:15PM

  Wow - this is great - you are definitely such a fantastic example.

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NAIMATANNER 2/20/2012 12:07PM

    Wow, what a wonderful little cheerleader/personal trainer you have in your son! Keep up the good work, your healthy habits will rub off on them for sure.

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MZZCHIEF 2/20/2012 11:18AM

    Such a heartwarming story, what an adorable child!
Thx for sharing it.

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Mzzchief

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JKTENTATIVE 2/20/2012 11:12AM

    Thanks for sharing - brought tears to my eyes too!

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CASILAYNE 2/20/2012 10:41AM

    Girl, that brought me to tears. You have gorgeous boys! I am raising a son too. My biggest inspiration in getting healthy is presenting a healthy lifestyle to my baby boy (He'll be 2 next month). You are an incredible role model! You are inspiring to your three young men and to me. Thank you so much for sharing!!

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PETESKI24 2/20/2012 9:51AM

    inspiring

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SMARTIN421 2/20/2012 9:42AM

    I have 2 little ones and I know exactly what you mean. I worry everyday about the effect I have them. You cetainly seem to be inspiring them. They are very handsome, mom. Good job!
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CJBAGGINS 2/20/2012 9:26AM

    So, how did the workout go? Was your son the fabulous trainer that he wishes to be?
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ELAINE704 2/20/2012 9:01AM

    Thank you for sharing. My boys are grown, and I still need to be an example to them, their wives and my grandchildren.

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LHOLMES4343 2/20/2012 7:21AM

  I am really touched, I can see how much your family means to you. What a great example you have set up for them and might I also say for me too.

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JGRAY76 2/20/2012 6:13AM

    You are a great role model to your boys. They have obviously learned how important fitness is. I be that fitness class in the living room was fun and hope you will blog about it soon. emoticon

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LADYBUG1107 2/20/2012 5:24AM

    That is wonderful! Congratulations on your efforts.

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ROSGETSSERIOUS 2/20/2012 3:20AM

    The note brought a tear to my eye - what a wonderful example you are being to your family - he is learning so much just from watching you - even down to planning his workouts.
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ROSGETSSERIOUS 2/20/2012 3:19AM

    The note brought a tear to my eye - what a wonderful example you are being to your family - he is learning so much just from watching you - even down to planning his workouts.
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HEALTHYSLIM2 2/20/2012 1:02AM

    What a beautiful note from a sweet boy. All your boys have such sweet smiles... must be learning a LOT of good things from a very loving mom!!
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Keep up the good work. You know what they say, our children learn most from what they see, not what they hear us say.
You are setting a strong example of what it means to practice personal leadership.
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NANCAN2 2/20/2012 1:01AM

  You've done a wonderful job inspiring your family. WTG! I wasn't such a good example when we were all younger. I talked negatively about my fat body which I now look back and would be pleased to be that weight even though I did need to lose some. Luckily, they weren't harmed but I wished I taught them to love the negative things while working to make them better. I now have a second chance with my daughters and my grandchildren! They're my inspiration!

Again, thanks for sharing and reminding is all how we do impact others. emoticon

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BAMBI31311 2/20/2012 12:46AM

  What beautiful children, and that yellow sticky note is priceless. Well done you !

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WIDARLING 2/19/2012 11:42PM

    WHAT A BEAUTIFULL BLOG. YOUR SON IS VERY LOVING AND CARES ALOT FOR YOU. GOD BLESS. emoticon

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GAUNTTRUE1 2/19/2012 11:08PM

  THis is a great blog and great advise. I am inspired by you.

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JAZZ20 2/19/2012 11:01PM

  Congratulations, and enjoy your fitness class.

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REDHOTANDBLUE 2/19/2012 9:52PM

    Kids really do keep us honest, don't they? Congratulations on a job well done. You are truly blessed! emoticon

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KSESSIONS 2/19/2012 9:21PM

    You have such beautiful children! Thank you for sharing your journey with us. Best wishes and keep on sparking!! emoticon

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MISSLORI5 2/19/2012 8:14PM

    Yep, that Bob Harper has a following alright! And the more your little ones sees the right thing to do, the more they will want to choose it when their time comes! All my best wishes for your family as you grow together in fitness!

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