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Friday, January 27, 2012

One of my wonderful SP friends (AmyElizabeth) mentioned that she was spending the day with her walking friend. Which reminded me of something my mom would tell me when I was a teenager, "Don't think you can play in the mud and not get dirty. "You ARE the company that you keep!" The relevance of those words to my weight issues hit me, and I realized my mom was right. (You have no idea how hard that was to write. So, PLEASE no one tell her.)

You see, even though I've always had body image issues, I haven't always had a weight problem. Why? Because I was the company I kept. Pre-weight struggles, I had friends I got dirty with! We went to the gym and the beach. We walked our dogs. We hiked. We took Pilates classes. We -- well you get the picture. But when my husband and I moved to this desert -- which I DID NOT want to do! My body doesn't process heat like normal people. (Oh one more fun fact, we moved here in the middle of one of the hottest summers on record. I think it was 114 the night we arrived.) Oops... -- I spent a lot of time indoors crying! Pretty sure, crying is not listed anywhere as a top 10 calorie burning activity. When I wasn't crying I was eating , and I discovered Pie! Well, even after I made new friends, turns out Pie has been involved whenever my new friends and I get together. We go have coffee. We go out to breakfast and to lunch. Oh and my husband and I have couple friends that we go out to dinner with (5 hour dinners!). Not only is Pie involved, but something even worse... Wine! Is it any wonder I developed a weight problem. Well, that's not good enough for me anymore!

Luckily, over this last year, I have made new SP friends, that I'm getting dirty with! They're triathletes, bikers, swimmers, runners, walkers, yogis, Jillian Michaels and Tracy Anderson survivors, Chronic Pain Warriors and more! They inspire and motivate me every day. They remind me that this is a lifestyle choice, and there is no finish line! If at the end of each day, I can be a little more like the SP company that I'm keeping, then life is good, and I know one morning, I'm going to wake up and realize that I've reached my goal!

Three last things I want to share...

I borrowed this quote from a new DONE Girl, SARASMILING.
"It's not enough to take steps that will someday lead to a goal; each step must be itself a goal and a step likewise." Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

Also, some much needed advice shouted at us yesterday by my Boot Camp instructor....
"Your scale doesn't matter! Your fitness level matters! Your nutrition matters! Your body composition matters! Eat to fuel your body, exercise, drink water, and sleep. That's how you get the body you want! If you're doing that, and your scale isn't moving down, tell your scales to suck it! and stop worrying about it!"

Hope you all have a wonderful weekend!

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    awesome blog..
    1886 days ago
    Wow! What a fabulous blog. I can relate to this post on every level.

    When I landed in the "Sand-Trap" (Miami, Florida) a/k/a "The Sunshine State" in 1982, from up North, (MN) coming straight from an Indian Reservation I was in complete culture shock.

    I have tried to escape "the trap" many, many times, but I never got out. I have come to the conclusion that "The Great Spirit" has put me in this place for a reason.... I have a mission here, until I fulfill that there is no escape. Here I am 30 years later, still in the Sand-Trap. That is o.k., it is all in who you surround yourself with, what a valuable lesson!

    Reminds me of the quote "Bloom where you are planted"
    That is what I have done, now life is good, I have a wonderful husband, and a peaceful life.

    I am not around my Native culture, but that is fine.... I am learning about others (such as my husband's, Latino culture), the European and Caribbean Cultures, so we shall see what the future brings it is all very exciting - it is all in how you look at it "perspective".

    I, now look at it from a positive perspective.

    I enjoyed reading this blog very much.

    2022 days ago

    Comment edited on: 7/11/2012 8:49:01 PM
    Loved your blog - great motivation! emoticon
    2163 days ago
    Thank you ! Very encouraging.
    2166 days ago
  • KLONG8
    OK, this revved me up! Thanks for the boost!
    2176 days ago
    Very motivational!! Thank you for sharing!
    2180 days ago
    2180 days ago
    Great post
    2180 days ago
  • KIPPER15
    I can hear my own mom saying I told you so. Great blog. emoticon
    2180 days ago

    Great blog

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    2180 days ago
  • THEIS58
    Just great!
    2180 days ago
    I'm not proud, just honest, that I've told my scale to suck it more than once!! Loved your blog!!
    2181 days ago
  • JIBBIE49
    2182 days ago
    LOVE THE picture sayings...NO Finish lines for us! emoticon
    Thank God for those second, third.....chances emoticon

    I also LOVE taking everyday and applying it to my journey. That's what is going to keep us going. I also hear you on everything revolving around food. The ladies at church ALWAYS have to work around food, our B'day celebrations are Food...everywhere you look emoticon emoticon emoticon How about a B'day outing go emoticon for a b'day...then you could work off that SMALL pc. of emoticon or in your case emoticon emoticon

    Let's get out there & find some TRUE sparker in our everyday life & tell that emoticon to SUCK IT! emoticon emoticon

    WE ARE DOING THIS! emoticon
    2182 days ago

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    2182 days ago
    Amazing blog!
    2182 days ago
    awesome, love this blog! telling my scale to suck it, because I am working my pants off (literally).
    2183 days ago
    ROTFL "Tell your scale to suck it!"

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    2183 days ago
    Much needed Marki. Thank you!!!! Now to get out there and get "dirty"!!!!!!

    2184 days ago
    Have I mentioned lately how awesome I think you are? You are the bomb-diggity!

    Thanks for sharing, I thoroughly enjoyed reading this.
    2187 days ago
    Wow! Isn't that the truth! It's just what I've been asking people for years "Don't grownups do anything for fun besides sit around and eat and drink?"

    Keep up the great work Marki (it is much appreciated even if we don't state that enough).

    Here's to going back to truly playing again and rejuvenating!

    2187 days ago
    Awesome blog Marki. I'll get dirty with you any day!
    2187 days ago
    Always knows what to say emoticon

    You are my motivator for life emoticon
    2187 days ago
  • AMM12076
    Loved it! Especially the quote about telling the scale to "suck it!" Isn't that what I have been telling you for the past year???
    I think you are doing great! I am super proud of you and all you do. You are a big reason as to why I am here at Fitness Ridge, so for that I owe you a BIG emoticon
    You are also right about you are the company you keep. This is something that comes easy here while at Fitness Ridge, since we are all working out 5-7 hours a day. But some people here are more positive then others, and those people encourage you to push harder and reach higher. It is intoxicating! As hard as this is, it is kind of scary thinking about having to go home, but with your help I know I will make the changes that I need to make to continue on my journey!!
    2188 days ago
    This blog makes me emoticon
    2188 days ago
    WOW Marki...you haven't bloggedy blogged in like forever?!? I love your conviction and strength. I love that you and KA JUN were my first 2 spark friends on the same day! I love that we challenge each other and hold each other up when we're down and accountable when we are misbehaving. You have given me so much! Thanks for that sparkie friend! Oh...that new Jillian DVD 90 day thing sounds like something I would love! So...just tell your husband..."what...that old DVD...I've had that forever".....He'll never know....LOL... Rock On Marki! emoticon emoticon
    2188 days ago
    I LOVE your blog!!! You hit the nail on the head! My spark friends motivate me. When I'm tired and don't want to do anything, I update my spark page and see what my friends are doing. Before I know I'm up doing something. I can always find some time do something for me, meaning workout in some way.

    Since losing 85 pounds I've learned from some of my friends...or their husbands that I've inspired them to do something. One of my best friends husband took up running and has lost 80 pounds now...he said I inspired him. It's contagious.... I guarantee you - YOU have inspired others!!!

    2188 days ago
  • KA_JUN
    Dude, powerful blog. Surrounding yourself with positive SP folks who can inspire you to reach for your own goals, well, isn't that what all of us are attempting to do? I know that reading my feed and seeing that Spark Warrior A, B, or C has been "bringing it" makes me look in the mirror and say, "so what you have? that all you got today, bring it!" Can't say I don't like the wine & pie, myself...but too much of that and I know and remember where I came from, and definitely don't want to go back there.

    Keep up the great work!
    2188 days ago
    It definitely makes a difference! With my friends here, they all want to go out to eat all the time, and I'm sitting here trying to get them to go for a walk instead. Sigh...
    2188 days ago
    Greatness written by greatness!!!!! Nicely put!
    Hee hee my scale can suck it too right now, since yes I did gain 15 lbs recently, but with nerve med juggling, that was expected. On top of that, I am Working out harder than I have in almost a year, so i have MUSCLES now that I didn't a few months ago, so I can't complain about that. My scale just needs to suck it goes while until the medical side of things iron out.

    We can 'pie' it up with some healthy veggie quiche. Whaddya say???
    2188 days ago
  • BRENDA_2012
    emoticon BLOG MARKI!!!

    I enjoyed reading this because it is so true. I appreciate you and my SP friends. I smile when I get a notice that you stopped by my page!!

    Have a wonderful weekend and get dirty!!!
    2188 days ago
    Your secret is safe with me! :)

    I love the blog - it so reigns true with so many of us. Birds of a feather flock together. It's easy to give in and shift or lifestyle to the birds around us (can't beat 'em - join 'em). It takes courage and will power to either find new birds or shift the old birds to follow you as you change.

    2188 days ago
    My Mama always said..."if you lay down with dogs, you're gonna get up with fleas". I love your blog Marki! You are so right about the company you keep. I know that being your friend makes me want to try harder...be more...press on! When I decided that I wanted a healthier lifestyle, for myself, and my family I had to stop hanging out with most of my friends. Food, and booze were always the main focus of our time together. I have a friend (sweet girl)I turn down on a regular basis for dinner, because I know I will eat too much, get drunk, and stay up waaaaay tooo late. I also don't need that kind of temptation. Frankly the thought of living like that anymore makes me tired just thinking about it! I love how you had this epiphany about the company you keep. I'm so honored to be in your company! Thanks for the wise words! You sure gave me a lot to think about!
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    2188 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/27/2012 1:23:30 PM
    I know how you feel about admitting Mom could be right. Sometimes I cringe when I hear myself repeating one of her gems to my son. The group of friends I have now I met when my son was in kindergarten. Our outings used to be with the kids and always involved some sort of exercise. Now the "kids" are in college and we go to dinner with margaritas and wine and food. I have to get back to going out walking with them. This was such a wonderful, positive blog, thank you!!
    2188 days ago
    Nice blog. Made me smile. Yes, I think of so many things that mom said that were so true. It took me a long time to realize it, and even longer to admit it! Have a wonderful day.
    2188 days ago
  • CANNIE50
    I was coming here to encourage you to write a blog, when I saw a notice that you had written a blog! I am so glad you did - I enjoyed reading this. It is always a pleasure to hear what you have to say. I have always said, I have a lot of sweaty friendships - my friends don't often see me in "real" clothes, with make-up on and hair out of a ponytail. Most of my time spent with my friends is on trails or in gyms or on tracks and I wouldn't have it any other way. Good for you for recognizing such a big element in what shapes your body and your lifestyle. PS Mamas often have wise things to share - just sayin' emoticon Take care, Marki - I am so glad you are on SP.
    2188 days ago
    Amazing blog. That must have been really tough to admit that something that your mom had said to you was actually profound and true. Ack!!!!!!!
    But I was really interested to see you process how the weight came on. The change in lifestyle, the arrival of pie and wine on a regular basis. The socializing around food and meals that go on forever.
    I have always believed that the friends we choose at a given time reflect who we are at a given moment. Here at Spark we have such a diversity of friends to choose from. We are able to develop many facets of ourselves on this site. But what we share in common is the need to learn to change our relationship with food and to finally accept that working out is as much a part of life as brushing our teeth. And as I wrote these words I just remembered something I would always tell myself when I was thin. It was this. If I can eat today, then I can train. And I would go to the gym. It was just that simple.
    Keep surrounding yourself with people who reflect the person you aspire to be and you will get there. And I will be there cheering you on.
    Way to go, Marki
    2188 days ago
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