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88 minutes and 11 seconds I can never get back (Happy Birthday to me)


Thursday, January 26, 2012

So today is my 49th birthday and I'm OK with that. The day was going really really well - my kids called me, my FB friends left wall messages, my personal friends called or texted - it was all good until .... my dad called.

Really Dad ?!? 88 minutes and 11 seconds ! We just spoke 2 days ago, why did you find it necessary to keep me on the phone for 88 minutes and 11 seconds.

Why did you find it necessary to send me a religious medal that represents a guardian angel (which I actually thought was quite sweet- until ... you said the angel was supposed to guide me back to church.

Why did you find it necessary to talk about the past when I was little? We remember it so differently. I remember you as an angry, abusive father (and husband). If you don't want to talk about these things, why do you bring it up on the phone?

Why do you ask me questions about my brother (who HATES you and does not talk to you or my mom) then not want to hear the answers?

Why ? Because you are a sad and angry and lonely old man and I am one of the only people on the face of the earth who will talk to you.

OK so for MY birthday I gave you 88 minutes and 11 seconds. and you've given me another reason to dislike spending time with you.

Now I've blogged (and had a glass of wine) and had a chance to vent, so ... it's done and over - those 88 minutes and 11 seconds are gone and it's time to move on and spend what's left of my birthday with my amazingly wonderful husband.

In the words of Hoops & YoYo .... Bow Bow Chicky Bow Bow emoticon
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CELLO23 1/31/2012 5:37PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon Sorry I missed your birthday, and never mind - he will appreciate you spending that time even if he doesn't show it. emoticon Hope you shook it all off and had a great time!

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AAAACK 1/27/2012 1:57AM

    You're so amazingly resilient! Such a shining example for some of us who struggle with similar things. Happiest of Birthdays to you!

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PMFISH 1/26/2012 11:33PM

    Happy Birthday!

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TUFFYBIRD 1/26/2012 9:11PM

    Happy birthday! I'm glad your dad's call just annoyed you rather than upsetting you ... and that you're not letting it ruin the rest of your day/evening. Enjoy the time with your great DH emoticon

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JODROX 1/26/2012 7:33PM

    Oh nuts! Sorry you had that blip in an otherwise great birthday!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!!!!!

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RIDMYCOCOON 1/26/2012 7:27PM

    It took me years to work through the crap with pops. It is up to you whether you can live with yourself with whatever choices you make in terms of dealings. As long as you are happy with where you are....screw the rest! We pick who deserves our goodness (parent or not). I know you will do what is right for you :)

and most importantly!:

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! I hope you have a wonderful evening with your amazingly wonderful husband!

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GOOSIEMOON 1/26/2012 6:46PM

    First of all, Happy Birthday! I hope that the rest of your day has somehow overshadowed that seemingly endless phone call. Wow!

Vent away! And enjoy the rest of your day with your wonderful husband...you deserve it!



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