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What do you do when you stress?

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

I have found myself in a very stressful lifestyle for the past 9 months. I have a granddaughter living with me because of sexual abuse in her home, of course that leads to family issues with holidays and phone calls. I have had issues with a 24 year old stepdaughter that wants to destroy my life by acting like a whiny teenager. I have a less than support family when it comes to my eating. I have a mother that has COPD and I need to take care of her frequently in a city 3 hours away. I had been on a seesaw with my weight since last July and then gained close to 20 pounds in less than a month from a migraine medication change.
When i stress I workout, hours and hours a day. I know that isn't healthy to workout too much, but it is better than filling my mouth with food and going back to almost 300 pounds. I am so frustrated with it all that walking, swimming, using the elliptical, the stationary bike and strength training is my sanctuary. I am lost here now. last weekend with all the stress I worked out for over 1700 minutes in four days, yesterday was over 8 1/2 hours working out between the time I got up and the time I left the Y at 9 pm and walked home because my husband was stuck in a hickey meeting that lasted for four hours. Good thing I walked home because I would have been waiting for an hour and a half in the cold outside of the Y.
Please give me an idea because if I don't leave my home and workout, I am going to stuff my face with every cookie, every pint of ice cream and every piece of candy in my house( that is a lot because for Christmas my husband received 102 boxes of Dots).
I crochet, I quilt but I can't be in this house until I can deal with this stress ina healthy way. If you have any ideas please help me!
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JUSTJUSTY 1/27/2012 9:43PM

    Stress is the worse. I close myself in my bedroom, my 10 yo hung up a sign on the door that reads,

" Leave me alone, solve your own problems!!! Thank you"

Poor kid, LOL

I find the best relief for stress is comedy. If I'm laughing, I can't be thinking of all those "things" blah

Hang in there! We're all behind ya!

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SLFGOLF 1/25/2012 1:10AM

    I set aside time each day to read. I love to read and can "get away" from it all for a little while by finding a quiet place in my house that is just for me with a cup of coffee or tea and read. I had bought myself a kindle and have really built up a library. You might have to go to a library or a coffee shop to get away for a little while and just have some quiet time that is just for yourself. Hopefully you find some of that time for yourself.

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TEDYBEAR2838 1/24/2012 8:52PM

    Yea, I'm thinking volunteering also? Might think about it, if that's an option?

Sometimes ya just got to make a conscious decision, one day at a time
to stop the insanity and stop sabataging your health

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DYNAMICDEB53 1/24/2012 6:12PM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon Bonnie I so wish I could tell you something to help. I know that exercising for me, but you are doing that. I feel so sad for all that you are dealing with, it is so much more than anyone should. I know you have a big heart.
I do care. Please dont give up on yourself. There must be something. This is a great place and know you will hear some things and hope that will help.
Hugs
Deb

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RURAL3 1/24/2012 6:05PM

    Is there a school or women's shelter or crisis center or church or something you can volunteer at? I am sure they would welcome your valuable time. It would be helping others and help relieve your stress too.

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SHELLEY81 1/24/2012 4:49PM

    Ah man! You have so much to stress about and working out is better than eating, however, you don't want to over do the workouts so that body run downs.. I love the idea of joining a quilting group.. Also, I love bejeweled blitz.. totally helps me space out, almost meditative when I play.. I am pretty sure research has shown that this game does help to relieve stress... Writing and talking is also really helpful and that's what you did here! Best wishes..

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MARYHOLMAN 1/24/2012 1:57PM

    You need to find a healthier way to deal with all that stress. This time last year my stress level was so high that I could not breathe.
I took up meditation-something always recommended on the list of stress reducers.
You can find all kinds of info on the web and even video on You Tube that will teach you how to do it. Sparks also has info on meditation.
....and remember, if it isn't in the house you can't eat it!

Good Luck!

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FITAT50 1/24/2012 1:36PM

    Bonnie, emoticon you are dealing with so much more than most people have to deal with. I agree with everyone else here, if working out help to relive some of that stress than go for it. Just be aware of your body and know when it needs the rest.

You say you crochet and quilt, what about finding a group that meets weekly. That way you can get out of the house and do something you love to do and see the results.

Please know we are here for you, this is where you can come and scream anytime.
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CHOCOHOLIC2276 1/24/2012 1:07PM

    You have been dealing with a lot. Working out is better than stuffing your face. Are there any other outlets you can use? A friend you can confide in? Pray on it. Write in a journal? Make sure you have it in a locked and secured location. These are your private thoughts and if you need to get them out, get them out. No one else needs to see them.

emoticon this too shall pass

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NO_SNOW_BODY 1/24/2012 12:37PM

    I am leaving now for a walk/ scream break. I hope I am too tired and cold when i finish to feel anything more today LOL

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MICHIGANLORI 1/24/2012 12:28PM

    If it is working for you keep it up. I've been handling stress the same way by hitting the gym. There are some evenings that I would like to stay there all night. If it is doable try adding a yoga class into your exercise routine. Yoga really clears my head.

Good luck with your migraine relief. My daughter suffers from them.

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FLYER99 1/24/2012 11:59AM

    Some of the methods I use for stress relief at home (and I have lots of stress) are: distracting myself by playing an online game at Pogo.com and chatting with others there, doing a 20 minute meditation (I have lots downloaded for free on my iPod), doing a crossword or word search puzzle, listening to calming music (not hard rap or anything like that), reading another chapter or two in a book I have just started. I definitely stay away from most TV programs, especially depressing programs like the news. But I do enjoy listening to some favourite radio shows. Hope these ideas help in some way! Good luck!

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BAKER1009 1/24/2012 11:47AM

    I agree with the others, if you are not hurting yourself physically, then go for it. Working out is way better than staying at home and stuffing your face.
I'm a say at home mom, and when I stress, I find myself heading to the kitchen. I wish I worked out more instead.
I hope things ease up for you soon. Hang in there.

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LARIESHA 1/24/2012 11:40AM

    emoticon to you Bonnie. If working out helps you relief stress then go for it. emoticon

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THEMRSH 1/24/2012 11:34AM

    emoticon Bonnie, I really hope my email didn't upset you. I don't want you to change a thing. You knowing your body is what is important and if those minutes over the 4 days felt good to you and you aren't injuring your body then by all means go for it!

I get what you mean about stress relief. I am home with my kids all day everyday. So while I was scared this weekend at the idea of taking 2 classes back to back for 2 hours of fitness once it was over I realized that I released everything in those 2 classes. It was about me and no one to need me in those minutes but me and it was a great feeling.

It sounds like you have way more on your plate in terms of stress than anyone should have to deal with. I think you are an amazing woman to care so much for all of the people around you.

Keep doing what makes you feel good!

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