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Monday, January 23, 2012

emoticonGood morning everyone! I just wanted to pass along my whereabouts lately as I haven't been as active here as I always love to be. There have been times over the past few days when I'm not even sure where I am! emoticon

One thing I do know is that I've been emoticon sleeping over at my parents' home lately. I've been going there later in the afternoon and overnight, and then up and at 'em emoticon early to come back home to check on my Spark buds and take care of business at the homefront.

The reasoning behind my sleepovers and more is that, you know when you get that feeling emoticon that something just doesn't feel right? For some reason, and one that scares Mom and me, is that my Dad seems to more down emoticon and saying that he's not hungry and other things that gives us that uneasy feeling as to what is going on. He's 86 and always loved being sooooo active for all of his life, but after a back surgery, mild heart attack, stroke and now Parkinsons, he is totally limited as to mobility and it's like he has lost his spark and is giving up.

But, he tends to forget that I got my determination and stubbornness from him and I'm not ready to let him keep going down that road. I can still bring on a smile and laugh -- and that may be the best therapy for him right now. Action, movement and more! We're doing it! emoticon

Last evening I brought my two emoticon emoticon dogs along to romp around with their emoticondog -- and Dad loves to watch them all run around the living room. One "tail" is chasing another, sniffing on this one, sniffing on that one, eating out of the other one's bowl and more -- but they all get along great and they're such loyal and loved companions -- and definitely know how to add activity to a room! Pet this one, pet that one and keep Dad smiling even if we're not sure which dog we're petting after awhile!

And, thanks to Sparks, Mom and I have been "creating" healthy meals! She always makes healthy meals, but we're having fun "creating" new ones! emoticon A little eggplant in this, or how about a little jicama in that one -- you just never know what we'll come up with! We've done a veggie pizza emoticonand now I think we're going to move into the emoticonsoup mode. Hmmm....leftover ham, low-fat cheese, should we toss in a diced tomato? What should the base be? I'm going for more of a potato base. But, we'll see what we come up with this evening. You just never know!! We're experimenting and having fun playing in the kitchen!! Maybe that's why Dad says he hasn't been hungry lately! emoticon It's our creativity and fun at work! But, unfortunately, Mom said he has been saying that for awhile -- so back to those uneasy and worried feelings and we can't even blame them on the dinners we've been making.

Another reason I may be missing here on Sparks for a bit more is that yesterday there was a strange vehicle that drove up a section of their 1/4 mile driveway and drove directly into the woods! Huh? Who is that? And, why? There isn't a trail there, no tracks that someone else has driven in, meaning why would anyone want to drive through smaller trees to go into the woods through the deep snow and ditch? It turns out that the same vehicle and unknown occupants did the same sort of thing by my sister's home which is right next to my parents but closer to the highway (and you can't see their home as the woods are between as well). My brother-in-law was able to go to the vehicle and ask them what they were looking for and didn't get a response. He told them the land was posted as "No trespassers" and that they should leave, but they didn't move very fast? What's up with that? But eventually they left and my brother-in-law noted there was no license on their vehicle, which really brought up the questions! So, he called the police and they came to check out the tracks, etc., where the vehicle entered on one side of the woods (by my sister) and then the other side (my parents' driveway) and couldn't see anything unusual, but they're going to keep an eye on the area as there have been break-ins, vandalism, etc., and this is somewhat in a rural and quiet area. So, by me going up and down the driveway every day with fresh tracks, these unknown people can see there is activity going on at this home and up at the house on top of the hill, as Mom doesn't drive that often and not in deep snow, so the house can look vacant from the main road if there aren't any tracks coming in or out. But, I'm plowing through and making fresh tracks at different times of the day and night, so, sorry, for those that are trying to find out if anyone lives there or if you know that there are two elderly people living there on their own. It's just sad when a person has to think like this or distrust other's actions -- but nowadays, unfortunately, you need to at times and better safe than sorry! And, if anyone wants to make my parents worry, get ready....I may only be 115 pounds--but emoticonlet me at 'em! More so, where's the phone and I'll handle this situation by calling for help. The cars and other buildings are locked and secure, so we've done what we can and let's hope this is a one-time occurrence.

So, to sum is all up, I've been spending my emoticondays and emoticonnights between two homes and it's a good thing we don't live too far apart with the bad weather we've been having! I'm adding more activity and fun at my parents' home and also to share a little extra care to the caregiver (Mom) who has been feeling like she doesn't how long she can handle it all. She's a emoticon toughie -- but even toughies need to take care of themselves and their well-being, and I'm there to make sure she does! Create our fun meals, play cards to keep the minds active, talk out our feelings about things in our lives which otherwise we feel we aren't always able to do with others in our lives. Just let it out and feel better afterwards -- what great therapy for the both of us!

So, you can see that I've been juggling my emoticon hours and days, being here, there or on the road emoticon in-between.

Same with being on-line! emoticon while at home but no Internet access emoticon while at my parents.

But, no matter what, remember to:
Stay active emoticon
Keep the smiles coming emoticon
Share the love emoticon
Don't give up emoticon and
Make each day count! emoticon

emoticon everyone and make your day happen in a super great and safe way! emoticon
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  • DEE107
    I am so so sorry to hear about your dad adding him to my prayer list .. as I was reading your blog it reminds me of my mom praying for you and your family hugs
    2072 days ago
  • SCOOTER4263
    As someone who lives alone pretty far out in the country, I can understand what you mean about the strange car on the driveway. Good call, alerting the local police. I move vehicles around all the time and make sure I bring in my mail and papers promptly - the more activity perceived, the less likely you are to be seen as "easy mark." I believe that a "real" crook could always get in if they really wanted to, but since I don't have anything worth taking, it's a whole lot more likely to be vandals or "kids", and those are the ones that you need to guard against.

    For what it's worth, years ago I used to close the restaurant at night and walk to my car with the night deposit box under my arm. I always called the police for an escort. They told me time and again that it was so much easier for them to send someone over to walk me to my car than it would be to figure out who mugged me. I know people are often concerned with bothering the police for what they fear is a trivial concern. Believe me, they'd rather you "bothered" them - it's what they do.
    2082 days ago
    2084 days ago
    just wanted to tell you that I think it is GREAT how you are taking care of your parents. Some people just take them for granted. I wanted to send you a bunch of energy but you seem to have plenty of your own and that is awesome!!!
    You're in my prayers! emoticon
    2087 days ago
    I'm glad you're able to support your mom and dad through a tough time. What is up with that strange car? Hope it doesn't amount to anything. All the best to you and your family.
    2092 days ago
    I am so glad you are spending more time with your parents.... they definately need you support right now .
    I know what you and your mum are going through, as I also am going through the same thing with my DH.
    I am glad you reported the car to the Police .. its apparent they are up to no good!!.
    Stay strong !!

    Hugs Susie emoticon emoticon emoticon
    2093 days ago

    Comment edited on: 1/25/2012 12:49:19 PM
    emoticon and emoticon my friend. Keep the police informed of any activity. That is their job and will appreciate the help.
    2093 days ago
    I can relate....I am in a caregiving position with my parents who are 85. It is so hard watching them age and become feeble.....and is also a lot of responsibility for us caregivers. I worry all the time that my parents will simply give up. Praying that your dad continues to fight the good fight and that his health improves. I'm so glad that he enjoys the dogs.
    So happy to hear your mom seems to be doing so well and that you are enjoying some time with her....
    Praying that your family remains safe!
    2093 days ago
    As someone with an aging parent with health issues who lives in an area where there is more and more crime, I understand completely what you're going through and where you're coming from. You're such a trooper and a great daughter. Remember to take care of yourself through all this. I'm saying prayers for all of you.
    2094 days ago
    I pray everyone stays safe and that your Father starts eating again. emoticon
    2094 days ago
    2094 days ago
    Wow! that sure does sound scarey... Hopefully nothing happens....Glad you are available to spend time with your mom and cheer up your dad...

    So, as bad as it was for me last spring when I was in that horrid job situation where I finally left on stress. That black-wrapped pkg. was actually what made me available to be able to live here with my dd and help them and us financially and be here to enjoy every day of Mya's life too...

    Keep safe and enjoy the time you have with your parents...
    God Bless. emoticon
    2094 days ago
    Lots of things going on with you. Goodness, that is scary about the car.
    Hope your dad gets to feeling better. I have slept most of the day myself and although I woke up from a several hour sleep under 3 hours ago I am ready to go to bed again.
    Take care of yourself. Sounds like you and your mom are having fun.
    2094 days ago
    Goodness I didn't realize that all that stuff was going on with you. Be careful with the odd vehicle...stay safe!!! i'm praying that your daddy gets his "umph" back soon. You know that you are in my prayers too. Don't worry about the teams...we LOVE you & the teams will be fine!

    2094 days ago
  • L*I*T*A*
    sending positive thoughts and prayers for you and yours....
    blessings and hugs...........lita

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    2095 days ago
    emoticon Saying prayers that your daddy will perk up and be more like himself. Also praying that your family and homes will be safe.
    2095 days ago
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