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How do I make SPARK Friends?

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

I have been spending some time online and Sparking. I have visited so many pages and teams and I ask: how do I make friends online and through Spark?

You see, I think that I need that to be more motivated. I want to step outside of the box and be able to meet others to go for walks and work out with me. Or to just talk to when I feel unmotivated or need to vent. I don't have an outlet of ANYONE who understands what I'm going through in my life. A complete transformation of my lifestyle isn't an easy feat....

So fellow Sparkers; what am I doing wrong that I'm not making the online friendships that you all have.

PS: Thanks so much to those who commented on my "fall" yesterday. I was pretty swollen and bruised and hurt so I didn't take that second walk, however, I'm going to get back out there and give it another shot! Thanks for the kind words and motivation.
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

ABBEH23 1/19/2012 8:38PM

    Me! Me! Me!!!!

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KJDOESLIFE 1/19/2012 1:44PM

    I agree with others - commenting on people's blog and sending friend requests! Have a good day!

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CHRISTINA791 1/19/2012 12:27PM

    Here's another one emoticon

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ROCKINMOM77 1/19/2012 12:17PM

    Just like this emoticon

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MSPRIS3 1/19/2012 12:12PM

    Just "friend" people, that's what I did, eventually, i got "friended" back.

Commenting on other peoples blogs helps too

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PINKBEANBOO 1/19/2012 12:02PM

    I guess you found out - just ask!

I found your blog by reading on my activity feed that HORNETWIFE left a comment here.
And that's how I became friends with her not too long ago- she posted the same type of blog that you did & I saw one of my Sprarkfriends had left a comment on it so I went to check it out.

The next step would be to keep active. Blog & leave comments on your friends' blogs.
Also, when you find someone who you like or is motivating to you - friend them!
Are you active on the threads on your teams? Most teams have a daily check in or chat type thread. Just jump in - ask questions, comment on what someone else said, or just talk about your day. After awhile you'll get familiar with people.
Some of my teams I don't feel a "connection" with but there are a couple that I really feel like I belong.

I've never met another Sparker in real life, but I have several friends that I care as much about as I do my face to face friends.

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SARAHJ19 1/19/2012 11:42AM

    Hi new spark friend! So glad you found spark! I am here for you if you need anything!
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RUBY_TUESDAY21 1/19/2012 11:35AM

    It took me a while to find friends on here, too. It's a big community and easy to feel like you get lost in the shuffle at first, but looks like you're off to a good start, judging from the response to your blog so far. :)

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JSPIN74 1/19/2012 11:15AM

    Hey New Friend :)


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LEAELLEN07 1/19/2012 11:13AM

    Hi Friend!!
I had the same problem when I first started. I'm shy in person and can be shy on Spark.
The easiest way to make Spark friends is to be one.
Feel free to swing by and drop me a line if you ever need someone to talk to!

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SKINNYPOWELL1 1/19/2012 11:13AM

    Ask and you shall receive. We are all on this journey together, would be happy to help you along the way. emoticon

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LORI-K 1/19/2012 11:08AM

    HI!! emoticon
I wrote a blog similar to this several months ago. I had been on Spark for 2 years and only had 2 friends. Lo and Behold, I got an overwhelming response from a BUNCH of amazing, supportive people who I am now proud to have as FRIENDS! It has made such a huge difference in my Sparkworld. All I had to do was ask.
So, you have done the right thing here. Please count on me as a new Sparkfriend!!

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KKINNEA 1/19/2012 11:02AM

    You've started a chain reaction now - I'm guessing you'll end up with lots of friends and motivation!!

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SCHWINNER! 1/19/2012 7:19AM

    Basically, reach out! When you run into someone who inspires you, or that you share goals with, or you identify with, send them a message! Post on their page, send a goodie. Anything - but you have to make the effort to make friendships! Like JILLYBEAN said, you call out, like in this blog, and people will respond. The key is just to put it out there and take the first step :)

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HAWAIIANMAMMA 1/19/2012 12:36AM

    We are all here to support you! If you ever feel like giving up or crying or yelling at the world, come here. You can rant and rave and complain all you want and we will offer all the support and encouragement we can. You are NOT alone, okay? I'm on here daily, so feel free to hit me up any time. Feel better, hun!

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SMILINGTREE 1/18/2012 11:37PM

    I used to (and still do sometimes) read random blog posts (you can find them under the community tab). Whenever I saw someone who made me laugh, seemed to have similar struggles, whose writing style I admired, or seemed like they needed some support, I left a comment and added them as a friend so I would be notified when they updated their statuses or wrote new posts. It's a slow way to make friends, but it worked. Also, when you read blog posts it really feels like you get to know people - or I do, anyway.

I'm addiing you now, and wish you luck in finding your spot in this busy community. Sometimes, it is so busy it's easy to feel lost or left out. Once you do have a group you regularly talk to, it is so much better!

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JILLYBEAN25 1/18/2012 10:17PM

    You call out! This blog is your call for support and friendship. I did the exact same thing a few months ago. I felt lonely, lost and isolated here on Spark, and I've been here a few years now. So, this is your first step. You've stated your needs for everyone to see and now we'll respond in kind. :-) I'm adding you as a friend! emoticon

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KSANDIEGO 1/18/2012 6:05PM

    Go to the SparkTeams under Community tab then search for a Team that fits with your interests, age, or your location - there's bound to be a Spark Team that meets one or more of those criteria. Then within the Team Page Message Board, look for the "introduce yourself" and click on that - then make a posting that you want to get involved, tell folks about yourself, and give them a reason to click on you to see who you are. Speak Up - people will hear you. You have to do some work by clicking on some folks in those pages, checking out their pages, making a comment on their pages, and seeing if they respond - I bet they will! Be BOLD and BEAUTIFUL and go out and find some spark friends that meet all your needs, just tell 'em what you want....and have fun doing it!

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HUNGRYWOMAN2 1/18/2012 1:20PM

    In my opinion, one of the best ways to make Spark friends, is when you feel a special connection with an individual either from something you have read, or a response they have given to you add them to your page. On the left hand corner of your spark page there is a tab add as a friend. It will go to them, and they will respond as they are able.
We are all a community, you are welcome to visit my page anytime.
I wish you the best on this twisted path we have chosen-and success as you follow your chosen life goals. emoticon emoticon

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CATHYINLA 1/18/2012 11:35AM

    If your interest is in SparkFriends near you then use the finder portion on your Sparkpage to find those near you. The local area teams are a good way as well. Simply read some the dialogue, some blogs etc. and then select some SparkFriends and the hit that ADD as SPARKFRIEND button on their SparkPage. If you are like me some will stay friends and some you'll find don't have similar interests. Some will join the site and then leave, but you'll eventually have a few friends that support and encourage you (and vice versa) along the way. It took me a couple of months to find about 3-4 friends on the site (none live near me as I wasn't looking for that) who have similar interests and issues.

Take the first step. You really can't go wrong.


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ALYSSAR2012 1/18/2012 3:07AM

    I just joined a few days ago, so I don't have any sparkfriends...
When you join, don't they put you in a sparkgroup with people from your area? I think you should friend those people, encourage them, comment on their blogs, and become active in that group. That way you'll be able to have people close by to go out and exercise with and whatnot. But of course, you should still make friends in other areas of as well, for extra motivation and support.

Hope your pain has significantly decreased, good luck making some new friends!

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JULIEANNCAN 1/18/2012 2:53AM

    Hi! I saw your blog and thought I'd respond. It took some time for me, but I have found Sparkfriends through teams or the discussion boards. I saw your blog because we are on one of the same Spark teams. So, welcome, and you can consider me one of your new Sparkfriends! emoticon emoticon

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