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    MOMONTHERUN1   27,103
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Lost weight, great. Now quit preaching about it!!!

Monday, January 16, 2012

I am really sick and tired of hearing some of the comments that my mother makes about overweight and obese people. I was an overweight teen and adult and I really take offense to her comments, but I know if I say something all hell will break loose. Through hard work and changing my eating habits I have gone from the heaviest member of the family, at one point in my life, to being the thinnest at 152 pounds. Yes, I have slipped up and gained approx. 10 pounds back, but I am consistent with my exercise and my healthy eating.

Anyway, my mom has recently lost 50 pounds. She lost it by cutting out sugar and processed foods. Good for her!! Unfortunately, she makes snide comments about any obese/overweight person that she happens to see. If we are in a restaurant she'll say something like, "Look at that. How can he eat that when he is so big?" or she might comment on the outfit that a person has on. My brother is obese and she'll tell him, "You really need to eat healthier and do something about your appearance." I am not going to tolerate it anymore and I have told her that she is the pot calling the kettle black.

My sister has also been "attacked" by my mom's tongue and she is sick of it too. I am glad that my mom has taken off this weight, but quit preaching about it and realize that what might work for you may not work for everyone else. I am tired of hearing about sugar this and sugar that...blah, blah, blah. I like my sweets!! I am not totally cutting them out of my diet so quit preaching!!!!

There, I feel better now.


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
MARLIMOO 2/1/2012 11:57AM

    She forgets that she too had the battle. SHe should or you would think be more sympathetic. Its hard for all of us. No matter what the amount of the battle. Its a lifestyle change and until we all accept it-never easy. God bless with your journey sister!

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BEACHTUDE 1/24/2012 9:11AM

    Everyone is on their own journey... It's tough to change people, but you can say that you don't want to hear the negativity. Stay positive yourself!!! Keep up the good job! emoticon

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FANGFACEKITTY 1/20/2012 7:19AM

    I'm sorry that your mom is not supporting you and other family members. Our moms should be the one person in the world we can 100% count on to stand behind and beside us. I'm not attacking your mom but it does sound like she may have some other emotional problems that are causing her to lash out like that. Perhaps as a way to make her feel better about herself?

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CLWALDRO 1/17/2012 6:41PM

    I am sorry your mom is not more supportive of what you have accomplished.
I am also sad that for what she says about others. I hope at some point she will realize that what she says hurts the entire family unity.
On a lighter point I will be one of the first to cheer you on as you continue your journey emoticon

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LISAINMS 1/17/2012 1:35PM

    Have you ever known a person that quit smoking and then becomes the worst critic of all smokers? It's no different. But it's sad that she has to use her success to point out the same flaws in others. Funny how quickly we forget that we used to be that fat person too. Maybe you could talk to her about using her success to be a positive influence on the other family members instead of lording it over them.

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KKINNEA 1/17/2012 12:56PM

    Totally agree with you - people need to remember it isn't easy for everyone and that it's none of our business unless someone asks us to help!

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BLACKROSE_222 1/17/2012 11:17AM

    Some people go straight into this mind set. It is quite sad actually, because they are hurting much more than they are helping. All you can do is take care of yourself - if you have brought these feelings to her before, than maybe you need to take a step back from her behavior. I'm so sorry, honey. HUGS.

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RHONDALYN10 1/17/2012 9:12AM

    At the end of the day try to remember she is the only Mom you will me, I have to tell myself this A LOT! My Mom is a pot calling the kettle black person all the time. I have told her and have told her that people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones. She doesn't get it and never will. It is embarrassing as I know my Mom doesn't talk quietly when she is talking about others.
Best wishes - keep on doing what you are doing - you ARE a SUCCESS!

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SUSIQZER 1/17/2012 8:31AM

    Oh, that'll drive you batty!

It's great that your siblings are all on board, so you can present a united front when she goes on the attack!

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GOOSIEMOON 1/17/2012 8:21AM

    It's good that you can vent here at SP. We're always here to listen!

I know just how you feel. It's always easier for some folks to cut others down rather than being the best they can be. To me, that always smacks of low self-esteem.

I avoid these people like the plague, even if they are interesting or funny. I just can't take the heaps of negativity.

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OOLALA53 1/17/2012 8:06AM

    Sounds like you and your siblings need to be a united force. Doesn't your mom remember how no one could tell her to lose weight before she was ready? emoticon

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KJDOESLIFE 1/17/2012 7:58AM

    It is funny how people who've never talked about weight, diet or exercise get on their high horse when they start. (I know a few of those people at work!) It'll hopefully pass, but a gentle reminder that compassion and understanding is better than ridicule might be in order. :) Good luck!

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YINETTV 1/16/2012 11:03PM

    Look i know my family is the same way except they don't change their habits they simply seem to enjoy being negative about other people and their struggles. Besides losing weight is about being healthy, making one feel more confident is just an added bonus. I agree I would/do the same, because most time people get so used to things that they don't even realize they are doing it. Keep up the hard work.

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PERPETUALLYFAT 1/16/2012 11:02PM

  My sister is the same.She is so damned annoying!!

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