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New Goal = No Scale

Monday, January 16, 2012

I have over 100 pounds to loseóI know this. This is not a mystery. Ever since I dropped dead last year, Iíve been nervous about working out. In turn, Iím now the heaviest Iíve ever beenóand Iím not happy. You can read my other blogs, where Iíve resolved to lose weight and be a brand new person, but I was doing it all wrong.

The Kinect to Fitness and Health group has a new challenge built around ideas from The Spark. Something there finally clicked with me: the tipping point. There is a magical place where everything in your life comes together; a place that is created by every facet of a healthy lifestyle. This place is called the tipping point. Losing weight happens as a result of reaching the tipping point. Well founded goals drive us to the tipping point. Losing weight is not a well-founded goal. Wanting to lose weight is what sets us up for failure and disappointment.

Here is what my new goal is: to be around for my kids and have energy to play with them. I want that youthful energyóthe kind that makes me happy and those around me happy. With that energy, I can be successful at my work, be the husband Iím meant to be, and the father my kids deserve.

My goal has nothing to do with my weight, but Iíll probably lose weight in an effort to reach my goal. Because of this, Iím not going to give much thought to the scale. Iíll step on the scale at the doctorís office, but thatís about it. I donít want to set myself up for failure, disappointment, or regret. If I eat too much, Iíll remind myself of how this may not help me reach my goal, and I wonít beat myself for the possibility of gaining a couple of pounds at the next weigh-in. My goal is health and energy.

Iím going to start doing things to help reach my goal: get more sleep, exercise more, eat better, and spend more time with my kids. If my goal was to lose weight, I wouldnít do these things. If my goal was to lose weight, I would think about ďkick-startingĒ myself and following some crazy plan. My goal is simple and the way to obtain it simpler.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:

    5 years ago my partner had a heart attack at 51. Seemingly out of the blue. He was overweight, eating too much of the bad stuff, drinking too much, smokingÖ
He survived and decided that was his tipping point. He stopped smoking and drinking, started eating the good stuff, started to work out. He's never counted a calorie in his life, but he's reading every label of every product he buys, looking for too much sodium, too much sugar, too much unhealthy fat. We're eating a huge salad full of all kinds of good veggies every day. He started hiking with me. The weight came off as a result of his lifestyle change. So yes, you're definitely on to something here. Wishing you much success.

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K1TT3N 1/20/2012 8:34AM

    I agree this is a great point . I think the numbers are getting to me also.

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HUTCHISDM 1/17/2012 1:56AM

    Excellent point Ryan. Most of us aren't REALLY losing for a number. We want to be healthier for our familes, friends. We want to feel better about ourselves. And scales are not the end all judgement for how healthy a person is, rather its how they LIVE. Go for it my friend - you have the right idea!

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ABRANNEWME2014 1/16/2012 4:24PM

    Wow Ryan never thought of it like that but you're right....another fantastic blog can do it....


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JBENTLEY98 1/16/2012 2:18PM

    Seems like a great attitude to have. I think I may copy you on that one.

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