Monday, January 16, 2012
2011 brought a big change and a valuable lesson
In May of 2011 someone I considered my best friend brought Zija to me. Zija absolutely was THE BEST addition to my life. Zija gave me my life back. You can read my testimonies at my blog site so I won't go into all of that now. I want to use this blog to focus on the lesson.
So, my 'friend' and I started a Zija business together. It's hard for me to write friend, because he no longer is my friend, and you will see why. We had a verbal agreement that we would share the profits 50/50. I would take care of the tech. stuff like building a website and a Facebook page, and I would be the 'face' of our business. We agreed to use the beginning profits to pay off the debt of getting started, once debt free we would split the profits.
I spent 3/4 of my summer building the website and setting up FB. Once that was done I moved on to advertising and setting up multiple blog sites and a personal website that was tied to our business website. I went above and beyond what my 'friend' and partner had asked of me. (Keep in mind that summers are my ony real time with my kids)
Once the business was up and running debt free with substantial money sitting there he came back and put stipulations on the original agreement. If I wanted to get paid 50% of the profits over $100 I had to do u,v,w,x,y and z. Our business has been debt free since November 2011 and I still have not seen a check, and don't expect to.
Now that is a really quick over view of how someone I considered my 'best friend' did me wrong. I was not the only one he did wrong. There was a young man with a very sick wife. The Dr.s had said 'she's dead...there's nothing we can do for her.' We gave her the Zija and her health improved, her quality of life improved. So much so that the Dr.s wanted to know what she was doing. My 'friend' told the man that 'someone' wanted to pay for his wife's Zija. The man, of course was so grateful for someone's generosity. He had been to so many Dr.s trying to help his wife...he obviously loves her greatly.
The man thought he would join our business in hopes of making some money to help with his house full of kids and wife's medical bills. At the same time that my 'friend' put stipulations on my getting paid, he also went back to the man and put stipulations on his wife's Zija getting paid for. If the man wasn't working the business (and that meant growing the business) then his wife's Zija would no longer be paid for by this 'someone'. That was NOT the original agreement! There were NO stipulations...it was a gift!
OK, I DON'T DO BUSINESS THAT WAY! YOU DON'T USE PEOPLE. YOU DON'T USE SOMEONE'S LOVE FOR A SICK LOVED ONE TO GROW YOUR BUSINESS! THAT IS JUST WRONG ON SO MANY LEVELS! So, I removed every trace of me from 'our' business and he is not allowed to use my image or testimonies.
I share Zija because I care. It has truly given me my life back ~ helped my son with school ~ helped my daughter with her hypoglycemia, so I truly believe in it. I will continue with my own Zija business...loving and caring for people because it's the right thing to do...NOT for money or a ranking / title. If my business never grows, at least I know I was an honorable person...that my word could be trusted...that my sharing was genuine concern and caring for others.
Here's how well God has my back. This 'friend' was also my Pastor. Things just weren't feeling right at church, so we quit going. I was in prayer asking God what we should do. He said to me, "separate yourself from every connection you have with ******. " So, I resigned from all the Ministry work we had been doing together, and that was when a whole other side of my 'friend' came out. Within aprox. 2 months of quiting church and resignations - I got the notice of the stipulations that I was now expected to meet if I wanted to get paid. See God knows! and we need to listen!