Who, What, When, Where and Why -- Know Thyself, and Plan Ahead
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
The idea that we will have to be diligent the rest of our lives is overwhelming. I think this makes it important that we be really clear about what we want and why we want it, so that under pressure we will remember why we're fighting for it.
We need to always be AWARE of the kinds of roadblocks, opportunities for failure, etc., that are specific to each of us. We need to be able to plan ahead, to watch for and avoid pitfalls. We also have to know, deep in our hearts, why we are WORTH THE EFFORT -- so that we don't give up in bad times. Self respect.
If we are ever to overcome our bad habits and permanently adopt the new and healthy lifestyle we all aspire to, we have to really clearly, deeply understand why we are overweight and how we got that way. This will allow us to make changes that make sense to each of us.
For me, Christmas reminded me once again, that when I let my guard down, I will overeat. Every time. I need to KNOW that, and plan for it. Work around a big meal, a night out on the town, a social event. The second half of the plan? SNAP RIGHT BACK into the healthy eating routine. Six hours off plan is far, far better than 60. Plan ahead.
KNOW your weaknesses. KNOW where you will find them. Decide in advance how you will deal with them. You like mini-quiches? Pick the best one on the plate -- not one of each. Be choosy!
Plan, plan, plan. I hate planning food more than anything, and it is a huge reason I am overweight. To me, food is a comfort, and in my busy life, that delicious flavour in my mouth was the one thing I did not want to monitor/measure and control. And look where that has gotten me. I am very, very fortunate that I do not yet have diabetes. That I can still walk significant distances (far more slowly than in the past, however).
I need to SUCK IT UP and own the fact that what comforts me is a very unhealthy practice. I need to ask myself what else there is that brings me joy and satisfaction (and there are lots of things. My life is rich). I need to GET that food cannot be a mindless source of comfort. Mine is a harmful practice. And I need to live my life from that base of knowledge.
Who are you, and why are you special? (Detailed list, please:))
What are the behaviours and responses that have made you overweight?
When are you most vulnerable? Be aware.
Where are your downfalls? Be aware.
Why do you eat other than for fuel? Be aware.
KNOW these things, plan ahead, and you will OWN your future!
Member Comments About This Blog Post
Great blog and very thought provoking. I know that I have totally changed the way I eat and eat a lot less than I did. Since everything has been happening, we only eat 2 meals most days-probably not good but niether of us are hungry so not pushing things at this point.
I know I will forever be on guard and will never be tiny, but I want to be healthy!
Way to analyze it all and help us all realize things.
1921 days ago
Great advice. It's one of the things I've learned to do this past year. So when I go off reservation at least I am conscious of the decision and consequences...and how to get back on track and why I made that choice to begin with.
1922 days ago
Great thoughts!! I'm not big on planning meals ahead etc. as I have been blaimming that flaw on how fast our plans change and we are not at home to eat what I've taken out of the freezer or made in advance etc. I hate to waste food (another downfall).
Planning ahead would also give me something to look forward to when I get the munchies.
Ok, I'm going to check out some of Chef Megs recipes and make sure I have the ingredients in the house for every dinner starting today!!
1922 days ago
Wonderful blog, Deirdre~ I know being aware is something I'd forgotten, & relearning it has been a challenge...mostly at dinner parties,
& we tend to do a lot of socializing!
Snacking at night is my other downfall~ & I have to be aware to choose protein/fiber rich foods~
not pretzels & salty snacks.
1924 days ago
Love this post! I'm a stress eater and have yet to figure out how to get around it. Christmas was my downfall this year too. But I plan to keep my eye on the prize this year. I've just GOT to! Thanks for sharing your insight...it was inspirational.
1926 days ago
Great post! My biggest downfall is exercise I absolutely hate it! This time around (started 2 wks ago this my 3rd wk.) I want to change that thought pattern. It's a bit difficult because I have degenerative arthritis and many days I have trouble moving. Today is raining and it makes for bad joints, but I did vacuume & clean so far so good.
Enjoyed reading your post I will add you.
1926 days ago
Your blog sure did make me realize something I hadnt before. I plan and its the way it needs to be for me but as Cannie50 said I am a "rebellious eater" There seems to be so many areas to work on its overwhelming sometimes. Planning helps and I love the "pick the best looking" be choosy.
Another thing that dawned on me was...I eat more when alone or feeling alone not so sure why that is but I will give it more thought.
I am worth being all I want to be because I deserve to be happy about choices and actions I do...each time...not ashamed after doing them
1928 days ago
Planning ahead of time even for what I will eat today, much less what I will shop for and what I will make this week, has been my number one hurdle to get over. I have it in my mind to print out my weekly reports and then plan a month ahead of time. Soon, I'm going to do it soon. Maybe this weekend. (Probably not).
1930 days ago
Brilliant stuff Diedre, was with a person earlier this week and attempted to cover what you have put so succinctly and mirrors my own thinking.
Hoping you are beginning to create the little changes we are all attempting. I actually began writing my food part of my journal before I have eaten which is a first - even though I recommend doing this....
That's the power of staying focused - so thanks for the ongoing support. .+mark
1930 days ago
I don't like to plan either - especially meals. I like spontaneity and off-the-cuff meals, activities...It is this very impulsiveness that gets me in trouble with my fitness goals.
THANK you so much for reminding me that planning is a necessary evil.
Hope you're doing & best wishes for this coming year!
1931 days ago
Great blog, Deirdre! It reminds me of a blog written by the author of Protein Power who, along with his wife, also discovered that "no matter how far down the road you are, you're always the same distance from the ditch."
The short answer (that I gave my mother) is: once you wreck your metabolism, you must get and remain vigilant for life to lose and maintain weight. We have a lot of company in this category because the American diet has wrecked a lot of metabolisms.
On another subject, the storm yesterday was awesome! It came at us from the west directly across the lake toward our humble abode creating interesting cloud formations, white caps on the lake and a sense of impending doom that was never realized as the sun came out later. Very cool, though, for those of us who like watching storms.
1931 days ago
Gosh, such thought provoking stuff deirdre! I'm going to have to give some thought to the who am I part of this, and the why I am so special - which says a lot in itself...
I am an emotional overeater. I eat to celebrate good things, and I eat to cope with bad things, which doesn't leave a lot of scope for the in between bits of my life. But I don't binge eat, and I'm not a great take away food eater. I am at my most vulnerable when I am tired and I want food quickly - then I tend to make poor decisions, and that will be because I haven't planned ahead. My downfalls are bread (and what I put on it), sweet things, and just generally too large portions. Being aware - this will be my new mantra. Thanks Deirdre, some very helpful advice.
1932 days ago
One of the main reasons I became obese, and remain 20some lbs overweight, is that I am a rebellious eater. I rebel against planning, I rebel against everyone needing something from me, I rebel against busyness and chores and frustrations. It is such a ridiculous response, to stuff myself full of food I don't need, as my way of saying "enough!" to the demands of daily life (ah, the irony - taking in too much, to say enough). I agree that I deserve care and respect and that is why, when I have overeaten, I feel such disappointment with myself. Good, thought provoking blog, Deirdre. I am so glad you are facing facts now, before the diabetes diagnoses, because it is much easier to prevent than confront. That is a ghastly illness, as we all know, and it takes such a toll.
1932 days ago
Thanks for this wonderful blog. It gives us much to think about. I definitely do so much better when I plan all my meals and snacks for each day in advance. Otherwise, I end up munching on those comfort foods, especially at work where someone is always bringing in snacks or candy everyone.
1932 days ago
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