Sunday, January 01, 2012
A couple of weeks ago, my friend and I had a garage sale. (Much better weather for it in Florida than in the summer). He thought I was pricing stuff too high, my response was" I can always take less". I had several items that were brand-new never used, and I thought I should be able to get at least 40-50% of the price I paid for them.
Well, to make a long story short, I let some things go for way less than I thought I would. I was very concerned about the 'value' of some of those things. It finally dawned on me that the actual value, to me, was : zip, nada, nothing; because I didn't want them! So, I got rid of a lot of things that were just in my way, made a little money, and made space in my friends garage. The garage sale became a spring board to some other positive things, however. I decided that a local organization that helps victims of domestic violence should get the garage sale leftovers for their thrift shop. They were also asking for donations of 'new ' things, for Christmas presents, and I discovered a lot of new things that, again, had been hanging in my closet waiting for me to get thinner, or had been stuffed in the back of the closet, waiting for whenever I might get around to needing them. But I realized that for someone who may have left their home with nothing but their children and the clothes on their backs, they might be something wonderful!
They say that it's a good thing to get rid of stuff, sometimes, to make room for something new to come into your life. This brings me to the subject of the intangible, or emotional 'stuff' in our lives. For instance, my mother-in-law, who was a wonderful woman in general, didn't speak to her brother for years and years, because when he got divorced, his ex kept the house, and he left 'family stuff' in the house, like pieces of furniture kind of stuff. To my knowledge, that rift was never healed. She gave up most of an adults lifetime's worth of a relationship with her brother, because of 'stuff'. I find that really truly sad.
So, do you have a relationship on the skids because of 'stuff'? Let go of whatever he said/she said, just let it go. If they meant to hurt you with it when they said it, rest assured they've probably forgotten it a long time ago; and if they are that kind of person, they would be delighted to find out they are still hurting you with it. Just let it go, forgive them. Maybe they didn't mean to hurt you, but you've been suffering over a chance remark forever. Just get rid of this 'stuff'. Forgive them, and move on! Allow something wonderful to come into your life to replace festering hurt. You deserve better! Don't let stuff control your life.