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A brand new year is emerging..what shall we do with it?

Saturday, December 31, 2011

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I'm not a big Facebook person...usually the hubs is more active on it than I am...but I do use it to stay in touch with our beloved son Josh's many friends. The things I write on it are meant to encourage and support them in the same loving manner that Josh always did.

When it came to a friend...Josh was the best. He would listen on the phone for hours to his friends always trying to offer them advise...or help them with their problems. He constantly made them laugh and he was a big jokester never afraid to poke fun at himself if it entertained the masses. He had over 400 kids that came to his memorial...imagine that..and sadly...when Josh was here...he just couldn't see how loved and adored he really was.

I wrote a little something on Facebook tonight because the new year is just about to tiptoe in and I always want to acknowledge that it's a time to start afresh.

I wrote...

A brand new year is emerging...what shall we do with it?

I say...love each other in the best way you know how. Love the ones who have departed this earth plane and left you a different and hopefully better person because of valuable lessons they shared with you during their earth journey. emoticon

Remember that their departure is a constant reminder that life can be short, and bittersweet, and you can't take one minute for granted because it can vanish or change in a moment. Do you have a special goal this year...make it happen..it's the year of the Dragon...anything is possible!

Love the one's in the here and now..especially the one's who make you a special kind of crazy because they have lessons to teach you about yourself as well. Easy people are boring...complicated people...are...well..interesti

Cherish the here and now, don't worry about the future, or weep over the past. Gather your precious life force and use your own unique personality and talents freely...they were given to you for a purpose and the world is waiting.

Yep...the world..and our precious Josh are patiently waiting for you to spread your wings in 2012...and FLY! I love you Joshua Gavin...you know I always will!

You ARE my reason for 2012...you are the one that whispers..."don't give up on yourself momma and DON'T give up on me!

I am yearning to hug you my beautiful son when we meet again further down the river...I hope to hear you say..."so mom..thank you for loving my friends, thank you for caring about them and doing what you could do to help them along their path...you did me proud mom...you did us BOTH proud!

Goodbye 2011..I'm getting stronger..hello 2012..I'm getting stronger..I still miss you darling Josh..every moment of every day..but this year..it's the year of the dragon and ANYTHING is possible..oh yes..you KNOW it is!

A youtube that really touched me is Ben Breedlove and his notecards with Josh's all time favorite song in the background of Mad World...Ben died at the tender age of 18 of a heart deformity..he made many videos on youtube sharing his life and his lessons. I hope he and Josh have met by now...I'm sure they have.

Take a look at his work..it will make you smile...be sure you get the right music...Josh would insist on the Mad World song version.

Here's what I've learned and I'm here to share with you...and Ben and Josh will surely second me...life is love, love is all there really is...because if there's ANY lesson we really need to learn...it's that LOVE is all there really ever was...love is the only thing you can really hang onto...forever.

2012...bring it! :-))
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    When I read your birthday blog, I was thinking how proud Josh would be of mom and dad on the Earthly plane, enjoying the beauty in graced aging. Collecting those rings of wisdom, like trees. I do believe he already knows. You are an angel among us, and I have no doubt your Light will be carried forward by some of Josh's friends through your Facebook support. It takes so little to provide the breeze that carries another forward in confidence that they are not alone. So glad I signed on. It's been weeks. I'll be back when I can again. You are in my heart, dear woman. Hugs, Sue
    2111 days ago
    Ben's youtube videos are very inspiring. I can easily imagine Ben and Josh being great friends now.

    May 2012 be a wonderful year for you!
    2116 days ago
  • VICIOUS421
    I don't think we ever stop missing those who have gone on, we just have to learn to live with them not being here with us physically. I believe the ones who have gone on that I love watch over me. I believe that they do communicate in their own ways be it through dreams, through a touch when no one is there and through a sudden feeling of being loved like a hug on the inside. To this day I still will hear my dad's voice in my head when I am questioning in my mind what to do in a situation where I would of asked his advice and I usually heed his advice in my head.
    So I believe your Josh is still with you and watching over you from where he is and I know he loves you very much and appreciates you staying in touch with his friends and everything else you do.
    I didn't know this was the year of the Dragon!!!!! That is awesome!!!!! This is going to be our year!!!!!
    2118 days ago
    It is a New Year and I LOVE new beginnings... anything and everything just seems possible. Thanks for sharing and you and Don are in my thoughts and prayers. Hugs, Rhonda
    2118 days ago
    This blog literally brought me to tears and warmed my heart. I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm sure he looking down at you with a big smile on his face seeing you do what you're doing and how inspiring and encouraging you are to others, especially, to his friends.

    Although, he can't be with you right now, there will come a day where you will be reunited with him and until then, you have someone looking out for you from the stars above.

    Thanks for sharing something so personal with us and inspiring us to be all that we can be in the year of the Dragon!


    2118 days ago
    I saw some of Ben's videos that were shared by friends on FB. Didn't know, however, that he was ill until I saw in the Yahoo news feed that he had passed away on Christmas. How sad that such beautiful young people as Ben and your Josh were taken so early...and yet, perhaps that is what is inspiring and what they were sent to this earth to accomplish, that is, inspiring others.

    I'm looking forward to making 2012 better than 2011, and 2011 was pretty awesome. Looking forward to traveling along with you and our Sparkfriends as we accomplish our goals.
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    This sweet and loving blog has reminded me so well that I must love the ones I am with, and learn from those I have loved. I only have the moment, but I must live them well and proud for the future. Thank you for sharing who you are and want to be!
    2119 days ago
  • SUNNY332
    We love each other because He loved us first.

    God Bless you in this wonderful new year before us.

    So wonderful that Josh has a new friend. God is good all of the time.

    Hugs, Sunny
    2119 days ago
    You have a wonderful way with words and are right on target as usual. Love is all there really is. emoticon and Happy New Year to you sweet lady!
    2119 days ago
    Love is what truly matters.

    Beautiful blog and the love you have for your son blesses me every time you share it.

    2119 days ago
  • DS9KIE
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    2119 days ago
    emoticon blog! I know you yearn to touch and talk to Josh all the time. He is always with you and cheering you on. I know that he is proud of you and all of your accomplishments!

    I know this will be our (yours, mine and all of our friends, especially Spark Friends') best year ever!! We can all do anything we set our minds to!!

    Love ya virtual momma! emoticon
    2119 days ago
    Yes, I agree with you on all we've lost. But bottom line is... the hurting really really sucks. (smiling) Happy New Year, my friend.
    2119 days ago
    beautiful words Bobbi

    Happy New Year and all the best in 2012
    2119 days ago
  • SUCCESSN2015
    This completely touched my heart. I lost my husband & 2 year old daughter in 2008 due to a drunk driver. I smiled to Heaven tonight after reading this because much like your son being proud of you I know my husband and daughter are proud of me. ((Hugs))
    2119 days ago
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