Sunday, December 25, 2011
Something that happened the other day prompted me to write this today.
First, Merry Christmas to everyone. If you've met your goals this year and are feeling fit and fabulous, congratulations and I hope you'll continue well with your progress. With that being said, may I suggest that we all take care to be mindful of the challenges of others.
I was in a local store the other day and a woman was trying on a jacket. It was a cute jacket with a faux fur-lined hood. As she was trying on a size that could have been no bigger than a 2, she was talking to a friend about how much weight she'd lost. But as she was speaking, she was talking about how she's never again going to be a "fat slob" and how "nasty-looking" she once was. Well, she was *very* aware of the people around her and another woman nearby was nowhere near a size 2, 4, 10 or 16. She was clearly obvious of the conversation and when she walked off, the woman who was trying on the jacket snickered and looked at her like she was trash. It took all I had to just walk away and say nothing.
I'm currently a size 8 and as I crunch, shred, walk and squat my way back to the size 4 clothes in my closet I often hear comments like, "Please, honey, if I were your size . . . " Often what we already are is someone else's wish. The little arm-jiggle I have would be someone else's goal. But whether I am a 2 or a 10, I realize someone else has a struggle just as hard or tougher than my own.
As we aim for and meet our own goals, let's not be cocky, ugly and vain. It's so unattractive when men and women *look* pretty but don't act the same.
Also, keep in mind that right now you are just right. All of you. Every part of you. And when you lose 10 pounds, you will be just right then, too. At every weight I've ever been I've always managed to get a wink, a second look or a phone number. And that's whether my thighs rubbed when I walked or my abs were so tight you could bounce quarters off them.
Be easy on yourself and others! It's a much more beautiful world when we're not only fit but kind.
Merry Christmas, Happy Hanukkah, Happy Kwanza and Feliz Navidad everyone!