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My early Christmas present with Mom

Sunday, December 18, 2011

Sometimes I think God must be looking down on me and smiling. Yesterday I think he said, "I am going to give Bob a wonderful Christmas gift even though it is a wee bit early."

My Mom, who will be 95 next month, is in a special care home for dementia patients. She loves it there. There are only 10 residents in the home and 3 full-time staff to look after them. There are always home cooked meals and they have a wonderful time. God bless the staff as they are so good. Mom has been there now for four years.

This past year has been tough. Her dementia has really taken hold and she has become allergic to all antibiotics. If she gets an infection all they can do is make her as comfortable as possible and hope that her body fights it. That is no small feat as she is getting more frail all the time. When I visit now it takes her awhile to remember who I am, if she does at all. Sometimes I give her a kiss and a hug and leave, saddened and depressed, but I feel good knowing that maybe in some way I helped her a bit.

I used to just go out to her place and popped in unannounced. Now I call first to see how she is. I called yesterday morning around 11 am and she was just getting up, so I thought that I would make a little visit in the afternoon. To my amazement she was sitting in the living room and enjoying looking out the big picture window. She knew me right away, she even laughed and smiled. I spent a long time there and we all had hot chocolate and cookies.

It was a dreary day when I left my house but as Mom and I were sitting in the living room and looking out the picture window the sun came out from behind the clouds and the rays entered the room.

I think it was God saying to me, "Have a wonderful visit. I made this day especially for you and your Mom."

God Bless you, all my Spark friends, and please, please hug someone you love each and every day. You never know what the future holds.
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BARB5970 12/25/2011 7:30PM

    I believe we get exactly what we need at the exact time we need it... that's a blessing. Treasure that moment and the memories you created.

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MORTICIAADDAMS 12/24/2011 9:23PM

    What a wonderful day - a real gift!! I hope you have many more with your mom.

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DIDMIS 12/24/2011 10:33AM

    Bob I know what dementia is like. My husband passed away at 83 after suffering various stages of it. I kept him home as long as I could but one day it was getting dangerous and I had to put him in a n/h. Your mom is in a wonderful place.
Where my husband was they did not have enough employees and it seemed most of them didn't really care about the patients.
I am so glad you had that wonderful day with your mom. My mom lived to be 99 1/2 years old. No one is as precious to us as our mother.
God bless you.

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STEVENGO2 12/24/2011 9:32AM

I am happy for you that you received an early Christmas present this year! I hope when you visit Mom on Christmas she is having another 'good' day. May your Christmas day be full of love and happiness.

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1CRAZYDOG 12/20/2011 12:56PM

    Awww . . . what a wonderful gift! Happy holidays to you and best wishes for a wonderful New Year.

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SPARKLEIIGHGAL 12/19/2011 6:56AM

    What a wonderful blessing for you both. It reminds me so much of my Mum after she had her stroke and then the last few times I saw her before she passed away in a care home. She was as happy as she could be and the very last visit we all sat outside in the sunshine and she saw us all and I think knew us which was a blessing.
May you have a wonderful, peaceful Christmas with your loved ones. Happy Christmas and a very Happy New Year to you dear friend. emoticon

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LARIESHA 12/19/2011 12:36AM

    What a great gift! GOD is good all the time! He knew that you needed a good visit with mom and knew mom needed one with you! This blog just touches me as dementia is a big part of my family. My great great grandmother died of it 2.5 years ago at the age of 101. My grandfather died of it 2 years ago at the age of 80 something. So I know what you when you say you have those saddened and depressed days! Hang in there!


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SPEEDY143 12/18/2011 1:28PM

    What a wonderful gift and how it speaks volumes about what a dear son you are to recognize it as such. May God continue to bless you and your mother every day of your lives. Merry Christmas Bob emoticon

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NATPLUMMER 12/18/2011 1:27PM

    WHat a nice day with your mother. Glad it was such a good one :-)

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PYNETREE 12/18/2011 12:38PM are Blessed, and your Mom must be so proud..of the child she raised, and what you've become.

It is hard to watch this end of life fading away. So glad the the home she has seems like one of the good ones. That's a blessing too!

Happy Holidays to you and your Mom!

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BUFFYSMOM2 12/18/2011 11:27AM

    I cried when I read this, Bob. My 89 year old mom has dementia too and we're looking for a wonderful place like your mom's. I am grateful for every minute, hour or day she recognizes us because it varies so much. God bless you and your family.
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