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I don't get it.
Monday, December 12, 2011
I have been at this for quite awhile now. I have made it known in my home what I am doing and why. So why do you suppose just after talking to my dh about not going to a cookie bake and take because I am having a hard time with temptation he decides to make chocolate chip cookies. It was while I was away. I came home to the smell of baked goodness. I was so angry. We have had conversations in the past and my husband just thinks "oh, you are always trying to lose weight" so I guess it must not matter anymore. I really don't like blogging about such negative stuff but I am feeling kind of betrayed. All of you that have support from your spouse/significant other please count your blessings. I am not going to give up but I need to think about how I can use this situation to motivate me to stop "trying to lose weight" and actually do it.
This particular incident was after I had to go out to buy a sweater because none of my old ones fit. Man I feel like a whiner but I just need to get this out so I can get on with it.
Member Comments About This Blog Post
It isn't whining if there is a good reason for your complaint. And, in this case, you seem justified.
I can tell you that I, completely thoughtlessly, sabotaged my wife's weightloss more than once. I thought that I was being sweet, baking coffee cakes or bringing home her favorite pizza, etc. It took me a long time to realize that I wasn't helping. Once I actually started on my own weight loss journey, I realized what I had been doing all along.
Is your DH on the journey to better health, too? It can be a difficult task to get healthy, but it is almost impossible when the spouse isn't on the same path.
1815 days ago
Whine on! It helps to get things out.
I've had this happen with my mother when we lived in the same house. She loves to bake and cook and since I am a food addict it's hard for me to resist the food. Now mind you, my mom used to have a weight problem, but she lost the weight and is doing great. She was able to overcome her addiction to eating foods, became a vegetarian, and an exercise enthusiast and has it together. But she would always bake tons of cookies and irresistible cakes. when I told her to stop doing that, she got upset but on the other hand, if she saw me eating something she no longer eats, like fast food or soda she'd have something to say about it.
I know how bad a loved on can make you feel in this situation. It's like, you know they love you, but they are actually trying to keep you from reaching your goal.
1817 days ago
You are not a whiner. You are feeling betrayed and need a shoulder to lean on.
My 2 cents -
Guys are really dumb sometimes. It's just the way it is. We women say, "I'm working real hard to lose some weight and I need to avoid temptation by not eating cookies, or cakes, or any sweets." They hear, "Cookies!" They aren't necessarily being mean. They are just very different from women. And they frequently don't get what we say.
It took me a lot of years to figure that out. And I've been much happier since. It's not my fault. It's not his fault. We are just wired differently.
1818 days ago
I bet you feel better after getting all this out on your blog. I don't think you are a whiner. We need to get the good and the bad out so we can succeed. You will do fine. Good luck.
1818 days ago
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