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Not Prepared For The Haters

Thursday, December 08, 2011

Ok, the word "haters" might be to strong, but I was totally unprepared for negative comments regarding my weight loss journey...

Since I started Spark People I have been really, really excited about exercising and losing weight. I read about it constantly, I watch videos on youtube and try out new exercises and I have been research 5K runs to enter in the spring (I am definitely not ready now...LOL).

I have found out some really amazing facts about how much sugar certain foods contain and how many calories are in what and I have been sharing that information with my friends, family and co-workers... BIG MISTAKE!!!

I forgot a cardinal rule of having relationships with people...people are a work in progress, not everyone is on the save wavelength as you.

Now, I think people are starting to resent me a little. I never noticed it before, but I walked upon folks murmurring at work about how "obsessed" I was and how I "am going overboard." I was a little hurt.

When I was 255 pounds we all ate lemon pepper wings and drank cokes together and nobody was concerned about my diabetes or headaches or how many times I called out sick. Now that I am feeling great and heading in a good direction folks are concerned I a going overboard. Wow.

Nevertheless, I am not in any changing my enthusiasm. Maybe I will curb how many great articles I find that I share with the group, but I am never going back to the old me. With God's grace and mercy that defeated soul has left the building and left a physically fit, brickhouse of a chick down here in her place!!!

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    I haven't lost enough weight yet to get attention like that, but I have a friend who lost 100+ pounds a year or so ago and he got a lot of negative comments of the same kind - that he was obsessed, that he was being unhealthy, that he wasn't fun (because food=fun, don'tcha know), that he had lost enough, etc. I think that's why places like SP are so important - it gives us somewhere to go where people understand and celebrate with us. It sounds like you have a great attitude - keep it up! You're doing great!
    2191 days ago
    That's just another lesson learned spark friend. I have lost weight time after time over the years...your right everyone is on a different wave length. I am sorry your feelings were hurt in the way you heard what they were saying...but it is important that you know that's how they feel and that's going on. Separate the tender feelings from what they said and you will see the point.
    No need to compromise WHAT your doing for yourself...just understand that its exciting and life changing its not something other people have committed or may want to do or hear about.
    Its not that they are hating you, on you or what your doing. All quite different and I have seen THAT HAPPEN...but it is more about finding a comfort zone with how you share, how much you share and all people involved feel good about it.
    Keep up THE GOOD WORK.
    Now speaking for myself ONLY:
    I have made people so mad at me in the past with my own efforts. lol
    And I have even got to the point I was kinda lecturing people and even making them feel guilty. lol But hey! With time, more education and maturity I have learned better. Now it is funny to look back on it.
    2191 days ago
  • LINDAJ0621
    I had a similar experience when I first started noticeably losing weight. I wanted to share all my new knowledge with everyone and I guess I sounded a bit "obsessed" to my listeners. So, I learned to not discuss my new daily routines (unless asked) and to just "do my thing". SparkPeople has been a Godsend to me! I now have a community of supportive folk sharing in my day-to-day journey to a healthier lifestyle.
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    2191 days ago
    Wow, sorry to hear that they aren't being very supportive of you right now but I hope it will pass. Your doing a fabulous job, just always remember that. Good luck my friend :)
    2192 days ago
    Thanks guys! I love the positive energy I get from my fellow Sparkers!
    2193 days ago
    Some people are in your life for a reason and a season...The season of wings and junk food is over! The reason is because your putting your health and well being first..Dont worry, It will pay off!! Keep up the good work!
    2195 days ago
  • TIFFY0906
    I am like you, when something good happens in my life I want to share it with the world. But I had to realize that everyone is not enthused about the same things I am and even worst some are not even happy that you are happy or doing something good for you - HOW CAN THAT BE???? One reason I love Sparkpeople so much is I love to hear the success stories and the encouragement when things don't go so well.

    You keep doing you and keep smiling - let the haters stay uninformed.
    2195 days ago
  • CANDLES-73
    Haters gonna hate.... heck with 'em!!!
    2195 days ago
    That is the attitude to have! If you are doing great, keep on! I don't understand why someone would want you to keep the weight on and not be happy. People are really strange sometimes. They are better off forgotten.
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    2195 days ago
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