I finally realized that I don't have a weight problem. I have an eating disorder--Binge Eating Disorder(BED). Although it is not yet official, it is likely to be included in the updated DSM-V due to be published May 2013.
For 8 months in 2009, I was in an eating disorder center that was based on EDs as an addiction. It's quite common for people with EDs to also have other addictions. They used a healthy modified ADA plan, mostly restricting sugar, white flour and other highly refined carbohydrates. It was not considered a diet, but a food plan that could be used for the long term. Support and recovery were centered around Overeater's Anonymous and other 12-Step Groups. I lost 80 lbs and kept it off until the end of 2010, when I faced overwhelming stresses and gained back 60 lbs in about 3 months.
This past Jan, the Eating Disorder Center of Denver started one of the first Binge Eating Disorder programs in the country. It was a 10-week Partial Hospitalization Program followed by a robust Outpatient Program. The food program was also based on a modified ADA plan, but there were no exclusions. In fact, we were encouraged to incorporate a limited amount of our favorite binge foods into our plans. The theory is that as soon as Binge Eaters are told we can't have a certain food, that is the exact food we crave.
The focus of the program was not to lose weight, but to stop binging. We were encouraged to not check our weight and were not allowed to know our weights that were recorded in the charts. Those who did check, including myself, were pretty discouraged by the slow weight loss progress. I was told that when I start releasing my baggage, the weight would come off.
The primary therapeutic modality was Cognitive Behavioral Therapy since there is empirical data proving it is the best type of therapy to treat eating disorders. At least it was enough to convince my insurance company to pay for treatment.
I guess the point I want to make is that Binge Eating is a lot more complicated than anyone realized and extremely hard to interrupt. I think it's finally being taken seriously by the medical and psychological community. No one has an easy solution that works universally. Plus there's still the very powerful diet industry that actually works against recovering from eating disorders.
I've found SparkPeople to be one of the most comprehensive and diverse resources I've seen. I don't agree with everything but there is an incredible amount of information, interesting theories, and great ideas. I know that the solution for me is going to be an amalgam of different plans, therapies, and resources. And it is up to me to figure out what is going to work for my situation. No one is going to do it for me.