The fat lady on the couch

Tuesday, November 22, 2011

I am depressed and scared. My hubby has control of our finances. But for the last 5 months he hasn't paid the rent. I give him the money but he spends it on other things. Last month I went a bought groceries for my new diabetic diet and he yelled at me for hours. He buys bologna, canned pasta's. things I can't eat. So I am left with drinking boost. This month it stops, I am buying groceries again, and writing a cheque for the rent. I love my husband and don't want to fight with him, but enough is enough. I am a afraid it will break us up. He has a bad temper. And I have post traumatic stress disorder and am very passive and spineless. I hate confrontations. But one must do what they have to do. The fat lady on the couch is scared.
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    I have been there honey. Take back your control!

    I remember one fight that I had with an ex-boyfriend that I was living with. I wanted to spend $1. Yes, just $1 on a new 3 ring binder. He yelled at me for hours about how selfish I was. Never mind that he had just spent $30 on a brass bowl for a party. We had plenty of bowls, but he decided he needed a brass one for the theme of the gathering. He bought all kinds of things that were important to him, but my $1 was too much. Break the bank expensive.

    When your loved ones are encouraging you to eat things that are not healthy so they can spend money recklessly, you really do need to take a hard look at the relationship and what you mean to that person. You are not a door mat. You are a person who deserves to be loved and to be cherished and to be HEALTHY.

    It's hard. I'm not living in your shoes or your life. You have to do what is right for you. I am encouraging to you to look at your life and do what is right for you. Whatever that looks like.

    Good luck! I hope things get better for you soon!

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