Food, not food, relationships,
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
Ok, a lot of different thoughts and experiences converge in... ANOTHER BLOG ENTRY!! aren't you thrilled?
Thought, I'm supposed to be eating 90-100 gms of protein a day, according to a dietician I saw right after my diagnosis. so, how do I divide this up? three meals, and three snacks? four meals and a snack? four meals? five meals? to keep my blood sugar stable as possible I've been aiming for five, but four is more usual.
Then came the discovery that two eggs equals about 10-12 gms of protein. WHAT? I thought that was a meal? Now it can only be called a snack. Hmmm come to think of it, I do tend to go searching for food about mid-morning.
SO I came back from dropping the munchkin off at preschool all set to sew, and I was reaching for something. but what? First on the list, candy bars. But wait, that's not healthy, so I pull out a roast chicken and start in on it. Thinking... why do we reach for candy so often.
Food isn't candy, candy isn't food. Food is stuff that nourishes and supports healthy bodily functions.. what is candy, cake, cookies, icecream? PIE? These are pleasure. Pleasure, we feed them to our families at get togethers to enhance the pleasurable experience. Grandmas feed them to their grandkids cause they want those grandkids to still view a visit with an old woman who doesn't want to watch a fourth batman cartoon as pleasurable.
We serve them at family reunions and other events to enhance the pleasure of each other's company or to mask the discomfort of associating with the ones who are less pleasurable to visit/deal with, or even to mask the discomfort we feel at our own inadequacies. It's this masking feature that ends up being our downfall. The food becomes the main reason to attend these uncomfortable get togethers and we just go to eat and leave.
We begin to eat them alone when we're lonely, sad, or avoiding a task because we want pleasure instead of whatever we're avoiding. and soon we're avoiding life with our pleasurable friend. because life IS often sad, lonely, and not always pleasant, but it's more life than eating is. eating is all of a sudden a substitute for all the other things that make up a life and we're more alone than ever.
So the next time you find yourself reaching for a candy bar, eat something that will enhance your health and grab a cup of tea. Recent research shows it enhances calmness and alertness at the same time.
Or grab that cup of tea while dealing with your nemesis, whatever it may be at that time. Write a letter, write in your journal, talk it out with a friend, or just take the bull by the horns and do whatever it is your avoiding, just 5 minutes might get your job done, or it might only be hitting a lick at a snake as someone once said, but you'll be further ahead than you were when you started to reach for that sweet treat.
and then, if you still need it, at least you'll have earned it. LOL