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How do you get rid of a "free spirit"?


Wednesday, October 12, 2011

Well, this week went pretty fast. I tried my best to stay on track and exercise each day (I wear a pedometer almost every day to make sure I put in my 10,000 steps). I weighed myself today and I weighed 175.8, so I did lose about 2 pounds, but for some reason I don't feel so joyful about it - I just really detest being in the 170's. It is hard working full time, wife, mother to two kids with Autism. It gets pretty overwhelming, but I will not give up on my dreams.

So who is the "free spirit", well if you are a Dave Ramsey fan you would know that is the spender/shopaholic of the family, and that would be my hubby. It takes a great deal of love and patience not to strangle him when he looks at his tool magazines, my hubby so loves tools and anything to do with cars - that is where the majority of our debt stems from. Anyhow, I lovingly removed his cc from his wallet, and told him that we were starting to steal from Peter to pay Paul (haha). He was all on board agreeing to end our bit of spending splurge, and I hope and pray that he stays on board. Anyone have any good ways to get your shopaholic to stop shopping?

Until next week.
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_JULEE_ 10/13/2011 6:09PM

    I agree with the last post - folks often spend to 'medicate' an underlying emotional issue.

I did it because of years and layers of hurt feelings. Once that stuff was allowed some sunlight and dealing with it, I was able to get the spending bug under control once and for all.

Best of luck!

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ELISADENK 10/12/2011 10:05PM

    Find out the underlying reason why he is the way he is. Then, deal that that underlying reason.


Being a good husband and father is having the self-discipline to take care of his wife and children first in the way of $$. Which means being and staying out of debt. There is GREAT pride and a sense of accomplishment in that. However, our society doesn't understand. Make sure he hangs out with people who do.

Blessings!

Glad you were able to get the cc away from him. How about the debit cards?


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OHBEEBLESSED 10/12/2011 8:37PM

    WOW I can relate! My Husband loves to thrift shop... you know finding that diamond in the rough! LOL Well we got some help from our personal banker... you probaly have one too, you just didn't know it. Any way she helped us figure out a budget. More than that she had us set up a bill account, and two personal accounts, one for me and one for my husband. Now we both have a clear idea of what we can spend and it does not affect our bills etc. Just stop in at your bank.. and tell them you need help. My husband was a little resentful at first but, it was okay beacuse it was coming from someone else. Oh and all the money left in our bill account at the end of the month, goes in to our savings! And seeing that grow is great!

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