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28 steps to building Self-Esteem - Day 28

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Day 28

Choose one thing off the list over the last 4 weeks that you personally found the most difficult.
Attempt to do this today.

If you succeed write down your difficulties with accomplishing it and how you felt on completion.

If you do not do it then just write down a list of what is stopping you.

Ask yourself some questions.

What do you think will happen if you do this?

What will it say about you if you do/do not do this thing?

Some of us have been told it is bad to admire ourselves, bad to look in the mirror, bad to talk about our good qualities, bad to smile at strangers, etc.

Obviously do choose which strangers you smile at ladies emoticon.

Spend a few minutes at least today talking with a friendly and supportive person or group.

Associate with positive, supportive people as often as possible - a group of people who share your interests or are working on the same problems as yourself - is a good way of doing this.

The “real you” is a wonderful, unique being with great potential and the capacity for experiencing love of yourself and extending love to others. So spend as much time as possible in the company of enthusiastic people who feel good about themselves and support and accept you - as you are - with no agenda of any kind - except to help you be the person you want to be.

When we are surrounded by negative people who put us and our ideas down, or tell us we are wrong, criticise or make us feel guilty because we do not agree with their point of view or their way of living - our self-esteem is being hit over and over again and we end up feeling inferior because "we do not fit in".

If you cannot avoid being with negative people at home or work, then make sure you get support from other positive minded people who can nurture the person you are now and encourage you to find out who you could be, with no pressure to become what they think you should be.

Love is allowing people the freedom to be themselves and learn as they go along what is, or is not right for them.

Doing things out of guilt or to please others is not successful because it brings no authentic response from within ourselves.

Find out your own values, what is really important to you. Dare to be yourself, with your own thoughts, ideas and opinions. We can always begin to change the things we may not like about ourselves - but knowing that we are lovable right now is a big step forward - no one is perfect and forgiveness of ourselves and others is paramount for our own emotional health and wellbeing.

Learning to love and accept others as they are - the more able I become to love and accept myself.

We cant leave the past behind until we find a way to expose the pain and allow it to heal. Healing begins once we start to share our worst memories with a person who is trained to help us work through it to freedom. We are given the opportunity to understand, forgiveness comes with seeing the truth and letting go of our determination to keep our adversary held in anger and unforgiveness. Our own healing comes with letting go of our desire to punish or get revenge in some way for the things that have been done to us.

Prayer of Saint Francis of Assisi
(or attributed to him)

Lord, let me be a channel of your peace.
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury,pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
and where there is sadness, joy.

O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek
to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.
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