Friday, March 02, 2007
You'll never miss the water, 'til the well runs dry. - W.C. Handy
I spend a lot of time wishing for things that I don't or can't have. I want my daughter to find a better boyfriend. I wish my son had a better job. I want a nicer car, I wish we had a bigger house. I want new clothes, I want a new laptop and printer, etc, etc.....
I forget to stop and appreciate all the things that I do have. I have a wonderful husband who adores me and places me on a pedestal. I have three fantastic children, and six wonderful grandchildren. We all have jobs that pay the bills, houses, cars and clothing. We put food on the table every day and can afford to buy luxuries like internet access, books, toys and gourmet coffee.
When my twins, Derek and Dominic were born, we weren't sure if they were going to live. They were 2 months premature and only weighed 2 lbs. 13 oz. each. They were in neo-natal for 2 months before they could come home. So many people would stop to tell us how sorry they were and express their sympathy like they were expecting our sons to die. It was so frustrating because everyone was looking on the negative side when all the doctors were telling us how well the boys were doing and expecting them to be just fine.
Yes, it was inconvenient to have to drive 30 miles to the hospital and back everyday to visit the boys, but they were improving everyday and getting better. We saw so many other babies in Neo-Natal that had so many more things wrong with them. So many of the babies and severe birth defects or disabilities and many did not survive.
It would have been easy to fall into the self-pity trap. "Oh what a horrible thing this is that happened to me." But for me it was easier to look at the bright side of everything. Yes, my sons were having trouble and we couldn't take them home for awhile, but they were improving everyday and didn't have the problems or disabilities that so many of the other babies in Neo-natal had. I felt lucky that my sons were alive and getting better. We were lucky they were getting the best care available and we were lucky that eventually we were able to take two healthy baby boys home with us.
I need to remember to try to have this type of attitude all the time. I need to remember to be grateful for all the things that I have, and stop wishing for all the things I can't have right now.
My life is really pretty good, and I need be grateful for everything I have.