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Thursday, September 22, 2011

So, the standoff with the kiddo has ended. I could tell he was so uncomfortable with my silence. He would ramble about how cool fog looked and the traffic looked like it was backing up. Big clue...when an 11yo is lookin and commenting on traffic he has come to a wall and doesn't know what to do.

I asked him if he felt any regret. BAM! He started talking about how he was sorry but the words would get stuck. This is the second time he has done this. This is hereditary. Not on my side. *cough*justlikeyourfather*coug
h* So I told him to show it if he can't say it. He has to do SOMETHING.

He has been much improved in attitude and has done chores, homework, and been timely about getting up for school and practice. I'd say we're good for now. The hair thing? He still says he hates it but when I told him he was more handsome than most models...yeah, I caught him lookin in the mirror later that evening.

Yay parenting. :/

For me, it feels good to be settling into a groove again. Got in a decent jog, which I haven't been able to do in what seems like forever. Just a couple of miles, but time and short legs keeps the distances short...for now. My goal is to do the same ST exercises that my son does in dryland swim practice. My legs are most awesome! My arms...well...not so much. Still, it's fun to do some of the same stuff as him and he is funny when he tries to give encouragement. "I guess that's good for a mom." :P I'll show him.

This Friday we should be able to scrape up some time to get out to the wholesale nursery to get the trees we have planned for the front of the house. Then plant them. That'll be some good honest muscle work.

Food planning needs to happen before Saturday. The food this week has been a mish mash of what is there or fast fixes such as Subway or Chik-Fil-A salads. Need healthy grub readily available or we end up with recipe for disaster. Thank goodness for co-workers who bring smoked meat. Yum!

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Okay, gotta run and pick up my supermodel, moody, tween. Ramble at you more tomorrow!
Tina
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MOOVINMAMA 9/23/2011 4:13PM

    Glad to hear things are on the up and up! Hope you have a great weekend.

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DIXIED88 9/23/2011 2:08PM

    Hee hee, smoked meat.... emoticon

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BECCALULU 9/23/2011 12:46AM

    YOU are a GREAT mom!
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SURLYGIRL 9/22/2011 11:07PM

    Sounds like a great resolution - you are a very insightful and intuitive mom. Way to go.


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EMERALDALCHEMY 9/22/2011 4:56PM

    I read your previous post before I read this one in order to understand the issue, and I have to say you handled it very well! I'm impressed by the amount of love and patience you showed your son, not because I'm not used to love or patience myself, but because I know how easy it is to allow ones negative emotions take over a situation. (Gee do I know, I'm a redhead with a temper to match!!)

His reaction to the haircut was 100% unwarranted, but it's best to remember that children haven't developed the level of self-control that most (ehem, "most") adults have. Children tend to take one of two actions when it comes to facing upsetting scenarios; 1. The lash out either physically or verbally, or 2. They stop up their emotions. The former action is the best one, that shows they're being open and honest with you, while the latter only leads to frustration and sometimes bitterness caused by misunderstanding.

I was always open with my Mum, and I still am. She was always the one I went to when I was in trouble or upset, and (outside of the people I met and grew to love at school) she has always been my best-friend. Sure, what I had to say would sometimes upset her, adults often don't like to hear their mistakes or they don't want the opinion of an inexperienced child, but in the long run, it strengthened our relationship and helped me mature. Children desperately want to be listened to, even concerning minor things like haircuts, and when they are listened to (note: this doesn't mean you have to agree with them or pander to them) it helps them mature more quickly. Children who can't share their feelings tend to be immature, and I'm not condoning his slapping you; children should never strike their parents, siblings etc. unless in self-defense from physical abuse.

Either way, you handled it perfectly. You told him what he did wrong, and you did it in a loving way! I could give you some tips and advice, but I know I've already gone into teacher mode, and besides, I don't have children...just book-smarts and the knowledge my Mum passed on for future reference.

Health-wise, I think you look positive gorgeous, so I don't think you need any advice there so I'll cheer you on instead! You've done a fabulous job of taking care of yourself and your family, you should be so proud of yourself!! I looked at your ticker, and I honestly can't believe it's accurate, however I can tell where your son got his "model" looks from. Keep up the amazing work, you're a beacon for other mothers and women alike, and I'm rooting for you!!!

Have a wonderful weekend!


~Sarah

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THETURTLEBEAR 9/22/2011 4:53PM

    Glad you've got a little peace on the domestic front. They sure can drain us!

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BLACKROSE_222 9/22/2011 4:32PM

    Sounds better! Glad that you are on the hump of this, for now. Ah, tweens. Sounds like you knew exactly what to say! LOL.

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JONEIL513 9/22/2011 4:18PM

    Glad the kiddo is doing well! Being a parent is tough work, I don't know about that personally but I sure gave my parents a few gray hairs! Glad you're back in your groove, keep up the good work!

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TASOGAREBAN 9/22/2011 4:14PM

    Good for a mom, LOL. Kids. I don't have any but I hear they're a blessing. Or something like that...Hee!

Sounds like you handled it as best as you could and that it worked out! Good work, lady! emoticon

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