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Burial today

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

Fortunately, my post chemo heartburn was mild last night, so it did not keep me awake. I still took a sleeping pill though; got up at 9am this morning.

I've had a mild sinus headache off and on today; it's the change in the weather, it got very chilly and windy overnight, then being outside today at the cemetery got it started again too, because of the wind. Had to take a pain pill for the hip/knee pain too.

Despite the weather, my dad's burial service was very nice. Just a small group of us there, but that was ok; it was nice just having a few people, made it more intimate. After it was over, we went to Biggby's ( a coffee shop) and got something hot to drink.

As soon as I got home, I got into pjs and a warm fuzzy robe. I'm glad I have nowhere to go tomorrow; it's been a busy week and it's the only day I don't have to go anywhere, so I am just going to stay home and putter around the house a little bit; let myself recover a bit from the chemo so I am feeling ok for the Relay for Life on Saturday.

Despite sleeping later today I am still tired, so it will probably be an early bedtime tonight.

I have been reading A Journal of Love and Healing: Transcending Grief by Sylvia Browne and Nancy Dufresne; it's not a book I am rushing through, I just read a few pages a night so I can let it sink in and really think about it. I want to share something Sylvia wrote:

" When I feel pity for myself, I treat myself as a friend. I treat myself with patience and acceptance. I don't judge what I am feeling. I don't judge my friends so why judge myself? Enough people do the judging for you".

I think those are very wise words, and not only to they apply to death, but for any difficult time we have to go through.

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SKYEFYR 9/15/2011 4:22PM

  What a beautiful quote! Thank you for sharing.

I'm glad that today sounds like it was very much what you wanted. Small, intimate and as stress free as something like that can be. *gentle hugs* coming your way.

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ADAGIO_CON_BRIO 9/15/2011 10:22AM

    I've been thinking of you. I am glad that you can rest today.

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BBENISHEK 9/15/2011 10:19AM

    Many positive and healing vibes to you.

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RUFFIT 9/15/2011 10:13AM

    God Bless you and your family. You and your family are in my many prayers. emoticon emoticon

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KINSBAILE 9/15/2011 10:01AM

    *HUGS* You are so strong!!!

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OPALMOON 9/15/2011 5:07AM

    I am glad the service went well today, Shari. It is always nice to go somewhere for a warming cuppa afterwards, then just relax in your night attire once home again.

It sounds like a great book you are reading, love the quote - they are wise words. No doubt you will find some peace and comfort from it.

I hope you can have a pain free night and sleep well - keep taking care of yourself.

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GODDESS181 9/14/2011 11:35PM

    Thank you for sharing those wise words. Glad to hear you are being gentle with yourself. Rest well, hope you feel well tomorrow.
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ANJAYS-JOURNEY 9/14/2011 10:40PM

    Glad to know all went well, have a down night tonight, you deserve it.
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KERRYG155 9/14/2011 9:40PM

    I'm glad the service went well though I'm sure it was difficult. I think the pj's and fuzzy slippers sound perfect for the end of the day. Take care of yourself.

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OUTDOORGIRL69 9/14/2011 8:01PM

    I loved the blog today the end about the pity for myself was great. We all need to think that way. Prayers are there for you.

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1STATEOFDENIAL 9/14/2011 7:08PM

    I hope you can find peace with the loss, even though it is not a good thing and no one likes it.

That quote is great and totally right. Many people hold themselves to a higher standard than those around them, and beat themselves up over not being perfect. We all need a reminder now and again that we don't have to be perfect. Thanks.

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CIRANDELLA 9/14/2011 5:18PM

    I can relate to what you said about having a more intimate burial, Shari. My mother's was small and on a sunny fall day at Arlington Nat'l. Cemetery. My dad's was there, too, two years prior, but it was in a freezing January, and you could see the Pentagon - still under reconstruction after 9/11 - in the distance. There was a large crowd of people there, and the day was a miserable blur for me.

Isn't Biggby's where you sometimes get that butterscotch bear dessert? I haven't forgotten that ;)

Thanks, too, for the Sylvia Browne quote. I love her books; they're all so loving, comforting and reassuring.

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GIRANIMAL 9/14/2011 5:18PM

    Oh, Shari, I am sorry I must have missed an earlier blog about your father's death. I'm very sorry for your loss. emoticon

There's also a wonderful book on grieving called "Losing A Parent: Passage to a New Way of Living," by Alexandra Kennedy.

My condolences. emoticon

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BETHGILLIGAN 9/14/2011 5:16PM

    Rest! Love yourself! You are in my prayers! emoticon

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ELLFIN3 9/14/2011 4:53PM

    I like Sylvia Browne! I have several books of hers! I need that quote today!!! Thanks! I am glad today went well! Rest well tonight and do not over do tomorrow! Love YA!!! emoticon Susan

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