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I just need to vent...

Tuesday, September 13, 2011

My heart is broken... Yesterday I took my son for his 3 years old check up. I was afraid that the Pediatrician would tell me that my son was close to be an overweight kid but I was not prepared for what he actually told me. He entered the room, greeted us and follow with "We have to stop this NOW. Your son is OBESE. As of today 09/12/2011 you will clean your pantry. NO bread, pizza, pasta, rice, sodas, candies, etc...." Then he followed explaining that if we do not take action NOW, my son will get diabetes in less than two year. After this, he just hit me with: "Mom, he was just fine until 18 months." After 18 months, I allowed my son to have pizza, sodas, popcorn, etc. etc. etc. My son weights 58 pounds, 28 more than he should.

As I heard the doctor talking, my mind was in my childhood times. I just could think that my story was repeating in my son. The Doctor asked me "Who is taking care of this kid? Is the grandmother, right? Yes, is my mom who takes care of my son. The same person that took care of me and allowed me to eat everything I wanted. Then he told me that the problem is that hispanic grandparents think that chubby kids are healthy kids. But we cannot blame this problem on her. My husband and myself have a lot to do with this too.

I feel I am responsible of my son's healthy status. I allowed my family to feed him with junk food. How it is possible that after all situation I have been in as an overweight child and obese adult, I did not take care of my son's eating habits. OMG, this is the worst feeling ever, I am killing our son with food.

The good thing out of this is that my husband finally understood that he cannot continue eating the stuff he was eating and bringing home all those cookies, donuts, sodas, etc. We had adopted a zero junk diet to help my son lose weight and be healthy. I followed the doctors instructions: Clean your pantry. After 3 big kitchen bags (and a almost empty pantry), I can say that we are in good direction. I have prepared a daily meals and exercise log to keep track of what my son is eating. Tomorrow I am taking my son for a extensive blood work. My son will be going to his doctor every month to follow up his progress.

I am still crying but I am think we will get him down to 30 pounds, where he should be for his age.

This is my son during his 3rd birthday celebration. The theme: M&Ms, his favorite candies...

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MRSDAVIS09 9/16/2011 9:44AM

    You are a good mom, and you are doing what is right for your son. Don't beat yourself up because you didn't see it at first. The important thing is you see it now, and you are doing something about it. One day your son will look at you and tell you how much he appreciates what you've given him. . .it may not be until he has children of his own, but that day WILL come! You are giving him the gift of good health and good habits that will stay with him for the rest of his life. By the time he is a teenager, he will be armed with knowledge that will help him make better choices. What you are doing will help your whole family. You can also start planning healthy activities to share as a family, like hiking and biking, swimming and maybe even entering some 5K races. I'm so proud of you, mom!!!

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CECE0330 9/13/2011 5:32PM

    The good news is: You CAN change your son's health as you continue to work on yours. This is not irreversible! And at his age, kids LOVE to be active and are open to new things. Just be patient, as it may take him a little while to adjust to healthier fare. You might need to be creative to encourage him to eat.

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YAFENELRA 9/13/2011 12:33PM

    You are for sure moving in the right direction. Though losing weight at any age is hard, the younger a person is, the easier it is. You can all do this as a family and I wish you lots of luck!!

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KALIGIRL 9/13/2011 10:15AM

    Glad you are headed in the right direction!
Sending good thoughts for your success!

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PINKNFITCARLA 9/13/2011 8:46AM

    It sounds like you're headed in the right direction. Keep those positive changes coming. It is hard to feel like we are hurting our children. Mine are all older, but I remember when they were younger, feeding them cheaper food since I didn't work, things like chicken patties, french fries, fish sticks, hot dogs, mac and cheese. I so wish I knew then what I know now as I know my food habits not only hurt me, but also hurt them. Thankfully, I have 4 beautiful and healthy kids now, 3 of them adults. Their teen years were better as that's when I started changing my habits. It's never too late to change things. emoticon

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MITECU 9/13/2011 8:11AM

    The school where I teach has a high Hispanic population. I would say over 50% of the students are overweight. It's so sad to see them huff and puff as they climb stairs. Getting your son on a healthy lifestyle now is the best thing you can do. It's not only about eating well. Provide him with opportunities for physical activity.
How fun would it be for your whole family to walk, swim, or play ball together!
Good luck!

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    This totally made me tear up. Try not to be so hard on yourself. Parenting is not always easy, and we have to learn most of it as we go along. Be glad that your son's doctor (and you!) are addressing this now. Keep him as active as possible and that extra weight will probably just melt off! Kids are resilient, and with him being so young, he probably won't even remember being overweight when he gets older.

I think the hardest part is going to be helping him to understand how to make healthy choices without turning it into an unhealthy obsession with weight. Dealing with grandparents will also be a struggle. I know my mom and dad love to give my son cookies and candy like it's going out of style.

I wish you lots of luck with this. I hope you are able to get your son into a healthy weight range.

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