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Tuesday, September 06, 2011

My dad went back in the hospital this morning. He felt very light headed and had the presence of mind to sit down before he feel. If I understood my sister correctly his heart rate was close to 170 and they are saying they need to sync it with his BP so he will be in the hospital for a few days.

He told my sister to take care of my mother when he is gone and that he picked out the music he wanted at his funeral. When we were home a few weeks ago and the entire family gathered he made it a point that I sat by him. He's never done that before. He specifically asked me to sit close to him. I believe he is preparing to go home and I have to tell you in many respects I believe there is a real beauty in this process. He is slowly checking things off of his list and he is doing it with a quiet dignity. I feel very honored to be part of this process.

I see the neurosurgeon at two thirty this afternoon. I'm a bit apprehensive......... well that's a lie, LOL, I am scared.

Joans brother is out of IC and is having an angioplasty Wednesday
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SILLYHP1953 10/12/2011 2:57PM

    I'm so glad you're getting to share these times with your dad, he sounds like quite an amazing person. My grandmother was SO ready to go "home" and she did at 97. She lived with us the last three years of her life and I'm very grateful for that time.

I'm happy to hear your BIL is out of ICU. Good luck with your appt. One thing about being behind on your blogs is I get to catch up quickly without having to wait a day to find out how things turned out. But I'm going to try to not get this far behind again.

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NEEDTOLOSE100LB 9/16/2011 10:24AM

    John, I share your pain. I lost my father '93 and my father-in-law in '92. They died just 5 days short of 1 year apart. Each of them did something similar to what your father is doing. They gathered their thoughts and said things that didn't make total sense at the time, but when the time came to understood, each of us kids did. My dad made the trip to see each of us kids (4 of us) in August. He took each of us aside at some point and told us that if something happened to him, we were to mourn and move on, he had led a good life and had no regrets. When we met during the week before his funeral, we shared that memory with each other. He died in September, about 6 weeks after seeing all of us and his 2 granddaughters. He might not like it, but days like today, I still mourn a little. In 11 days I will have missed him for 18 years. Make good memories now. You will never regret it. May God give you the strength to deal with this time and your father the peace to do so as well. When the time comes, you will have the strength, it is promised if we just ask.

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TERRIPAL1 9/12/2011 8:10AM

    Good luck with everything going on sounds like you have a lot on your plate my prayers are with you!

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STAN111 9/11/2011 6:48PM

    My father is also at the doorway and could go anytime. We are all struggling to know how to make it work for him. I hope the best for your father and family.

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NASFKAB 9/9/2011 9:53AM

  All my prayers are with & your Dad & bil

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MIRACLELOVE77 9/8/2011 4:55AM

    I'm sorry to hear about your father; it sounds very similar to the process we went through with my grandfather (falls, hospital visits, family get togethers). It's wonderful though that this process, as difficult as it may be, is doing good in bringing you too closer together :)

praying for peace for you all.

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GOOFIERNU 9/7/2011 10:22AM

    I'll be thinking and praying for you through the day.

emoticon We've lost three parents, so far. One suddenly and unexpectedly, two we watched waste away. (sigh...) Cycle of life. I now make a point to tell my Mom I love her when we hang up from our weekly call.

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MARCYNA 9/7/2011 9:20AM

    It seems you're living this difficult moment with a smile and attention to the positive details-and your Dad, too. Great attitude, my prayers & thoughts are with you!!!!

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CARTOONB 9/6/2011 11:10PM

    Your dad sounds like a really wonderful man. I hope you can enjoy all of the time you have left with him.

How'd the neurosurgeon appointment go?

Good to hear that Joan's bro is out of IC.

Thoughts and prayers still with you and yours. emoticon

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WORKINGSTIFF 9/6/2011 9:02PM

    My Dad is 88, and has been in and out of the hospital too many times for me to count in recent years.

Cherish each moment with your dad-the positive and the not-so-positive.

I tell myself that every holiday or visit with him could be the last. It doesn't make me sad, but it makes me realize how precious those times are. And at 50 years old, I've been blessed to have both my parents in my life for much longer than most people do.

Thank you for sharing.



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HDHAWK 9/6/2011 6:44PM

    At 87 I'm sure you're dad knows something may happen given the issues he's having. I hope you get good news today too. I'm glad Joan's brother will get his heart issue resolved soon. Take care over there!

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LYNMEINDERS 9/6/2011 5:06PM

    I would fully agree with you where your Dad is concerned....I totally belive that we know when we are to prepare to go home....
it is a privelege to be part of the process....

Glad to hear Joans Brother is out of IC...that is great....

You will be fine this arvo when you have your appointment...will be praying for you....
Take God with you...don't leave Him outside....

Prayers & Blessings

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MORTICIAADDAMS 9/6/2011 4:30PM

    I'm sorry about your dad. Sometimes it takes a while to get things adjusted.

My dad has made his funeral arrangements as well. He's ready to go. I'm not ready for him to go but I never would be and we have no control over that.

Good luck to you, your dad, and your bIL.

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TRAVELINGLITE 9/6/2011 4:18PM

  I am sad to hear that your dads health is failing. Hope the neurosurgeon has some good news for you.

I enjoy reading your blogs. you are very insightful. Lynn


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GRAMLORI 9/6/2011 3:57PM

    Praying for you and your family, John.
Hugs,
Lori

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BLUEROSE73 9/6/2011 3:43PM

  I am sorry you are loosing your father, but what a gift you all have been given. He knows it's coming. He is able to get his affairs in order. You are able to say good bye.
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PGNBRI 9/6/2011 3:39PM

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SMOCKON 9/6/2011 3:31PM

    I'm sorry you're fighting health battles on three fronts! Best wishes going out to you and your family. emoticon

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EILI359 9/6/2011 3:24PM

    I'm thinking of you and your family and hope the appointment goes well emoticon

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GIRANIMAL 9/6/2011 3:12PM

    I'm with you -- I agree that the process of leaving this plane can be very beautiful, especially when one has the presence of mind to be aware of it, to be deliberate in the tidying uo of their affairs, to say their goodbyes on their terms.

I am honored to be a part of it through your sharing.

Try not to sweat the neuro -- remember, it's only a consultation! You have options, I promise.

Glad to hear Joan's brother seems to be on the mend. I'm still sending my best healing energy to all of you!

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GIRANIMAL 9/6/2011 3:11PM

    I'm with you -- I agree that the process of leaving this plane can be very beautiful, especially when one has the presence of mind to be aware of it, to be deliberate in the tidying up of their affairs, to say their goodbyes on their terms.

I am honored to be a part of it through your sharing.

Try not to sweat the neuro -- remember, it's only a consultation! You have options, I promise.

Glad to hear Joan's brother seems to be on the mend. I'm still sending my best healing energy to all of you!

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KT-NICHOLS-13 9/6/2011 2:34PM

    I have much love and respect for you and your family.

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FROGGERHKC 9/6/2011 1:31PM

    Oh John, you and your family will be in my thoughts. I hope that everything turns out well for everyone. emoticon

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TNANCE3 9/6/2011 1:19PM

    Thinking and praying for you and your family. I know what you are going through. My dad will be gone three years on the 15th. It still seems like yesterday. He made each of us promise to take care of my step-mother. My mom has been gone for 37 years. I was fifteen when she passed away. Take what your dad says to heart and do everything you can to honor his wishes. Spend as much time as you possibly can with him, too. It is hard to hear them talk this way and know what he/she is planning for. It hurts. I will be honest with you. But if you know he is right with God, like I did my dad, then you can be at peace knowing where he is going. That is the main thing that helped me. Hopefully, he will live a lot longer, but if he doesn't, have no regrets. Praying for everything going on with you.

Hugs,
Teresa

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GETFIT2LIVE 9/6/2011 1:17PM

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You and your dad (and family) are in my prayers. I pray you get some positive answers and course of treatment today--and that your dad has more time left with you than he thinks right now. Being able to go home with dignity is a great gift, though, if that is what is happening.

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KKINNEA 9/6/2011 1:13PM

    I recognize this pattern and I think you're right - he knows and wants to put affairs in order. I hope you have as much time with him as you both need and that your appointment this afternoon carries only good news.

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ANATASHIKI 9/6/2011 1:11PM

    hang in there ! emoticon emoticon

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JECKIE 9/6/2011 1:05PM

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I rarely have many words, but know I'm thinking of you and praying for you.

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