I've been Sparking for about 7 months now, and I can't figure out if there's more whining taking place on the message boards, or if I'm just more aware of it. It seems like more and more Sparkers are stuck in the "I can't" vortex and want some magic bullet (in the form of message board advice) to pull them out of it.
(Disclaimer: I'm not a binge eater, nor have I ever suffered from a food addiction. I'm just a woman who had 10 lbs to lose, lost them and is now maintaining through exercise and a healthy diet.) I don't know what it's like to have a triple-digit number of pounds to lose, but I do know this: every day that passes makes it harder to find motivation. I also know that exercise hurts and that eating a healthy diet takes some effort. But, you know what? Writing a page-long litany of reasons why you'll never lose the weight, never be able to change your eating habits or get off of the couch, takes effort, too. I guarantee the ten minutes it takes to moan about it would be better spent taking a walk around the block, checking out a SparkRecipe or preparing your shopping list for the week. See the difference? Same time commitment, much greater return.
Newsflash: you have to be marathon runner (or even aspire to be one), or exercise 3 hours a day, 7 days per week, just MOVE! Take the stairs instead of the elevator. Treat yourself to a 15-minute walk around the neighborhood, or around your office park on your lunch break. (If nothing else, everyone needs at least that much "me" time per day.) It won't be comfortable at first, but guess what? It's not supposed to be. Exercise isn't comfortable for anyone. The more fit you get, the harder you have to push to see results. That's just the way it is.
No one's saying you to be a gourmet chef to be healthy - and don't tell me you don't like fruits and/or veggies, either. Have you tried all of them? I promise you haven't. Are you aware of all of the different ways they can be prepared? I'll bet you're not. Want an easy fix? Message me. I'll send you some of my favorite recipes to get you started - but I won't cook them for you. Again, if you want to see results, you have to do the work. No one can do it for you.
The excuses are old, they're tired, and they're just plain wrong. You CAN the weight, you CAN start an exercise program and you CAN eat a healthy diet. That doesn't mean you have to be 100% perfect. Everyone skips a day at the gym and eats an ice cream cone once in a while. (My personal favorite splurge is waffles and ice cream, Jersey boardwalk style. Healthy? Not even a little bit. Necessary? Sometimes.
To conclude, I'm not knocking the SP message boards. They're there for a reason, and that's to help all of us. But, use them constructively. Next time you want to write "I caaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaannnnnn'tttt
ttt (insert thing you "can't" do here)...), think about how you're spending your time, and how you're asking other Sparkers to spend theirs by responding, and write something constructive. Ask members to share their favorite affordable, easy-to-prepare recipe, or their favorite short-on-time workout, and then TRY IT. The results will follow, I promise.