An 'A' For Effort
Sunday, August 14, 2011
My friend invited me to her barbecue yesterday and, although I knew the temptation to indulge would be too great, I couldn't decline for that reason alone. If I turn down every social request where I have to be around unhealthy food, I may as well become a hermit.
My ideal goal was to not eat anything unhealthy while I was there but I knew that was wishful thinking before I even left the house because I absolutely cannot resist BARBECUED RIBS and HOMEMADE MAC & CHEESE under any circumstances.
I am not proud of the fact that I basically undid the last 4 days of progress in this one day- I feel terrible about it actually!- but I can't let it discourage me either. These changes to my life are not going to be instant and there are several good choices that I do recognize:
I made sure to fill up on a reasonably healthy breakfast before beginning my day and, instead of a full lunch, I spaced out two small, healthy snacks before arriving to save on calories and to act as a "filler".
At the barbecue, I ate moderate portions and I didn't get seconds- which took just about all the will power I had because it was so good! Instead, I distracted myself with activities and conversation.
I didn't have any alcohol or soda. Generally, I don't drink much of either anyway, but in this type of setting I'll usually have one or two (or three *shhh*... lol).
Of these I *can* be proud. Each is a small victory that bring me closer to my goals!
Member Comments About This Blog Post
You know, everyone needs a treat, and it's smart to not deny yourself what you want (you set yourself up for failure when you say "I can't have that") I've found something as simple as eating an apple or salad first and then eating want I really want helps me eat less....like, if I want some chicken wings, I'll eat a salad first, and then have a couple of my beloved wings, and then I'm good. Craving is at bay and I can still feel good that I didn't blow my whole day.
I promise it will get easier for you, before you know it your body will tell you exactly what it wants (and doesn't want).
2077 days ago
Honestly, I feel like you did pretty well. I am proud of the good choices that you mad at the BBQ - eating a healthy snack prior to going, not drinking alcohol/soda, no second plate, etc. Also, I am proud of the good choices you made that day - eating a healthy breakfast. I also love that you knew that there would be temptation, so you were prepared. I would say to eat a healthy breakfast, lunch, and snack before the next event. I would say about 1-1.5 spoonfuls of the foods that you want.
It's important to go to these events because a part of being healthy is also being happy. Be proud of the accomplishments you made at the BBQ.
2079 days ago
REIKE_RAE I never thought of that strategy! Now that you've suggested it I kinda feel like DUH! I should've thought of that lol. Next time, I will try that to see which works best for me. And yes, I am also finding that CONSISTENCY is definitely the name of the game!
GREENMTNGIRLNO1 Thank you so much! and you are so welcome! We can do this together :D
2079 days ago
Pat yourself on the back and hold your head high. Like with any major change in life we all have slip ups and you did better in the situation than I would have! KUDOS!!!
Your honest with yourself and thats a big thing!
Also wanted to thank you for the friend add and again for the encouraging words
2080 days ago
Girl, I TOTALLY understand where you're coming from. I felt the same way when I had a night out with friends. It definitely is discouraging BUT now that I've been on this site for 2 weeks I can see that, Yes, I've have had 2 big calories days due to friends' activities, but that I've been consistent every day. 2 days out of 14 is pretty good!
I would call your day a great success actually! You went in with a focused game plan by starting with a healthy breakfast and spreading out your lunch over 2 snacks. That is an awesome strategy to still give your body what it needs but still leaving room for fun. Next time (and yes there will be a next time!) try going ahead and eating your normal Spark meals before the 'event' and see if that helps you not to eat as much b/c you're full. Then you can compare how many calories you end up consuming and decide which way of eating will be best for you.
For me, if I know I'm meeting for something in the evening, then I eat most of my calories b/c I'm full by the time the event comes around and I'm less likely to go overboard. If it starts the day or is lunch time, then I make sure to keep the remaining meals fiber-rich, nutrient-rich, (i.e. less processed as possible for quick digestion), and on the smaller size.
Remember "Consistency" is more about 'trends over time' as opposed to being perfect. Perfection is a process, not a goal. Love to you!
2080 days ago
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