Sunday, August 07, 2011
When I look at my life I would have to say that I am a reasonably successful person. Yet despite the things I have accomplished in my personal and professional life, I always feel lacking. I never feel that I quite measure up to others - someone is always smarter, prettier, more popular, a better spouse etc... I never seem to fit in. I never feel good enough. I have come to realize that this is very self destructive thinking. The biggest problem for people like me is that we judge ourselves by the standards of others. Often we are unhappy because we judge ourselves by some unrealistic standard, which has often to do the expectations set by other people and society which is in effect comparing ourself with others. If we can accept ourselves for who we are we will be able to judge our self improvement not by criteria set by others, but by our own previous marks. Being you personal best is more that anyone can ask for.
I am trying to learn how to focus on the positive. I spend to much time thinking about my faults and failings. These thoughts occupy to much of mind, leaving no room for me to appreciate my good qualities. If I can accept myself as I am, warts and all, I can then focus on increasing and expanding my good qualities.