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Civility

Thursday, August 04, 2011

Let me start by saying that I do not recall a time in my life where I was thin...ever. I am 38 years old now and have lived the majority of those years realizing a couple of things.
1. I am larger than most people.
2. It is socially acceptable to be mean to overweight and/or obese people.

So, a little while after my 37th birthday, I realized that I want to be able to physically do more than I could and started exercising. I saw some weight coming off and my clothes fitting better and decided maybe I would try this lifestyle change thing.

I must confess that I have been picked on, made fun of, bullied, etc. for my weight, but NEVER has anything hurt more than the comments people make when they are trying to "help" me. So called "friends" (they are actually only acquaintances) want to talk to me about my "problem" and offer me heartless and rude advice. Why is it that once someone learns about the journey you are on, they feel like they deserve input, explanations, and information?

So, if you are one of these people:

No, I don't have a "problem." I have an opportunity to change my life as I see fit, not YOU.
No, I will NOT try some crazy fad diet or take any sort of pills or supplements in order to accomplish MY goals.
No, I will NOT starve myself.
No, I have never even considered surgery.
No, I really do NOT want to hear about what worked for you, your uncle, or your second cousin's girlfriend's brother.

and Guess What? If I am not sleeping with you and we are NOT personal friends and I am not paying you for your professional opinion, you have no right to MY personal information....including, but not limited to my clothes size, weight, calorie intake, workout schedule, etc.

In short, please exercise some civility and keep your hateful albeit well meaning comments to yourself. Stereotypes hurt just as do backhanded compliments. Just because I may realize that I am overweight, that does not give YOU the right to comment on my weight. I assure you that my weight is bothering you more than it is me...so, keep it to yourself. emoticon
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  • v MONKEYJO3
    And then yell it from the rooftops! Love it!! emoticon
    1811 days ago
  • v NEED2MOVE2
    Well said! emoticon
    1817 days ago
  • v CIVIAV
    Your acquaintances could learn something from you. Classy lady with a powerful attitude.

    emoticon , you will do it and for the best reason of all, you said so...
    1817 days ago
  • v UMBILICAL
    So well said. No one defines who you are but you and I like your style.
    1818 days ago
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