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Sharing from In These Rooms - Honesty, Willingness, Openness

Saturday, July 30, 2011

Many of you may know me from the 12 step programs I have been active in. I freely want to share my experience, strength and hope today. And remember that there is a solution today.
HOW it works for me. Honesty, Willingness and Openness. Today I am an open book, willing to go to any lengths for my health and wellness, so that I may be of service to others. So that I may live a vibrant and happy life. For me... Honesty is absolutely critical.

Yes, it takes Willingness. And Openness which for me was very hard, as I had a lot of shame issues. But I am done with shame. I am proud today, I am in recovery from compulsive overeating. One day at a time, sometimes one minute at a time, sometimes one second at a time. I get a daily reprieve if I work it, if I put myself in my Higher Power's hands, who gives me unconditional love, always...

Yes, I once used food as a drug, as a friend who was always there for me. Such poppycock, today, food is simply food. I enjoy food. I savour it. I use it to heal my body. Yes, it is mood altering, hence I make much wiser choices today, which has given me a new found freedom.

One Day at a Time.
Lady Di

from In These Rooms, daily meditation...

July 30

Keeping secrets is a foolish attempt to stay safe from the truth. We tell ourselves we are sparing another person or protecting ourselves, but all too often the secrets that we keep actually keep us. What people need from me in order to make sense of me is the truth. When I withhold that truth, I withhold myself. I am creating distance that no one can cross because the way across the divide is the way of honesty. I cannot make something better by lying, and I cannot be fully understood if I won't give the benefit of the truth. I can live my life in a web of lies without ever uttering a falsehood. The web of lies is composed of not just what I say, but the vast amount of honesty that I withhold.

There is a difference between considerate honesty and aggressive frankness. Honesty recognizes the personhood of both people and is an act of trust; but too much frankness can border on mean.

I see honesty as an act of trust.

The weakness of a soul is proportionate to the number of truths that must be kept from it.
Eric Hoffer
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    Such a beautiful message. Very courageous. Thanks for sharing.
    2371 days ago
    I appreciate your enthusiasm. emoticon
    2371 days ago
    Beautiful! Honesty and openess is where it's at. I attended OA for 2.5 years many years ago; have alot of respect for the 12 steps.
    2374 days ago
  • HEALTHY156
    Beautiful! "Secrets make you sick". This is what I told myself under hypnosis and it has really stuck with me. Thanks for sharing this insight.
    2401 days ago
  • SAL1512
    Congratulations on your new found freedoms!
    2403 days ago
    Honesty with yourself is the absolute 1st place to start and always be true to yourself. If you can conquer this you have won 1/2 the battle.
    2406 days ago
    Thank you. Honesty with myself is a challenge too.
    After that, honesty with others.
    Thank you.
    2406 days ago
    Thank you. Honesty with myself is a challenge too.
    After that, honesty with others.
    Thank you.
    2406 days ago
    Hi Lady Di - my new sparkfriend! Thank you for sharing your heart in such a vulnerable way. May God bless you on your journey toward health and wellness. He carries your shame for you. I look forward to seeing your forward progress in this life we have!

    We are rooting for you!
    Julia : )
    2412 days ago
    I LOVE that quote from Eric Hoffer. It is absolutely, positively true. Too much of life is deceit and delusion....and we are all in it together, for good or ill. To be alive is to have weaknesses and foibles, but we have to meet them head-on in order to ever conquer them. I sometimes think that is why we are here, really. Thank you for posting this!
    2415 days ago
  • SAMI199
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    2418 days ago
    Very nice. I love your description of honesty.
    2420 days ago
    Lady Di - I, too, learned the hard way through a long, painful journey that nothing in my life was ever going to change until I was WILLING to be OPEN and HONEST about who I was and where I was and how I had gotten there. I spent many, many decades in "darkness"--literally and figuratively, thinking that the darkness covered over my shame and guilt and kept others from guessing my guilty secrets. NOT!

    Today I am totally transparent---an open book, like you say. And I am an entirely different person: happier than I've ever been, content, satisfied, at peace!
    2420 days ago
    sobering. Thank you for sharing
    2421 days ago
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