Thursday, July 28, 2011
July has been a month that will go down as the most stressful month of my life. In a matter of two and a half weeks I had more thrown at me than most do in a year. I have emerged 1.5 pounds lighter, happy, and honestly stronger and more self confident than before.
Here is the run down in order: 1. Monday July 11, the car broke down while my daughter and I were on our way home on a day with a heat index of 110. My family only has one car and I work 11 miles from my home. Resolution: I was watching my neighbor's cat and she had given me her car key and said I could use it if I needed to, so I could still get to work, and I watched the kids at my parent's house a couple of days so they could go to their VBS. My friend came and picked us up. The shop gave me $150 off the alternator, the battery and towing were covered by a warranty, AND the shop detailed my car for free. The price tag should have been $700ish, but was $420, not great but could have been worse! 2. Tuesday July 12, the night before my thesis defense for my Masters in History I was told my thesis was being rejected and I would have to rewrite/fix about one-fifth of it in less than a week in order to graduate in August. Resolution: I ended up getting the week off of work which allowed me to work, and I did it! I fixed it, defended it, and submitted it last night. 3. Saturday July 16, I rolled my ankle. It may have actually fractured a bit, I don't know. I couldn't go to the hospital because my health insurance ended July 1. Resolution: my parents lent me some crutches and I have toughed it out. I'm lucky my husband has been VERY helpful. 4. We had a basement full of stuff from our landlord and previous roommates, so we got a dumpster. While we split the cost with the landlord it was pretty much her stuff. She had so much crap we couldn't fit the rest of our stuff in it. Resolution: some guys stopped by and asked it they could go through it, I said "YES! Take ANYTHING!" They took about half of the stuff, and offered to move my piano for $40. The piano would have cost over $200 to move if they hadn't done it. Then last night they took another truck load of stuff so we can actually put all of our basement things in the garage until the basement renovation is completed.
5. We had to be out of our duplex by Monday July 25, BUT couldn't start moving into our new place until the day before. We had about 12 hours to move but the garage was still full of the previous tenant's junk. Resolution: We had a couple of friends help and we moved as fast as we could. I apologized to the new tenants that we didn't have time to clean the kitchen, bathroom or basement. They are kinda of annoyed with us, but we moved out in 12 hours so they could paint, but they haven't touched the walls with paint yet and it it Thursday...SOOO I don't feel bad! :) (Choosing not to worry about it!) 6. The house looked SO run down when we began to move in. Resolution: We put pictures on the walls, cleaned, and rearranged and it is looking good. After a coat of paint we'll be good to go!
Through out all of this we have had friends and family who have stepped up and helped with watching our daughter, helped us move, and the family I babysit for has been VERY understanding.
Again, that is all since July 11. It is a lot. I have been stressed to the max, but have told myself it will all work out. I just repeat: "it is ok, you have friends and family who will help!" We are very lucky to have such good friends and family that are willing to help when we need it. I have made the choice not to get too worked up about things. I am taking one day at a time and letting things slide that aren't important, and working through problems as they arise. Happiness can be a choice. I think many would look at the above and have been angry and frustrated. Don't get me wrong, I had my moments, but they passed and then I picked myself back up, got on the computer/phone and fixed the problems one by one.