Obstacles in our path
Thursday, July 28, 2011
I actually wrote this as a response to a friend's blog. I hope she doesn't mind me sharing it here.
"Life is good"! I preach this. I believe this. I live this the best I can, BUT we humans all seem to have weaknesses that keep throwing obstacles into our paths of simple living. I think we usually recognize that we somehow have put these roadblocks there ourselves, but still we have a difficult time removing them. I've never known anyone who was in total control all of the time or neither have I met anyone who was totally happy with who they are. We all have thoughts like: I'm too fat; I'm too skinny; I wish I were a blonde: I wish I had her beautiful dark hair; my nose is too big; my nose is too little; I'm too hairy; nobody really likes me; I'll never be able to do that; I wish I wasn't so old; I wish I was old enough to be retired - never are we totally happy with who we are. I wonder why?
Then these feelings seem to control our actions: we emotionally eat; we drink too much at times; we over react and spend ridiculous amounts of time working out; we develop eating disorders; we do things to impress others that we normally wouldn't do; we beat ourselves up and we let ourselves get drug down.
Then, thankfully, most of us here have found that we're pretty much normal. We're going to sometimes lose our battles with our destructive egos, but we're going to win even more of them with the help of our friends who have recognized the same things about themselves. Many of those friends we've found here at SP and for you and me, some of those friends hang around a place we call "The Deck".
We're human - we have flaws, but we also have the ability to compensate for these flaws. Let's help each other get past the barriers in our lives and reach that place where "life is good". We can do it!
Member Comments About This Blog Post
Healthy, happier, stronger, more determined, yes the people on the deck have these qualities to share with others who may be having a hard time tapping into their potential. Combined with some fun, lots of imagination, and caring...the deck is my virtual place for rest, relaxation and global friendships. Your blog was as if it was meant for each of us individually on any given day...true words, discovering what controls our actions, defining "normal"....soul searching for answers to why we sometimes head towards self destruction....all topics worth thinking about,and to find laughter, hugs and support as Kay put it.....we have a delightful oasis to escape to and not be judged! ***SNOW***
1985 days ago
I love that we can all come together for support, fun, and laughter, and lots of hugs....what a wonderful world you've created on the deck!
Life is good....
1985 days ago
The thing about you, Wood, is that you take everyday moments and make them beautiful. You don't try to make them perfect; you just make them simple and pure and beautiful.
I guess you know that you were the first person to invite me over to the deck. You had read one of my blogs - the one about participating - and you said that you thought you had a good place for me to visit. I was telling Maui this story the other day, and I mentioned how meaningful it was to me that you were the first person to invite me over. How symbolic it was, really, because there are things about you that remind me of my dad. So I came to the deck and then things picked up from there and I met lots of other people, but I never stopped thinking of you and the role you played in getting me there. Just like my dad, you have this very calm presence. You come and go, but you are always present. Does that make sense? And then there are other words that come to mind too - like teacher and mentor and listener - and you are all of those things, too.
Yes, you're right, it took you a little while to read my blog post, but the funny thing is that you were actually right on time. Because, as it turns out, this morning was when I needed a pick-me-up the most. And you were all of that and then some.
2000 days ago
Wood- I too enjoy your words... so well said.
Cassie too...well said.
I think too, when we choose to surround ourselves with people making healthy choices...we are healthier, happier and stronger.
And yes...The Deck is just such a place.
2000 days ago
Great blog Wood! One of the most important things I learned from spark people is the mental obstacles we all throw at ourselves. I remember when I first started exercising...I was so afraid that I would hurt myself and spiral backward with symptoms of my illness. But I had to trick my brain into pushing through and it was and still is so, so worth it! Even if I do push through and have backlash..it is worth it. Because I know that I am doing all that I can to keep myself healthy. We all fight our own mental battles...I just am fighting less thanks to spark and spark friends like you who remind me of just how good life is!
2000 days ago
thank you my friend . these are all words we all should live by , and yes life is good !
2001 days ago
I have come to realize that:
1) we all come from dysfunctional families :)
2) we all have our own demons
3) we all are pretty much normal with all our shortcomings!
I love reading your words. Thank you for them, and its a lucky person who received them as a response to their blog.
2001 days ago
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