Tuesday, July 26, 2011
Philippians 2:5 “Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus…”
1 Corinthians 2:16b “…but we have the mind of Christ.”
Today I woke up quaking in my boots. I’m coming up on an important meeting tomorrow night with my parents. The nature of the meeting is regarding my son’s care and education, and likely we will be discussing some interpersonal relating styles. Obviously I am highly invested, AND I am WAY out of my comfort zone here, heading into a very potentially emotionally-charged situation. I am normally a person who likes to ignore things and hope they change. Now that I’m over 40, it’s not working so well for me any more!
After telling God how scared I am, I thought about my stance. Knowing that I am supposed to be making a list of “expectations” to bring to the meeting, and knowing that my Mom will also be bringing her list, my mental stance so far has been to try to figure out how to counter, to answer her concerns (what I perceive will be more like allegations), to tit-for-tat, in a sense. I have envisioned a pretty ugly encounter. Given the nature of our meeting about 10 days ago, humanly speaking, I can see how it could fairly easily degenerate to some real ugliness.
So I have a decision to make. Where am I going to land? What is my attitude going to be? What does God want from me in this?
Almost as soon as I considered this, the Philippians 2:5 verse came to mind… “Your attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus…” Huh? What does that mean? I look at the rest of the chapter (Philippians 2), and I realize, it means laying down my perceived “rights”. It means humility. It means being a servant. It means no selfish ambition or vain conceit. It means considering others more important than myself. It means being loving. It means considering my own interests, yes, but also watching out for others’ interests.
My heart sank as I realized, “I can’t DO those things! I don’t know HOW to be humble!” Then immediately another thought came, “…we have the mind of Christ.” (see 1 Cor. 2:16) If I can suspend disbelief and wrap my little brain around that one for a few seconds and take this promise seriously, then what prevents me from having Christ’s attitude? I already have His MIND, why can’t I have His ATTITUDE? I don’t mean like trying to muster up enough moxie to manufacture it on my own, I mean like LITERALLY Christ’s attitude taking over this woman (me), and his life being lived by HIM in me? I am completely confounded.
This changes the direction I thought I needed to go.
According to Philippians 2:1, I am united with Christ. I need to rest in that encouragement. We are inseparable. He will be at this meeting, I am not alone. He already knows what will happen. He is in control, I am not. I need to take a deep breath, a gentler approach, and wait for His lead. In the end, I need to shift focus from trying to please my Mom, or pleasing myself, to pleasing Christ. GAME CHANGER!