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Thoughts About Life, After Dying Twice

Sunday, July 24, 2011

Some of you may tire of me talking about it, but this is something that I live with everyday. My thought pattern has changed, whether I like it or not. Many wonder, "why am I here?" or "what is my destiny?" I can say that these questions haunt me more than ever now. After some reflection, I have come up with some interesting thoughts:

Live like you were living. Some say that you should live like you are dying. To some extent I would agree with this. We shouldn't take loved ones for granted and we should make every opportunity count. Here we have this two-sided coin. On one hand we should sieze the day. On the other hand, we should take action to not be careless. When I hear "live like you are dying" the first thoughts are to throw caution to the wind. Go sky-diving. Eat cake. Whatever. There is a place for all of that, but I also think we should plan our future, build our networks, and take care of ourselves.

Serve one another. The whole "what am I here for" question has bounced around in my head more often than anyone can imagine. And to the best of my ability, I believe we are all here to serve one another. That is what makes social networking sites and sites like SparkPeople so powerful, they build connections and give us hope that we are serving one another. Whether it is a blog, a status update, whatever it is...we are benefiting one another.

Know what you believe. At some point in your life, your foundation will be rocked. When life is going well, it is easy to discount this. It is during this time that you need to explore where, what, or who your safety net is. When, not if, the tide turns there needs to be something that will catch your thoughts. I can't tell you how many times I have awaken at night, thinking this was my final moment on earth. Thanks to a strong belief system and having confidence in my network, I am able to remain stable.

There is nothing here that is negative. This is all positive stuff. Work towards building your network up, serve one another, and know who, what, and where to fall back onto. This may not solve all of life's questions, but it will help in getting there.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
ANGEL636 8/16/2011 10:03AM

    OMG you are truly blessed. I lost my dad aged 48 & my brother aged 34 both from cardiac arrest. I am an intensive care nurse so give of myself selflessly every day. I also teach my daughters to practice random acts of kindness.
Keep up the great work & make it count!

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LAURIEMN 7/29/2011 11:52AM

    Good to read that you are hanging in there, Ryan. I recently (July 19) blogged about my experience in having a heart attack at age 35. That was 17 years ago for me. Like you, my heart was good, pipes were all clear, low cholesterol, low blood pressure. I simply had a heart attack. In my experience, the emotional side of having a brush with death is more difficult than the physical side. My two children were ages 7 and 11; and they needed their Mom, just as your two kiddos need their Dad. Now that I am farther down the journey, I know that it will get less scary, yet you will continue to appreciate each and every day. God Bless and keep you and your family as you continue down the path of recovery.

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SKYRUNHER 7/29/2011 9:58AM

    those are words to take to heart Ryan.. I'm glad you are still here to give them to us.

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LUIGIE 7/29/2011 6:49AM

  I agree totally. We are supposed to love others as ourselves, and serving brings happiness to both giver and receiver.

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MOUSTER 7/26/2011 5:15PM

    that is a wonderful blog!! And i can relate to a lot of what you wrote. so glad you are still here with us.. How have you been doing???

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ABRANNEWME2014 7/24/2011 10:23PM

    What a wonderful blog...I'm always hoping that I'm serving someone other then myself...It's a wonderful thing to do so..


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