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Thursday, July 14, 2011

I am completely overwhelmed. I'm still sticking to my calories, but I haven't been able to log correctly a couple of times this week. I've already had to drop all other exercise other than gardening. I never get to comment on blogs anymore. I don't have time to immerse myself, support, and be supported....

My garden is beautiful. I love having all of the goodies that come out of it. However, all the hoeing, picking, weeding, trimming, canning, freezing, chopping and everything else that goes with it (which is a lot more) is incredibly time consuming.

Then there's my money situation. We're not just "tight" on money. We're, to put it the only way I know how, are on a slippery slope right now. We can't seem to get a foothold. So I've been couponing. I felt I was doing a pretty dang good job... until I talked to hubby today. He's still upset with the amount I've been spending. I don't get it, I've spent roughly $60 this month on "needs" items (things that aren't bills or food) and I've gotten about $100 worth of things. All from couponing and catching sales. Hours of searching the net for deals, clipping the coupons, scouring sale bills..

I'm feeling defeated. Overwhelmed... drowning more like it. These are the three biggest things going on in my life, and those things on top of raising 3 kids and all of the cooking/cleaning etc. that needs to be done. And I haven't slacked off on my "regular" duties either. Kids aren't going without baths, the lawn is getting cut every week.. I've not even taken the shortcut of putting the laundry in the dryer (still been hanging them on the line). Laundry, might I add, that has STAYED caught up! I've been doing it all! But it doesn't seem like it's enough. It never is...

And guess who's having to go onto the back burner again? Yeah. Me. Again. Including my health. I'm still eating pretty well... it's ingrained into me now. I'm still active. Haha that's funny! Who wouldn't be with all that to do! I know to some it may not seem like much, and granted there are things that I, of course, didn't mention, but it IS a lot. And then to top it all off my hubby is saying that I lasted longer than he thought I would with "all that health stuff". And also, "I told you the garden would be too much for you." I started the garden so we could save money! Oh and, "Don't complain, you're the one who wanted the clothes line." Again, trying to save money.

Now don't get me wrong, I have a wonderful hubby. If you don't believe me, go back in my blogs and you'll find me mentioning how great he is. He's just... pessimistic, and well, he thinks some things I get aren't needs. Like fabric softener. Or lean ground beef instead of the cheaper stuff. I know we could do without those things, and sometimes I wonder if he's right. Maybe I should just stop buying stuff like that. I don't know anymore. All I know for sure is that I need a break. Badly.
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  • SANDIE63
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    2229 days ago
  • TRUE-NESS
    Take the break that you need. Take the time to talk to hubby about what/how he believes you can help. Does he find the things you are doing helpful or not. As you said, you started those things to be a blessing to your family and to save money. I'm assuming your hubby if the primary breadwinner. If hubby doesn't want money to be saved and would rather you pool your time and efforts into something else then you guys need to discuss that. I hope you will be able to come to an agreement and decision about what the two of you want for your family. I pray your peace, strength and continued health.
    2229 days ago
  • TBID227
    You are doing so well! Don't forget that and the coupon savings will start to add up! I don't know if you have tried this (it works with downy) BUT you can basically add half softener and half water and still get super soft laundry! Something I learned in college! And as for the higher fat beef, we used to always drain it after cooking on a paper towel, you can actually lose quite a bit of the fat that way and still have healthy fare! And here is something that you could do, tell him to do the shopping for a week... See if he finds it easy or take him along, sometimes we need those eye openers...

    You are making the best of what you have and do not forget that ever. You do so much, take care of so many and hopefully don't have to completely put yourself on the back burner. You are getting in loads of activity/ exercise with all that you do every day with the garden, please don't discount that! I know the last time I raked/used a hoe/etc, my back, arms, legs, etc felt it quite a bit!

    Hang in there and try not to get discouraged, I think you are doing great!
    2229 days ago
  • TAMARA6905
    Money trouble is the worst. It changes people! I think you're doing a great job with the garden and the couponing, he's just stressed right now! I wish there was something that I could do to help you! Just keep your head up, God will provide!
    2230 days ago
  • MJ-SHE-BEAST
    Angel, the stress of money being so tight is taking a toll on both of you...it is normal for this to happen. You are his safe place and he knows he can take his frustrations out on you, fair or not, because you are going to be there for him through it all. I'm sure the same can be said for you being able to "dump" on him even when you know you aren't being totally fair. When things get better, and they WILL, you will both be telling each other what a great job you did getting the family through the rough times. I'm so amazed at all you do not only to save money but just in the hard work you take on in caring for all of you. I am still praying for a change for the better for you all. God bless.
    2230 days ago
  • THELILEA
    I'm sorry to hear of all these outside sources that are causing you so much strife. Trying to do the healthy eating/weight loss stuff is a struggle all by its lonesome, so that's a LOT!
    Kudos to you for creating such a plentiful garden!! And, as you said, it's saving you money AND keeping you active. Kind of like getting paid to work out, eh? :)
    I'm sorry your husband isn't seeing the extra VALUE of the leaner beef, and otehr healthier foods. Luckily one of you does see the value it has for you and your whole family. Mention the money you are saving on all those delicious organic veggies!!

    You are doing all the right things and an amazing job of keeping it all together. Try not to beat yourself up about what MORE you COULD be doing for your personal journey. You'll get there by putting one foot in front of the other, as you have been.
    I'm going to friend you so I can be inspired by watching you overcome such even more overwhelming conditions than I face. You inspire me!
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    2230 days ago
  • NEELIXNKES
    Ditto Caligirl.

    I hope you can make some time to sit down and soothe your soul with your favorite book, music, or movie and just rest for a bit.

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    2230 days ago
  • POOKASLUAGH
    Money trouble is so awful and spreads so much emnity even amongst people who love each other. I hope you two find a compromise that will work for the both of you. :(
    2230 days ago
  • CALIGIRLDIANA
    Girlie take a deep breath, you have so much going on in your life. You definitely need a break sounds like you are on the go all the time. I don't even know how you do all those things on your own. Things might be a little tough right now but things will get better, in the mean time you need to take a break for you. Your body can't be on the go all the time. You are doing great with what you are given. Don't ever doubt yourself. Take care girlie.
    2230 days ago
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