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Tuesday, July 12, 2011

Ok I'm not sure what to do. I either need some major inspiration or motivation or the 17 day diet is just another diet I give up on.
I was so motivated at first and did well. but the last couple weeks I've actually put back ona couple pounds. I have nobody to blame but myself. Since I got sick my exercise has significantly decreased but I've also fallen off the diet and cheated...more then once. I found I'm back to my old ways of snacking at night and emotionally eating.
I was watching a show the other night about a guy who is a food addict. I feel like in some ways that's me. I eat for many reasons but often it seems to be to fill a void. I eat when I'm not even hungry...just mindless eating. Luckily I've only put on the couple pounds. I know it's mind over matter but I just can't seem to get myself going again.
I have been watching videos and it makes sense. I've let other people distract me from my goals. I've gone out for meals which aren't always appropriate because people want me to. I've not exercised because other people need my time.
I did some thinking last night...i've always tended to put other people and their needs first.I realize it's because I feel selfish if I put myself first. For some reason I feel like if I'm acting in a selfish way that people will be angry or not love me.(I even feel guilty if i head out to the gym and the dog has been alone all day while i was at work, feel like i should be home with him...i know ridiculous) I've always had an issue with self esteem and have had bad relationships in the past. Often felt like if I didn't do things for people then they would leave cause why else would they be with me.
I do not want to be like this...I need something to jump start me again. I need to organize and schedule my time so that I have some time to look after me. I can say that I will do this but quickly get sidetracked when someone needs me).
Something has to change...I know it's my attitude and thought process...just not sure how to do it.
I will keep trying...I really dont' want to give up on what has been working!
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

IMJUSTFLUFFY 7/14/2011 1:17AM

    It is a lifetime change...your health is important...the older one gets the worse our bodies suffer from bad choices.
Joints suffer, especially knees, feet, ankles, heart, arteries and on and on!
Just ask me....I can attest to that!
Take care of are important. You are worth the time and effort you put into yourself.
So, don't happy!
Put yourself first.
Good luck getting the groove back!

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LINDA_Z 7/13/2011 8:06PM

    Thanks for all the encouragment and ideas. I just have to give myself a good smack and get back on track. Think due to health issues i will do cycle 2. I just have to remotivate myself. Thanks again!!!

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GABBY308 7/13/2011 5:42PM

    Have you checked out our topic on "Affirmations, Visualizations and meditation"? It's under General Discussion. Those techniques really do help. Self-hypnosis helps, as does hypnosis from a professional. I actually bought a weight loss CD from the self hypnosis network before I started this diet and I swear it worked. It got me in the right mind set to pick a diet and stay on it. I listened to the CD's for the first 2 weeks I was on this plan. Now I don't feel I need them. If the visualizations and self hypnosis aren't enough, I'll start listening to them again.

Under the topic "Articles, books etc.", scroll way down to the 2nd post from the bottom I described 3 books that also helped me. The Self-Compassion Diet by Jean Fain is probably the one I would recommend the most but all are good. emoticon

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JAHMS1970 7/13/2011 1:57PM

    I don't have any great advice. I wish I did!! Then I could use it on myself if and/or when I end up there again. Just know I'm rooting for you! You can hop right back on and "just say no" (like the no-drugs ads on tv! lol) to all the unhealthy stuff.


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DAISYBUG1972 7/13/2011 10:25AM

  Start telling yourself that if you take time for yourself it will make you happier and healthier and more able to help others. That's what I did and it helped tremendously. It stopped me from feeling selfish, and made me realize that if I get sick, run down, tired etc, I am no good to anyone else.

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BABYSOX 7/13/2011 8:23AM

    You hit the nail on the need to put yourself first this time. By making yourself a priority and being at your best, you will have more energy for others and will be able to give back so much more.
I watched the same show and saw parts of me in the food addict. It gave me a push to continue doing what I am doing.
Good luck with your journey!

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HUNGRYWOMAN2 7/13/2011 6:04AM

    Taking time for yourself is definitely not a selfish thing to do. For those who feel it necessry to take care of everything and everyone it is themselves they usually put last.This is an extremely difficult habit to break. However, not taking care of you will make it impossible to take care of all the other areas in your life. You deserve just as much care and attention. You are extremely insightful and strong. You have had many successes and each should be celebrated. You may try focusing on how far you have come. This journey is not always a smoothe one. You have found things which work for you. Keep with those, and know that you are definitely not alone. We are here for you. emoticon
On a personal note I would like to thank you for sharing. emoticon emoticon
I wish you the best as you continue your endeavors towards your goals.

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NEW-CAZ 7/13/2011 3:11AM

    Linda eating healthily and having time for yourself is not selfish it's essential.We all need some me time; be it our exercise session or just sitting and listening to music.
Be kind to yourself, you're doing well and 2 pounds here or there is not the end of the world- our weight does flucuate from week to week.
Lose your weight slowly and it'll stay off.
We all feel low when progress is halted but you'll get there! emoticon

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BENTONHEALTHY 7/12/2011 9:14PM

    Putting it down on paper, thinging about it is a good step. Now think about it while exercising :) I think I am a better person to others when I feel healthy and fit. Everyone benefits. If you keep towards your goal your self esteem will be boosted. I have to regroup many times over. Nothing wrong with that. You can do it and this is a life plan. I don't think we ever can stop but we can readjust. And yes I think I am a food addict or at least I leaned on food to handle problems. But honestly, it really never did, --it just created more problems. You can do this and I know you will!

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DANCINCAJUN1 7/12/2011 9:04PM

    You have lost a lot of weight .... and you have done well in maintaining ... look at all the positives ... you can do this ... maybe go back to the 1st phase and follow to see if you can get that momentum started up again ...

I really commend you if you only gained 2 pounds ... you MUST be doing something right so apparently you have learned a lot about eating to maintain.

I think we all get a little down a bit when we don't lose ... but we just cannot give up ... we must just dust off and go for it !! we feel better and we definitely look better ..

We're here for you ... hang in there with us !!

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