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Saturday, July 09, 2011

Confessions. Compelling yet completely humbling: I've been freewheeling for about 2 months. Weighed myself a week ago (it took real courage, I tell you) and how surprised to see it had moved slightly DOWN since last time. Wow. I can actually tackle this heavy weight on my shoulders (nice unintended pun). And up the ante, I'm sure!

Not to add any pressure, I've slowly started reading SP posts after a 2 months abstinence. After ignoring friends for a couple of months, one feels a little sheepish on your return, you know. Good to know there are still people out there who haven't given up the struggle, but I may have to work on my friendship skills ...

At least I hosted a 'Tannie Tea' today (Tannie = affectionate diminutive of Aunt or older female friend in Afrikaans, my mother tongue).

My goodness, it takes a firm resolve to invite a group of octogenarians around for soup and sandwiches! Early in the morning the phone calls started with feeble voices explaining why blood pressure/arthritis/failing sight/a tight chest prevented attendance. (Ironically, these same ones will lament in a month or so that "Nobody EVER invites me to their home!") Tried my best to coax them, but not very successfully. Felt a little deflated (especially when meeting some at the supermarket later, looking quite perky!)

Be that as it may, I had to remind myself to focus on the 11 who pitched up. More happiness in giving and all that! And we had such fun, sharing experiences and inspiration and singing songs together (even though many of us can't hold a note to save our lives! ;-)

So tonight I feel a little tired, but totally satisfied, happy to look for more ways to reach out to others instead of thinking only of my own difficulties. Always puts things into perspective.

But I still have to face that scale!
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BOOKWERME 12/25/2011 9:28AM

    Just think of those who refused the invitation and later hear what fun you all had...perhaps THAT will serve as incentive next time they are invited. There are possibly others that feel more comfortable with more of a one-on-one environment rather than a group gathering. I used to host gatherings of the entire congregation, but now feel much more comfortable with just one or two other couples/families. Whatever the reasons, how wonderful that you HAD the gathering and INVITED the ladies (whether they came or not).

I haven't done anything like that in ages..but am seriously considering a "Sisters in Stitches" open house type gathering soon...have everyone bring something to share along with some handwork to work on. Just don't know what to do with all the children who may be along, too.

Good for you to be reaching out!

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TREVUG 7/11/2011 6:36PM

    Well that's okay. You had a good time with the ones who came. I think some of us don't always appreciate the importance of getting together with one another socially. We know it should be in moderation, as everything else, but sometimes the friends go a little overboard on their thinking. We need to know each other. I am sure if someone has a legitimate health concern, like Betty, we would all understand. Glad you had a good time.


And glad to have you back! I was just wondering where you were last night.

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CELEST 7/11/2011 4:11PM

    Wow 11 came, thats a wonderful number. Of course I dont know how many you invited. But you are right, focus on the 11 that came thats a lot of friends.
We had a breakfast "party" to welcome a newly baptized one and we had a good few come and a good few turn it down....thats life. Some people have real reasons why they cant come, and others toss excuses out like bones to a dog.
Appreciate the real problems, and dont worry about the others.

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BEEBEE1936 7/10/2011 5:49PM

    Interesting blog. But, sometimes I am the one who calls and says that "sorry but I can't come". Right now I am dealing with a new problem in my life, I don't want to leave the house. It is a struggle to go to the meetings or anywhere for that matter. Recently I have been falling asleep while driving, so I haven't been driving because I'm so afraid of having an accident and hurting someone. I had a sleep study and will get the results tomorrow. So as we get older we have weird changes in our lives. But if I make the effort to go I always enjoy myself.


Betty

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ONLYTEMPORARY 7/9/2011 11:32PM

    Oh, yes! Tells a lot.

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