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body image

Monday, July 04, 2011

so, i just took one of the quizzes that had to so with body image and i'm having a tough time with it. to be perfectly honest, i don't know if i'll ever be happy with my looks. this goes beyond weight issues: it has more to do with how i perceive myself no matter what i weigh. i really don't know how to get past this issue. i'm happy when i think about how i am making my body healthier and that i am doing positive things for myself, but i'm under no illusion that weighing less is going to make me that much more attractive. i would rather just concentrate on the health benefits and try not to think too much about how i look. i suppose i should be kinder to myself, but i just don't know how. if anyone has any suggestions or knows what it is like to feel this way i would love the feedback. emoticon
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MARKSTIPANOVSKY 12/7/2011 1:41PM

    Learning to love yourself is a skill... Learning to love your body is also a skill and skills can be practiced...

As anyone who practices anything knows - we can allude to perfection and be happy with ongoing progress. It helps to have a metaphor that works for you because beauty is in the eye of the beholder rather than a static measurement. I am not sure if I am explaining this well so I will continue for a bit more using me as a case study.

I went bald at a very young age - early 20's and chose to think of bald as a wise "bald eagle" rather than skinhead for life. When I was overweight I thought I looked cuddly rather than obese. I like to think I am maturing like a fine wine rather than ageing rapidly. My concept of old is getting older - I am now in my 40's and can remember thinking 21 was ancient...

I practice saying nice things to myself and others, practice doing nice things, go out of my way to enjoy nice views or places and "hey presto" my life is much nicer.

Celebrate your difference, my nose is a bit crooked, my body shape could be more toned (although probably in the best shape it has ever been) and I am coming to terms with the reality that I am OK...

Not drop dead handsome, but nice enough and I am grateful that my body is healthy and works perfectly. In fact that was what I was trying to explain - having a body that works perfectly is better than having a body that looks perfect but isn't....

Skinny fat is an example, or a skinny smoker. Rather a perfectly working body...

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SPARKLYNEW 7/7/2011 7:28AM

    This resonates with my own experience. I want to enjoy my body at all stages "down the scale" this time. I don't want to always be thinking "another 15 pounds and I'll be perfect." Seriously, even at goal weight before, I'd always think how a few more pounds would give me an edge, make me better, prettier, etc. I so want to change that this time!!!

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