The end is the means
Sunday, June 12, 2011
My journey to weight loss is part of a larger journey to happiness, and as my mom likes to say, the end is the means. By that, she means that the process of attaining a goal is an inextricable part of the end result.
Now, I know that disgust can be a powerful motivator, but for me, real and lasting change has always come from positivity. I find moving towards what really makes me happy is a lot easier than moving away from what makes me unhappy. Maybe other people are motivated differently; this is what trial and error has shown works for me.
So to that end, I'm trying to do things to up my happiness quotient each day. I listen to a lot more music, and it helps make even washing the dishes into a fun-filled dance. I've been taking those hot baths that I always meant to take but never quite got around to, with epsom salts, scented candles and magazines! I take the time to really enjoy my food, even if it's the same breakfast I usually eat.
And most importantly, I'm reaching out to my friends and making plans to do fun activities. This has become especially important since I started living alone again.
Yesterday, I met with three buddies for a day of making cards. We bring magazines, glitter, scissors, paper and glue, and we make collage cards and postcards. We've done it about four or five times now, and the best part is that we've incorporated a super-healthy potluck lunch into it.
My friends all have allergies or special dietary needs, so we eat these delicious, wheat-free, non-dairy, sugar-free, unprocessed meals. And even though we don't plan it in advance, we always have a terrifically balanced meal! Yesterday there was green salad, a savoury lentil salad, roast chicken breast with sundried tomatoes, and these crispy rice patties that were a revelation. And we had a fruit salad with homemade berry sorbet for dessert! It was so yummy, and it was crazy healthy too!!!
And now I have some beautiful (and some hilarious) homemade cards I can send to loved ones. I have two new delicious recipes that I will incorporate into my diet. And most importantly, I have great memories of unstructured time spent with old friends, and we have deepened our bond by sharing our real selves with each other.
All in all, a beautiful day. Another step on my journey to happiness. And you see, the step on the journey to happiness was itself happiness. The end really is the means.