Thursday, June 09, 2011
Like millions of other people in the United State, I have had a life-changing experience - the loss of my job. When I was first laid off, I went through a range of emotions akin to a grieving period; DENIAL - I felt like I was in a stupor for a while, numbly going through the motions of the day, watching days turn into weeks, weeks turn into months, ANGER - I was angry at everyone, no one understood what was happening to me, my anger left a bitter taste in my mouth, BARGAINING - "God, if only you would help me get this job, I promise I will be a better person..., DEPRESSION - this period lasted the longest, I still have remnants of it that come back to haunt my thoughts and prevent me from acting, and finally ACCEPTANCE - It took a long time for me to get to this point. I was too angry and depressed to accept any responsibility myself for my predicament. I was too eager to blame others. However, there were clues that I chose to ignore. Now I am willing to accept my role in this portion of my life and move on. I no longer want to be a Victim, but a Victor. The difference is just two little letters but a whole world of change. I may not be able to get employment with the same pay or benefits as before, I may not even be able to obtain a full-time job, but with a little hard work, a lot of honesty and perseverance, I will find something that will bring income into my household and have me contributing to Social Security, Medicare, and state and federal taxes again. I was a victim because I allowed myself to be. Now I am a victor because that is what I choose to be.