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taking the advice you give

Saturday, June 04, 2011

Sometimes listening to the advice that we give – is so hard – but should be easy. After all, the words are coming from our own mouths and our mouths and our ears really aren’t that far apart. But it’s sometimes so much easier to talk than it is to listen.

This week our youngest daughter came home with an acceptable grade on a science project. When we talked about it, she said, “What’s the point I’ll never be Olivia? Stop expecting me to get the grades she gets.” Olivia is our oldest daughter and received a number of recognitions for her academic successes. Emma’s grade however was really unacceptable – let’s just say it was below a 60 and she had guidelines to follow for the project that she just flat-out ignored.
We talked about a lot of things. But on the pieces of our conversation hit on how she has gifts that are different than her sister like art & music. I told her that she should remember those gifts and focus on being the best Em she could be. She shouldn’t worry about how smart she thinks her friends are or even worry about her sister, but she shouldn’t simply shrug and give-up either.

That’s so applicable to how I feel as a runner sometimes. We have been blessed with guidelines, encouragement/advice from others, training plans, websites, books, podcasts and more technical clothing/sneakers than you can shake a stick at. But it all comes down to us. The running authors of the blogs that I read can’t run for me, but neither should I think, “Look at all of those successful and strong runners out there – what’s the point – I’ll never be like them”. By thinking such things we often beat ourselves before we even start.

Honestly, it’s so easy to feel that way so many times…
There are women prettier than me – People smarter than me – richer than me – more athletic than me – better cooks than me…..
Sometimes I just need to remember to be take my own advice and just strive to be the best me I can be and remember to be happy.
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    GREAT BLOG!!!! AND great advice to your daughter...and remember how she looked at you when you were giving that great advice...

    That would inspire ME to take my advice (realizing how I looked when I was denying my poor decisions/actions....). We ALL do it!!! So much easier to advize than execute!!!!!

    Peace & love!

    2479 days ago
  • GIVEUP30
    WOW!! this is such an honest to goodness mother had 8 children I was the oldest girl. Had to learn early to clean house and pick up after everyone. Sisters never came along until I was a teenagers then it was more diapers and work. I would start on project as soon as I got information everyone else seemed to wait until the last minute and could still get good grades. Except for my one brother who couldn't get any thing but d's. Then I heard someone offer my next to the oldest brother five dollars for ever b and a he could get I spoke up and said I'll show you my report cards I will try too. I was told don't think so. Think was for him only you are doing fine. So try and see if some kind of reward would help your daughter want to follow all the instructions. I don't think the five dollar one is a good one...good luck... emoticon
    2480 days ago
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