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You Got To Be Kidding Me!?!

Sunday, May 29, 2011

When I started my journey on being more active about losing weight I was giving advice after advice after advice on what to do and what not to do. Some of it was taken in consideration but about a good 80% was in one ear and out the other.

What gets me is when people get offended when I don't appear interested with their suggestions. For instance:

Once upon a time a guy told me that I should go on the 4 day diet. Eat all protein on Sunday, Grains on Monday, Veggies on Tuesday, Fruits on Wednesday and continue the cycle. REALLY? YOU GOT TO BE KIDDING ME?

The HCG diet: take drops or a shot and eat only 500 calories....500 calories? Maybe you didn't get what I was questioning about...FIVE HUNDRED CALORIES? I'm not 2 years old. That's why you lose weight, the drops doesn't do anything but MAYBE suppress your appetite and for a girl like me who has NEVER BEEN SKINNY, nothing but my mind can suppress my appetite.

Everything that has been suggested, I've thought about. But, it's all about eating right + exercising = losing weight. Some have made comments like...

"Well it doesn't seem like that's going well for you."
"Maybe you should rethink your strategy."
"Have you thought about "the surgery""


Usually it's those that haven't had a battle like mine. I didn't gain weight a couple of years ago or after I had a child. I've been a big kid since I was born. I was born this way. Can I change it? YES, but I'm tired of those who haven't had a long term struggle like I have telling me what I should do. I get caught up in conversations where people just want to lose 5, 10, 20 pounds and fit into a size 4, 6, 8. I NEED TO LOSE 100 POUNDS! Not 5, not 10, not freaking 20....100. Yes, that is a big number. It is not in my comfort zone in telling people that I need to do that. But, I have made it my comfort zone.

I have been comfortable with myself because I am a strong woman and I know that I am beautiful ( times yes, but blame that on my 6 brothers who told me I was beautiful every day). My father told me last year,"You are the most strongest person that I know; physically, mentally and emotionally." That will forever stick with me. I need to be as physically strong as I am mentally and sometimes emotionally (

Another thing is how can I take food out of my comfort zone when it's been there for so long? I am seriously working on it. I can work out every day like a BEAST, but if I eat Burger King, Whataburger, ribs, hotdogs and cookies I know I'm not going to get anywhere. But I AM FIGURING IT OUT. That's the important thing. "Let me figure it out and you just support me," is my new saying.....

My new motto: Just because I've Never Been Skinny, doesn't mean I will never live healthy....

That felt good to get off my chest...THANK YOU!
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

MSMAKEOVER 6/16/2011 3:17PM

    emoticon I enjoyed your blog. So true! You have to figure out what works for YOU...everything is NOT for everyBODY....

Best wishes...

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BRILYNN79 6/7/2011 5:10AM

  Love it! Love the let me figure it out and you support me...awesome!

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LAURACS63 6/3/2011 10:22PM

    Hey there - I was doing a search on Sparkpeople for Shakeology and ran across your blog regarding the shake and then saw this one. You are awesome! Love your writing style and how well you express yourself in your writing! Thanks for posting this - it was like you were listening to a conversation in my head or something! Thanks again. Made me chuckle in an understanding way.


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LHACKING13 5/30/2011 2:05PM

    You are so on the right track! I get so tired of everyone I know going on "diets" that involve eating what they want, but spending tons of money on "diet" food. I admire your attitude and am so glad to find another person that wants to do it the right way and not the easy out. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LADY_DRAGON 5/30/2011 10:37AM

    Its so hard to follow your dream with so many people telling you how to follow theirs. Keep doing what you can do to make yourself happy and healthy. your family seem very supportive of your emotional health that is so much more than what I have but I am not complaining. I have a longer journey than you right now as I need to lose 150 just to be able to say I weigh less than 200 lbs. It doesn't sound like you are conceited it sounds like you are doing a good job of being aware of yourself...keep it up!
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2KITTIES 5/30/2011 10:04AM


If one thing worked for us all wouldn't we have all done it? Good for you, you're redefining your comfort zone as you go and doing a darn good job of it! You rock!

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SUGARBABY60 5/30/2011 3:37AM

    OOOO, You are one SASSY lady. the first thing we should have to do when we go to "DIET SCHOOL" is learn how to talk back to people. this is a LIFETIME journey and we are taking it one day at a time. There are NO short cuts. You will do just fine. How wonderful that you have such a supportive and encouraging family that means a lot congratulations on your journey so far and all the hard work that you have put in. emoticon

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HIKINGSD 5/30/2011 12:37AM

    You ARE figuring it out and I am here to support you :)


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ANNIEMAC_98 5/29/2011 10:41PM

    Great attitude! I know what you're saying. I've been there and am still there. Keep taking care of yourself and keep using your common sense! emoticon

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JJSSTORY 5/29/2011 10:15PM

    Smack 'em in the head with a stalk of broccoli and keep doing your thing girl!

I can relate to the frustration it cause to hear ppl talk about how fat they are and how they need to lose 5 or 10 pounds. I mean Puh...leeese!!

Stay strong!

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DEGENNAN 5/29/2011 4:53PM

    Anyone who tells you to eat less than 1200 calories a day should be ARRESTED. That is crazy. You do your thing and keep ignoring all those crazy folks who can't mind their own business. You are a strong, beautiful woman, and you are on your own journey. Nobody else has to walk in your shoes and until they do, they can't be giving you advice like they know what's best. You sound like you know what you're doing and you know it's not going to happen overnight. So stay strong and stay beautiful!

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SANDYBRUNO 5/29/2011 3:27PM

    I have 105 pounds left to lose. I can identify with everything you are saying. I even read a blog that made it sound like if you can't stick to eating healthier on an every day basis you should give up. What???? Giving up is not in my vocabulary. I may take spells where I am struggling and sometimes eating things I shouldn't but I will not give up. I had a guy telling me about the HCG diet. I thought the same thing you did when I saw you could only eat 500 calories. That isn't even healthy for you. I can definitely identify with you. Some people will say you can never eat certain foods and others will say you should once in a while. To me the key is finding a healthy balance that works for you. I did not get this big overnight nor will I lose the weight overnight. I am happy taking my journey one day at a time. We will do it. We will take our time and do what works for us. By the way the guy who told me about the HCG diet has not lost a pound. Our kids attend the same school.

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