I'm calling us all out on some unrealistic expectations....yeah me too! I've read a lot of blogs and messages on the boards lately by people who are frustrated, losing motivation, angry, confused, and many more adjectives that I could add. The culprit of all this angst....the scale and the calendar.
Allow me if you will a few numbers:
I spent 12 years very over weight - 4,380 days of fat cells settled in and comfortable with their life. I imagine them sitting on the beach with a tropical drink under a large umbrella just enjoying life.
One of the posts I read made me think of all of this. The person had worked very hard for 3 weeks (21 days) had seen little to no change on the scale and wondered if their hard work was doing any good. So in my case that would have been 4,380 vs. 21. What would even cause us to think that in 21 days we could make some major overhaul to what we spent over 4,000 days creating?
I think that during the 21 days, the fat cells went into what I call psycho mode. They get off their comfy beach chairs, get into their nuclear submarine, called a code red "man your battle stations" scenario and started fighting back. I mean why wouldn't they? You're disrupting their perfectly cultured environment. What do they want with all the water, fruit, vegetables, workouts....OMG sweat????
They engage missiles and bombard you with doubt, delayed onset muscle soreness, fatigue, cravings, insecurity, maybe even lack of support or bad comments from those around you. They are fighting with all they've got.
So now you're in this war - do you give up when you haven't even conquered the beachhead? No.
I've been engaged in this battle now for about 3 years, so I'll say 1,095 days. Were there days that I lamented, whined, complained, threatened to quit - yes. Did I quit - no. Little by little that scale had to give up and say okay you've won today. So I beat back 95 lbs. Have I reached in my mind the ultimate victory lap - no not quite. But it's transformed for me from a battle with the scale, to an enjoyment with a healthy, happy, new lifestyle.
In the end I think that the person who created the scale might be closely related to the person who created the diet industry. LOL - If I could get one person who reads this blog to remember on a day to day basis that this is a lifestyle change, a lifetime journey, and that the scale cannot be the deciding factor in whether or not you pursue being the healthiest version of you that you can achieve, then I will have done a good thing.
I wish I had a ring tone that sounded like a scale crashing through a bathroom window.
The scale cannot tell you how your cholesterol is, what your percent body fat is, how much you've reduced your chances for heart disease, diabetes, cancer, how much better you will feel healthy, etc.. So in the end if you still choose to weigh yourself frequently - at least tape a note on the scale that says "reminder - this piece of equipment does not rule my life". You'll be much happier if you remember that.
Keep on pushing towards your goals and don't give up. Now go workout and drink some water!