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Thursday, May 26, 2011

I'm calling us all out on some unrealistic expectations....yeah me too! I've read a lot of blogs and messages on the boards lately by people who are frustrated, losing motivation, angry, confused, and many more adjectives that I could add. The culprit of all this angst....the scale and the calendar.

Allow me if you will a few numbers:

I spent 12 years very over weight - 4,380 days of fat cells settled in and comfortable with their life. I imagine them sitting on the beach with a tropical drink under a large umbrella just enjoying life.

One of the posts I read made me think of all of this. The person had worked very hard for 3 weeks (21 days) had seen little to no change on the scale and wondered if their hard work was doing any good. So in my case that would have been 4,380 vs. 21. What would even cause us to think that in 21 days we could make some major overhaul to what we spent over 4,000 days creating?

I think that during the 21 days, the fat cells went into what I call psycho mode. They get off their comfy beach chairs, get into their nuclear submarine, called a code red "man your battle stations" scenario and started fighting back. I mean why wouldn't they? You're disrupting their perfectly cultured environment. What do they want with all the water, fruit, vegetables, workouts....OMG sweat????

They engage missiles and bombard you with doubt, delayed onset muscle soreness, fatigue, cravings, insecurity, maybe even lack of support or bad comments from those around you. They are fighting with all they've got.

So now you're in this war - do you give up when you haven't even conquered the beachhead? No.

I've been engaged in this battle now for about 3 years, so I'll say 1,095 days. Were there days that I lamented, whined, complained, threatened to quit - yes. Did I quit - no. Little by little that scale had to give up and say okay you've won today. So I beat back 95 lbs. Have I reached in my mind the ultimate victory lap - no not quite. But it's transformed for me from a battle with the scale, to an enjoyment with a healthy, happy, new lifestyle.

In the end I think that the person who created the scale might be closely related to the person who created the diet industry. LOL - If I could get one person who reads this blog to remember on a day to day basis that this is a lifestyle change, a lifetime journey, and that the scale cannot be the deciding factor in whether or not you pursue being the healthiest version of you that you can achieve, then I will have done a good thing.

emoticon emoticon emoticon I wish I had a ring tone that sounded like a scale crashing through a bathroom window.

The scale cannot tell you how your cholesterol is, what your percent body fat is, how much you've reduced your chances for heart disease, diabetes, cancer, how much better you will feel healthy, etc.. So in the end if you still choose to weigh yourself frequently - at least tape a note on the scale that says "reminder - this piece of equipment does not rule my life". You'll be much happier if you remember that.

Keep on pushing towards your goals and don't give up. Now go workout and drink some water!


Member Comments About This Blog Post:
ROSE284 3/21/2013 8:10AM

    Great blog post, thank you. Helped me put things in perspective today!

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SIMONEKP 3/13/2013 2:25PM

    I need to remember this when I am having one of those days

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TRVLGRL30 3/12/2013 5:18PM

    Great blog entry and thanks for putting it into perspective for me! Just like they say when you have took you 9 months to gain this weight and it's going to take at least that long to get it off! Well that was 22 years ago but who's counting! Thanks again!

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LIFETIMER54 12/17/2012 8:14AM

  emoticon blog and pics.... emoticon

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BAPSANN 5/12/2012 3:26PM


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REGENB 5/11/2012 9:17PM

    One of the best blogs I've ever read. emoticon

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SNYDERINK 5/11/2012 2:42PM

    This is a great blog, thaks :)

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MIKENIKES 5/11/2012 9:47AM

  Loved this blog! It really puts things into perspective to think about the days spent being unhealthy vs. days spent working towards a healthy lifestyle. I also appreciated the scale cartoons at the end emoticon

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JBINGLE 10/18/2011 9:46AM

    I loved it. Humor is good for the soul. Thank you. So true.

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TEDDYBEARMAMA 9/14/2011 9:02PM

    Love it !!! emoticon

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EMILYULM1 9/7/2011 10:24PM

    I just discovered this blog tonight and it was just what the doctor ordered. I am frustrated, ready to quit, feeling like my body gets more hurt and worn out every day that I try to exercise it. It makes me want to cry. I don't want to injure myself, but I don't want to quit either. Yes, the scale is getting to me a bit, and I feel angry and sad at the same time. I think that there might be something else going on emotionally as well, and it probably wouldn't be a bad idea to do some journaling. Thanks so much for the great blog. I am re-commited to my health and am ready to tackle a new day tomorrow.

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GAILMARIE760 8/26/2011 5:40PM


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DENVERSUZ 8/22/2011 11:02AM

  This was wonderful to read. Thank you! emoticon

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KRISS55 8/15/2011 2:49PM

  Thanks for this!!

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BGBEAR624 8/14/2011 12:51PM

    Hi there! I noticed you had posted this on the message boards this morning, and I am so glad you did! This is EXACTLY what I needed to hear today. As a matter of fact, I may print it and tape it up next to my scale!

My goal this week was to get from 216.6 to 215.0. I weighed myself every day, and the last few I was so excited because I was hovering in the 214 area. Then my "official" weigh in of the week today was 215.2...and I was devastated.

Now, if I hadn't been obsessed about the scale all week, I would have weighed in this morning and that 215.2 would've looked really good to me (after all, that's more than a pound!). But because I knew it had been lower, I was disappointed and angry with myself. I let that one stupid little number completely throw me off this morning and make me feel like dirt.

But after reading this, I have to say that you have turned my whole mood around. I know that I have more energy and endurance today than last Sun. More strength and a healthier heart than last Sun. And so much more. So THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart for posting the link to this blog today. You literally saved my motivation!!

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CATHM26 8/3/2011 9:48AM

    haha, this is great. I think I'm at about 2920 days vs. 1460... Really puts everything in perspective!

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REBELBLITZ 7/30/2011 2:33PM

    I will keep remembering this blog for a long time. Thanks for sharing your insights.


emoticon The notorious "Scale".

Comment edited on: 7/30/2011 2:34:23 PM

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CATH14967 7/26/2011 4:00PM

  Thank you! What an inspiration. Think i might open the window before I throw the scales. Can't afford new glass. emoticon

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LESLIESENIOR 7/24/2011 12:20AM

    Nothing like a good laugh at the expense of an annoying inanimate object. Thank you!!! My scale and i have been getting counseling and are working on improving our relationship.

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MAMACHEF76 7/23/2011 1:17PM

    Thank you!!!!! :) I needed this....and I'm sure I'll need it again!!!

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CLWELSH 7/23/2011 1:01PM

    Great blog! thanks for the eye opener!

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  I love this blog. I've only been on spark people a little over a week but I've been running for the last four and NOTHING. not even one pound. Some days i get on and the scale reads a couple pounds higher. it's so frustrating when in the past I could drop a few pounds in a week. Thanks for writing it. It makes me feel better when I know I"m not the only one out there that wonders if I should just stop.

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BLACKROSE_222 7/14/2011 1:33PM

    LOL - fantastic blog! Sorry I found this one late!

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MIJAMAGS 7/7/2011 12:11AM

    emoticon Your blog was so inspiring to me!

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FARAWAY01 6/30/2011 10:48PM

    You are so right! I'm going to remember this every time I step on my scale.

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FITJANE6 6/30/2011 2:29PM

    Ha! Thanks for this! Sticking this visual in my head and keeping it there--I'm going after those fat cells with a blaster! No more beach chairs and umbrella drinks for them! :)

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IZONPRIZE 6/28/2011 11:39PM

    Thanks for the inspiration! emoticon

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AHILL6579 6/26/2011 9:23AM

    Thank you very much for writing this blog! As I am one the frustrated ones who weighs weekly and have seen no changes, I now will keep your words in mind and think its ok doesnt mean NOTHING has changed! Also loveddd the visual :) again emoticon

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SHOEAHOLICS 6/26/2011 12:25AM

  I felt like you were writing to me directly, while I was reading this blog! Then I had to go back to check what the date was when you posted it! Thank-you....I need it!

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PARANAS 6/25/2011 11:50PM

    I liked the idea of the fat cells sitting in their beach chairs and then going under attack. Great blog. My fat cells are rebelling and asking for more fat right now.

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BLUEWATER71 6/25/2011 4:41PM

    I love this blog too and it is all true and thanks for sharing us with us.

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HHUSTON 6/25/2011 3:45PM

    Love the blog! Keep them coming :) You are making a difference.

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GARCIAMAURICA 6/23/2011 10:02AM

    TY for recommending this blog to me. My first blog since I joined the site! I am so glad it was yours! Everything made perfect sense! I've been overwieght since 2007...lazy and pregnant since that year and oh Lord. Just wanted to say Thank You! I wasnt going to give up so soon, but I will admit that looking at the scale this morning made my whole day depressing! I loved your blog! Keep them coming!

--Big fan of the way you put things...

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KIN59VARA 6/22/2011 7:29AM

    Love it ! Love the pictures!

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CHEEKYCHERRY1 6/21/2011 10:58PM

  Great Blog! emoticon

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WATCH_HER_GO 6/13/2011 1:13PM

    I really like the imagery you use of the fat cells lounging around. It's a great visual. I hope to carry it with me!

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MELLABELLAS 6/11/2011 5:15AM

    Hehe I really enjoyed this. Thanks!
I especially liked the image of my fat cells lounging around on a beach all these years.

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SASKGIRL81 6/10/2011 4:02PM

    Yup I have to keep reminding myself as well that it took me ____ years to put this weight on and live with it and it's not gonna be over night that it comes off. Thank you for posting this. I am NOT giving up this time even if I have a bad day or bad week. I am WINNING this battle.

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JENNJO322 6/10/2011 3:56PM

  AWESOME emoticon

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NO1JESS 6/10/2011 5:57AM

    YES! I love this, you are sooo right!!

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UNSTOPPABLE_ 6/10/2011 3:09AM

    Too funny emoticon

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BELLA0209 6/9/2011 2:14PM

    Wow this is me speaking:) haha What a great blog and SO true. I still wish I could figure out my answer but will keep trying! Thanks for this!

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AALIYANA1 6/9/2011 1:39PM

    i love your blog!!! (and your background!)

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MADE-FOR-MORE 6/9/2011 7:21AM

    Thanks for posting. Its just what I needed to hear right now. My scale isn't budging, I just need to keep going!

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MINKABONET 6/9/2011 4:00AM

    Your message was creatively expressed and inspiring too. Thanks!

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TRACYLOUWHO 6/8/2011 3:26PM

    Okay... really needed to read your blog and so glad I found it. Will be returning many times in the future to get my perspective beat back into me. :) emoticon

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JENNIKANDU 6/8/2011 1:47PM

    I'm at the beginning of my journey and have hardly seen any results according to the scale in the last 5 weeks and am on the brink of frustration, so this was just what I needed to read! Thank you so much for posting such an inspirational and motivating message! Even though they're all awesome, I think the second-last cartoon is my fave; scale as a F**** liar, I love it! :)

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BIRKIE528 6/8/2011 1:20PM

    Too Funny....Love it!!! emoticon

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FABB444 6/8/2011 1:21AM

    So true...a lifestyle change for the rest of our lives that should be taken one step at a time! Thanks for a lighthearted, yet helpful post! emoticon

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WALKIETALKIE 6/7/2011 10:53PM


Too funny. I quit weighing in about a month ago and I find that its easier to find new fun things to try than when I'm feeling pressured to hit a certain calorie burn for the day. My body just quit cooperating with the simple math back in November. I went berserk for about 6 months and now I've just accepted that this is where my body wants to be for a while. I've decided to have fun trying to build up my strength and endurance at my new healthy weight and quit kicking myself over the last 10 pounds I have to go. I'm glad you wrote this.

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