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The rest of the story.

Tuesday, May 24, 2011

I relieved my dear BIL this morning to care for Dad today. He was bad fidgety so I gave him the anxiety medicine left for him.

He was fevered so I used a cold compress on his head and it had to be changed every few minutes. I was a bit distressed that I couldn't get him calmed when the Hospice Nurse arrived and she said she just had to use the potty and then we would take care of dad.

In just that couple of minutes, no more than 10 feet away, I came back and Pop was quiet - too quiet. I was checking his chest for breath when he moved his head. He looked so pale.

The Hospice Nurse listened to his heart, took blood pressure and finally his pulse but My Dad had gone on to be with Mom just that quickly. 5 days from his decision to stop dialysis to the end of his journey and he went in his sleep, cause will most likely be listed as renal failure.

I have no regrets and am thankful that he was allowed to choose the time and the place. Thank you for all your prayers and words of comfort. I feel so blessed right now.

Yes, there is a terrible void in my heart - but I will see him and Mom again when my time comes.

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GOIN4GR8 5/26/2011 10:41PM

    There was a sense of peace in this post, Linda--I'm glad for that. And I understand it.

My dad died similarly just a month ago. He wanted to die at home, and he did--right in his recliner, in his living room, holding my mother's hand as she stood next to his chair--quickly and hopefully peacefully. We know now that he's with his family in Heaven, and that will make him happy again.

Thanks for sharing your story of your father. Maybe I will cry tonight ... I don't feel like I've done that enough yet.

Laurie

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MAMADWARF 5/26/2011 9:55AM

    I love your attitude about this. My dad passed to be with my mom on Valentine's day 6 years ago. I just thought it was soooo, well, him. I am happy you had time to say good bye and be there with him. You will never regret that time. Im sorry you are an "orphan" like me but I love being able to hear the peace in your voice. Your memories will comfort you, I guarantee it....Jan

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LESLIES537 5/26/2011 9:47AM

    My thoughts and prayers are with you! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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SPARKLEIIGHGAL 5/25/2011 3:55PM

    I am so sorry for your loss. It is hard when it comes but a relief that they are suffering no more. emoticon emoticon

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 5/25/2011 2:22PM

    How fortunate he was able to make the choice he made and that he was supported by you and other members of his family. My thoughts and prayers are with you today and in the days to come.
Hugs,
Kay

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OLDERDANDRT 5/25/2011 1:20PM

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WATERMELLEN 5/25/2011 7:48AM

    My condolences on your loss.

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ONEKIDSMOM 5/25/2011 7:30AM

    While I am sorry for your loss, I am so glad your dad got to make some important choices. So glad he was surrounded by loved ones, and in a familiar place. May your gift to him bless you with comfort from now until you next see him and your mom!

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MIZCATHI 5/25/2011 7:01AM

    I am deeply sorry for your deep loss.

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ANNIEONLI 5/25/2011 6:57AM

    SO sorry for your loss Linda. You are in my prayers as you go through this difficult time of adjustment in your life. Be at peace.
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BEYOURBEST1 5/25/2011 6:12AM

    I am sorry for your loss.

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LOPEYP 5/25/2011 6:08AM

    Your Dad is in a better place now. No more pain or discomfort. Take comfort in your memories. The pain will pass eventually. Sorry. emoticon

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HEALTHY4ME 5/25/2011 5:55AM

    Linda I am thinking of you today, and am sorry. I also know that he left in the best way possible and is now at peace. I think also of you as I went through this 2 years ago. I will think of you on the 1st of june as we think of mum and her time to leave us.
HUGS and glad you have so many good memories to fall back on when the time comes.


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0309COOKIE 5/25/2011 3:53AM

    I'm so sorry for your loss. Having just gone through the Hospice experience with my mother in March, I can so relate to your story. I will keep you, your dad, and your family in my prayers.

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NEW-CAZ 5/25/2011 3:09AM

    I'm so sorry he has passed Linda, you did all you could.
He's at peace now hun.
Please accept my deepest sympathy, my thoughts are with you and your family.
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TULIPAN2 5/25/2011 3:02AM

    I am so sorry!! He is at peace now, with the women he loved. And you did everything you could to ease the pain and you spent his last days with him at home...My prayers are with you and your family! emoticon

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BLUESKY104 5/25/2011 12:08AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon and prayers for you
May you find comfort in your memories that you can share with your friends emoticon

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BARNABABY1 5/24/2011 11:20PM

    So sad but such a beautiful story this past week has been. Your father was so blessed to have you help him leave this world in such a loving and peaceful way... you are an incredible person! All my love and prayers to you and your family,
Mary Ann

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FAIRYDANCER1 5/24/2011 10:42PM

    Wow that was fast. Please accept my deepest regrets. You have done an amazing job at seeing him through and I admire your courage.

Lynn

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REBARUTH55 5/24/2011 10:38PM

    How blessed your father was to be at home and with family! And now to be reunited with your mom. I will be holding you up in prayer. May you be surrounded by the loving arms of our Heavenly Father during these tough days!

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LYNNOTT 5/24/2011 10:12PM

    Your dad is pain free and in a better place. How lucky you are that you got to spend this precious time with your father! My thoughts and prayers and with you and your family.

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    My heart and prayers are with you. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MAWDOT35 5/24/2011 10:00PM

    You have my sympathy and my prayers, especially during the next few days. I'm glad that his suffering was not prolonged. "Precious in the sight of the Lord, is the death of His saints.."
Hugs and Prayers,
Dorothy

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SUSIEPH1 5/24/2011 9:38PM

    Bless you my friend ..
You have done all that you could have possibly done .
.May your Dad find peace at last with your Mum.
I know you will be grieving .... but be comforted knowing that he is now at peace ...
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GRALLEN 5/24/2011 9:38PM

    Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry. At least he died peacefully. You did a wonderful job taking care of him.

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2PONDS 5/24/2011 9:34PM

    Linda, no words can easy the pain of losing a parent!!! Just be at peace knowing he will always be with you!!! LOVE & HUGS!
DEE

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SOULOFADANCER 5/24/2011 9:18PM

    My prayers are with you and bless you for being a great daughter emoticon

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KAREN42BOYS 5/24/2011 8:43PM

    aw, linda. no real words here, but aw, linda...

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MARTY19 5/24/2011 8:32PM

    I am so sorry my dear but he is in a far better place. He is home with his wife and pain-free. My thoughts and prayers are with you now.

Love you,
Marty

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JULESDUD1 5/24/2011 8:18PM

    God bless you! He has blessed your Dad with you. What an honor you had in making his end of life more comfortable, not lonely and so sweet with care and love. Your Dad was worth all the pain and sorrow in helping him through this time of life. You are a wonderful daughter.

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MEADSBAY 5/24/2011 8:07PM

    What an honor, a privilege and a blessing that you could be there for him.

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WEEZYB7881 5/24/2011 8:07PM

    my prayers are with you in your time of sadness

louise

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ANNIEJEFFRIES 5/24/2011 7:49PM

    Linda, Our prayers are with you at this time of loss.
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Annie

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FORMYDARLINGS 5/24/2011 7:48PM

    Linda. Thank you from your Dad. You gave me the best there was. You are my darling.
I know these are your Dad's words to you. You are an angel and I believe you have earned your wings before you even have left his earth.
Be brave and remember him as he was ALL his life. It is very refreshing.
I lost my Dad too soon and I always see him fishing because it was his favorite pastime. He is always smilinig and I know your Dad will always be smiling too.

Love you and bless you,

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LITTLEFARMMOMMA 5/24/2011 7:37PM

    I love you, my friend. My heart goes out to you. It's going to be so tough to say good bye to my folks up in Michigan... I hope I will be able to be with them like you have been with your Dad. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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