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He smiled!

Sunday, May 22, 2011

For those not in the know - and I am discovering so many spark friends are in the know - doing Hospice is a blessing in disguise.

Yes, there is going to be some hardship in the coming weeks - but he was in pain and I gave him relief immediately, and he smiled! He smiled because I made the pain go away. I had to give him 2 of the intermediate pills but the pain went away.

I have never had children but I would compare my Dad's smile to that of your newborn baby when he or she smiles at you for the first time.

P.S. No, it wasn't gas! emoticon emoticon

**edit: 5/24
No earthly idea of calories today - but at least I am posted some of it.

Not really hungry today and the cheesecake was handy and easy to eat/digest. Rough day with Pop - we had to transfer him to a hospital bed. He wanted to know why and we said it would be more comfortable - he said okay.

He talked to us quite a bit - that was wonderful! You could always tell when he saw Mama.

He's worth a few extra calories to keep me going. I have the rest of my life to get back on track - and I will!

He's running fever and that is one of the symptoms - we were told he is advancing quite rapidly. Probably be with Mama before the week is out. Amazing he still has lucid moments. We are cherishing them.

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
GOIN4GR8 5/26/2011 10:35PM

    I'm reading these posts about your dad and tearing up, as I sit here wearing my own father's t-shirt as a nightgown. He started hospice in March and died on April 25, just 4 weeks ago.

So I feel your hurt, and your hope, and your sadness, and your relief. God bless.


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OLDERDANDRT 5/23/2011 11:52AM

    I am so glad you are able to help your dad, and obviously, he appreciates it. Cherish those smiles! emoticon

Gas..... emoticon emoticon


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KINSBAILE 5/23/2011 9:50AM

    I'm glad he smiled and the pain was taken away!

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MOMMYKAY038 5/23/2011 12:42AM

    I hope you remember that smile forever!!! Hugs!

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DIANESMILES 5/22/2011 11:28PM

    I am so glad to hear that hon, for BOTH ur DAD and YOU !! Cos if he's not happy, it harder for you also. Now of course expect some hard times hon, but cherish these memoories. I know when my "real Mom" died, she got very angry and said about anything that just POPPED into her mouth,,,nothing like her normal.

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GRALLEN 5/22/2011 10:06PM

    LOL @ "No, it wasn't gas." I'm glad you were able to stop the pain. That can mean so much in the quality of your day.

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WATERMELLEN 5/22/2011 9:49PM

    Hospice: wonderfully human places. I'm so glad your Dad is smiling at you and there will be some more good memories!!

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LYNNOTT 5/22/2011 9:32PM

    I've heard great things about hospice. We discussed it for my father, but he passed away before we finalized plans. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your dad!

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GOALIEGRANDMA3 5/22/2011 8:03PM

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    What a blessing you are to your father. I am so glad that he has you. Bright blessings to you both. You're in my prayers. emoticon emoticon

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SUSIEPH1 5/22/2011 4:53PM

    How Wonderful Linda!.
This will be such a sad time for you .. but also a very loving time between You and your Dad .... God Bless you both my friend
Huds Susie emoticon emoticon

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JERSEYGIRL24 5/22/2011 2:58PM

    So happy to hear!!! You have to count your blessings.

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MARTY19 5/22/2011 2:20PM

    How awesome! That is incredible feeling. Pain relief is such happiness. And hospice is such a blessing. It will ease your mind.

Love you,

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ONEKIDSMOM 5/22/2011 1:46PM

    Pain management is a blessing. During my mom's final days under hospice care, my sisters, who were with her, shared the good moments (there were some not so good ones, too)... so prize and cherish these. And bless you for doing this service for your dad. How good it is to be surrounded by familiar loving faces!

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MSLZZY 5/22/2011 1:41PM

    What a great feeling! To car for your dad and have him appreciate all that you can do in this
difficult time-hugs!

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LYNNE311 5/22/2011 1:33PM

    I watched my Dad slip away in hospice as well. They are wonderful people - our angels on Earth. A few tips they may not think of: Make sure they have lubicating eye drops for him, moisturizer for his skin, bring in a CD player with all your Dad's favorite music, bring some of his favorite books/stories/poems that you can read to him as the hours pass. Tell him how important he has been to you, how much you love and appreciate all that he has done for you. Talk as much as you can and say all that you need to say. Leave nothng unsaid. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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SIMPLELIFE4REAL 5/22/2011 1:08PM

    That's great Linda!

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MILLIE5522 5/22/2011 12:40PM

    A beautiful moment. Thank you for sharing.

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JENNY888 5/22/2011 12:39PM

    How touching that smile must have been. Enjoy the moments.

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GRANDMACOO 5/22/2011 12:29PM

    What a blessing that he is comfortable and you can share in these moments.

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    LINDA~~Those are treasured memories & the fact you could make his pain go away~truly a blessing!~Betsy

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    That is something to celebrate! emoticon

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DINGALLSTOO 5/22/2011 11:23AM

    that wasn't an oops?

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BESTSUSIEYET 5/22/2011 11:07AM

    Tuck those things away ... You'll treasure memories like this!

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MEADSBAY 5/22/2011 11:06AM

    What an amazing time in your lives.

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NEW-CAZ 5/22/2011 11:06AM

    I too have witnessed great compassion for my father with a hospice here in the UK.
Wonderful that you are finding some confort Linda and that your dad is comfortable emoticon

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SEDONACAT 5/22/2011 10:57AM

    emoticon That is great. Hospice is a true blessing. Let them support you, too.

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SLENDERELLA61 5/22/2011 10:49AM

    To treasure his smile and understand the honor you have of making his pain go away is beautiful! Thank you for sharing a very intense and personal time with your SparkFriends. Please know I care. -Marsha

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COOKWITHME65 5/22/2011 10:45AM

    I have been involved with hospice. It is a beautiful thing. God bless you.

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