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Special Me #15: Resilience

Thursday, May 19, 2011

I may get "down," be in tears, or feel desperate sometimes, but never for long. No matter how dark things seem, before I know it I'm bouncing back--seemingly out of the blue. This amazes me. Sometimes I sit there thinking, "Okay, where's the bounceback? I could use it now!" And eventually it always comes.

If you were to ask where resilience comes from, some scientists claim it's from your upbringing. Even those who have had a dismal childhood, with lousy parents, can, if they find the right role model in a neighbor, teacher, or relative, emerge resilient.

I was lucky enough to have an idyllic childhood, almost too free of want or worry, and I could have been terribly spoiled. Although they were a bit self-absorbed, my parents were successful, handsome, never out of work, and never fighting. I had no siblings to share their attentions. We weren't rich, but we weren't poor either. Though my parents didn't own any property when I was growing up, we lived in beautiful historic houses filled with antiques from their dealership and oil paintings that both of them created. We took regular vacations, and I had all the books I could read.

And now, of course, I've got Bill, whose presence really makes life happier and boosts my reslience, even in the rough times. And he's resilient, too!

Plus, look at that, the sun just came out after a week of rain! How symbolic!

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MORTICIAADDAMS 5/30/2011 11:07PM

    I had the dismal childhood but I am tough as nails as we both know. I always say that I could live in a box in the ditch if I needed to.

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SILLYHP1953 5/21/2011 2:41PM

    I think having love in your life helps resilience, but that is my personal thought.

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_LINDA 5/20/2011 12:30AM

    You are just amazing Suzy!! That is all there is too it! Some people have it, some don't, but you have it in spades! Its how you were put together!
Keep on finding that sunshine!
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Hugs,
Linda

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SCREWIE 5/19/2011 9:15PM

    It's lovely to be able to bounce back from whatever life throws at you :)

It makes everything more fun, even the things that do not appear very nice at first glance.

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JOYINKY 5/19/2011 8:43PM

    Yep, I knew you were resilient too! You are doing a great job on this project! WTG!

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PATTYSH 5/19/2011 8:17PM

    Bouncing back is a great quality to have! I never doubted it for one minute. Anyone who can bounce back time after time with all the yuck you've gone through, has got to have a boatload of resilience in your make up!

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HJFOGARTY 5/19/2011 7:36PM

    I hear you and you are so right - and growing up like you have allowed you to see what needs to be done in what ever situation you have - and I'm glad you have Bill - you are amazing and you really are such an inspiration! continue to take care of you

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VEENAS1 5/19/2011 7:33PM

    Resilence is the one thing I have known you have. You have survived so many terrible things recently. I hope you continue to get up if you are down and I am glad you have Bill. And yes DC even got a little sunshine!

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RWETHAIRYET 5/19/2011 4:34PM

    hmmm, now my childhood doesn't sound anywhere near as "Idyllic" as yours, but resilience is definitely still one of my traits. In fact, I'd say my resilience came from trying to cope with the arguing and fighting, the alcohol, etc etc And on the days when I wonder if I'd really survived that upbringing I take a good look at my sisters and figure I"ve survived it way better than them.
So personally, I think it's just something built into your core personality. You're either born with that trait...or not.

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BETHGILLIGAN 5/19/2011 3:21PM

    I envy that resilience! I guess I've got some or I wouldn't have survived to this ripe old age. I just wish I could bounce back a little faster and a little easier. I can stay "down" for quite awhile if I don't really work at getting back up.

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LAURELSPARK 5/19/2011 1:43PM

    I bought a book on resilience years ago. According to the author, resilience is so important to kid's school (and life) success. I share your strength.

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NEW-CAZ 5/19/2011 12:53PM

    Lovely to hear of your upbringing Suzy.
Lovely too that you don't stay knocked down for long, your positive outlook and reslilance shines through. emoticon

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NORASPAT 5/19/2011 12:26PM

    Nice to hear your story about growing up.
I guess I was on the other end Poor but happily that experience gave me determination and resilience also.
I hope the sun is heading in our direction Hugs Pat in Maine. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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