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Face Book Advice needed

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

I'm kinda new to the social networking thing (only had a Face Book account since July) and I need some advice. Your comments will determine how I deal with this problem.
I don't have many FB friends (less than 150) and of those, I feel comfortable passively interacting with 30 at most ("liking" and commenting on their posts and statuses, sending private messages, posting on walls etc...). I feel comfortable FB "chatting" with less than 10.
My problem is this. I made the mistake of "friending" someone who had similar interests. (I do not really know her, except through FB. ) Now she insists on "chatting" with me every time that she sees that we are on at the same time, asking personal questions, sometimes interrupting me in the middle of something important. I try to be polite, but sometimes I find myself making up excuses (ie: my phone's ringing, someone's at the door etc...) just to get her off my back. I also now quickly scan to see if she is on when I first get on FB, and if she is, I try to finish quickly so I don't have to interact with her.
Usually, I am on FB on to do something (check what others are posting, read messages, play a game etc...) not chat. I know it is possible to "unfriend" a person, but I know how that feels and I don't want to go that far. Any suggestions?
Thanks for your help.


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COLD_GOLD 4/26/2011 5:46PM

    un-friend her... you don't even know her... I only friend people I know, and sounds like she isn't really polite to you.

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ESTEPHENSON2 4/26/2011 2:26PM

    Crazy concept here....just don't respond. :) This person is obviously not someone important in your life so ... why even worry with her?? Delete her or ignore her and move on. Spend time focusing on you!! Not someone who you don't even feel comfortable chatting with.

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MNGIRLIE 4/26/2011 1:52PM

    I have never chatted with anyone on facebook thankfully! I just don't care to. I've always had my chatting feature offline and it saves me a lot of headache. I don't know if you should worry so much about unfriending this person especially if you two aren't close.

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    Make yourself invisible.


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RUNNER12COM 4/26/2011 1:22PM

    Yep, "offline" is your best Facebook friend. :)

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KAMAPERRY 4/26/2011 11:15AM

    I agree, make yourself invisible.

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BETH7CAM 4/26/2011 9:51AM

    Thanks to all, especially LUVS2 WIN67 for telling me exactly how to do it. The few friends I like to chat with usually understand that when I am on FB I am usually there to do multiple things, not just chat. Now when I don't see anyone I want to chat with, I will set myself as "offline." A million thank yous! emoticon

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BRAINREFILL 4/26/2011 9:32AM

    Unfriend the person and/or adjust your FB privacy settings. Should do the latter anyway since FB is capturing everything you do and selling it to advertisers emoticon emoticon

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CASSARM1 4/26/2011 9:07AM

    I always have my instant message ico show me as off line. I can't stand when I get a pop up. This way I get to look around facebook and respond to the post that I want and not the instant message.

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LUVS2WIN67 4/26/2011 9:04AM

    I agree with Firefly. My little niece does the same thing. So when I log on I quickly check who's on (in case I need to speak with someone) then go offline. You do that through the options button at the bottom right hand FB page (where you chat). When you click to view who is online at the top of the pop up it will say options...just click go offline. Only your chat will be off line. You can still do all the other things you normally do.

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EILEENXO 4/26/2011 8:59AM

    Firefly has the right suggestion, prevent her from seeing your online.

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FIREFLY1967 4/26/2011 8:54AM

    is she chatting with you through the facebook chat option? you can go "offline" so she doesnt see you on there... that way you can cruise and look through facebook but she will not see you online and wont be able to chat with you. hope this helps.

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