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The proper response to another's success.

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Thursday, April 21, 2011

I have been a part of many teams and challenges. One of the common issues I encounter is a "bad response" to another's success.

First, let me highlight a few responses that are rooted in "stinkin' thinkin'".

1) Ignoring or refusing to celebrate another's success from pure jealousy.

2) Fudging one's numbers to tie or beat another's number.

3) Quitting a team or challenge because one isn't getting the same measure of success.

4) Squandering valuable time looking for excuses.

You may be thinking, "Do these things really happen?" YES

Now let's see how a POSITIVE response can actually benefit YOU!

1) Congratulate your teammate for showing you that it CAN be done!

2) Be true in your numbers. You can be anything in the virtual world but the mirror, scale and your clothing won't lie about the REAL loss. Ultimately this is about making a change in your REAL life. That's the best reward!

3) If you quit a team because your numbers are not as good as others' then you are just wasting an opportunity to learn from their success and to receive encouragement and help.

4) Making excuses is only another form of self-denial. Be realistic. If you didn't have as much time to get to the gym - step it up next week. If you went to a party and overate, make the next meal healthy and add some fitness minutes. It is what is is. Put it behind you and get back on track.

This journey is ultimately about your HEALTH. Would you quit a medical program just because someone else in the waiting room was healed of their disease? NO - it would only give you hope that you TOO could have that outcome. Well, this IS about your health. Quitting is not an option.

So, let's stand up and APPLAUD those that are showing us it CAN be done! Listen to their methods. You might learn a thing or two. Be honest in your numbers, your day will come when you are the one another is celebrating! Never give up!

You are WORTH the effort!

Press On!

Member Comments About This Blog Post:
APHRODITE2GO 4/29/2011 1:35PM

    emoticon way to put it!

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KIN59VARA 4/29/2011 11:49AM

    Good advice, I congratulate you on your success.

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PENGUINROSS 4/28/2011 12:33AM

    Your comment about hoping to be cured of a disease as another in the waiting room had been really made senseto me! i had never thought of that example. Thanks.

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MAMA23GRLZ1BOY 4/26/2011 6:54PM

    Awesome, as usual and spot on!!!!

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ASHOAF1 4/26/2011 1:33PM


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SPARKCHANTAL 4/26/2011 8:31AM

    oh wow, i'm sooooo familiar with this! lies in the family...

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PUGLOVER1999 4/26/2011 12:13AM

    Well said.

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NEVADAPP 4/25/2011 10:44PM

    2 thumbs up!

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AFRUGALNUT 4/25/2011 10:18PM

    Well put!

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LVMAMAW 4/25/2011 10:09PM


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GINGERMACC 4/25/2011 8:43PM

    Great advice. Those who fudge their numbers really aren't helping anyone.

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WEMINICH 4/25/2011 8:20PM

  Great advice!!!

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SHASSYSUE2 4/25/2011 7:42PM

    Loved It!!!!! Thank You!! Shannon

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SUSANMOMOF6 4/25/2011 7:10PM

    So may good points. When we are not honest we are only cheating ourselves.

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NDKARIKARI 4/25/2011 6:07PM

    Very well said!

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WHGRN60 4/25/2011 4:33PM

    Well said!

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LMMIMI 4/25/2011 4:30PM

    I totally agree. emoticon

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LYNNE311 4/25/2011 3:55PM

    Amen, sistah!

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HOLLYDAZZE 4/25/2011 3:46PM

    I know I love getting compliments on my success so I try to be positive as well. Thank you for encouraging us to dig deeper. :)

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CBERGMAN4 4/25/2011 2:07PM

    Very nicely put!!! :)

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LOIDAEG 4/25/2011 12:27PM

    Awesome! :)

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IGSBETH 4/25/2011 11:39AM

    Good points!

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RUFFIT 4/25/2011 11:23AM

    emoticon for posting. Moni

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WEEZIE30 4/25/2011 11:15AM

    Great Advice!

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MARGARITTM 4/25/2011 8:29AM


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TREESA57 4/25/2011 7:03AM

    woo hoo so true..

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WOLFKITTY 4/25/2011 1:47AM

    Excellent advice! :D

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SUNSET09 4/25/2011 12:17AM

  You are worth it! emoticon

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DWILCZKO 4/25/2011 12:15AM


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SALEX52 4/24/2011 11:38PM

    you;ve nailed it with this blog. Thanks.

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PURESTILLWATER 4/24/2011 10:43PM

    Another fantastic blog.

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BLACKROSE_222 4/24/2011 10:41PM

    This is a fantastic point - Thank you so much for sharing, and I'm so glad it made it to the Featured Blog.

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LYDIASPURPLE 4/24/2011 10:11PM


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MODESTASHEGETS 4/24/2011 10:04PM

    In addition to that, I think these smaller losses or mini-goals should be celebrated just as much as the big ones. I think that would prevent a lot of these challenge dropouts. Some of these team leaders are a bit harsh!

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LJHST5 4/24/2011 9:54PM

    I agree with you wholeheartedly that we need to openly and emphatically celebrate other's successes!! I'm only sorry that you've had this experience. I'm fortunate that I haven't run across it in my three years on Spark.

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KINSBAILE 4/24/2011 9:28PM

    If you lie on your numbers,you're just lying to yourself. We're not in it to beat others, we're here to help each other and benefit ourselves from helping others! I am glad you posted this. I am sorry others do this just to compete!

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MISSLORI5 4/24/2011 9:16PM

    I so appreciate this blog! It gives insight that so many of us either are not aware of or choose to ignore. Thank you for sharing your wisdom! As I spend more time with sparkie I am learning so many things-this has definitely added to my collection! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LIVINHEALTHY9 4/24/2011 8:15PM

    How sad this really happens.
Thanks for bringing this to our attention.

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    You are so right! #3 speaks to me - I am frequently of getting all gung-ho for a team or a challenge, and then simply dropping out when I'm not keeping up or doing as well as others in the group. That's when I should be asking for the help I need. Stinkin thinkin, indeed! Thanks for the kick in the pants.

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LOSER531 4/24/2011 8:01PM

    Very good, very valid points! People cheat themselves out of so much simply by being self-centered. It is as ironic as it is sad!

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YO~YOLANDA 4/24/2011 7:39PM

    Love hearing all the shocked responses...unfortunately Suzanne speaks the truth. Fear not though...the BLC Admins are doing their absolute very best to get on top of any situations as they arrise and we become aware to try to help keep the BLC a fair place to be. It isn't alweighs a fun job..but no one ever said it would be all the time.

We are doing our best to keep a challenge with integrity.

You can help by continuing to offer your genuine encouragement and support. Be the example...and we will continue to monitor weigh ins, postings, and team threads.

On to continued success!!!

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BARCLE 4/24/2011 7:23PM

    Wow emoticon I am astonished this happens! Wow.

I always try to encourage and celebrate others' successes and victories no matter how big, huge, small, little, tiny - any achievement is a bonus.

As for fudging numbers etc - in reality people who do that are only cheating themselves. It's a very hollow 'victory'. Personally, I wouldn't bother. If I'm at the top of points for something it's because I've worked hard to get there and if I'm not (like this month for my fitness points) it's because I haven't .... so next month I'm really going to focus on getting back up there for my fitness minutes.

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SCRAPPER1124 4/24/2011 6:43PM

    So true! By making the excuses or lying about the numbers you are only sabotaging yourself. Stop the cycle.

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PICKANYNAME 4/24/2011 6:33PM

  I'll second that "AMEN!!!!"


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EMPTRS 4/24/2011 6:09PM

    AMEN girl! You said it best! : )

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DJLAYNE 4/24/2011 6:02PM

    Very wise and well-said; thanks for posting! emoticon

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BIGHAIRGAL 4/24/2011 4:32PM

    Good Information, thanks!

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