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Why do we self-sabotage??

Thursday, April 14, 2011

I think it’s a multiple prong issue.

First when you are dealing with any addiction, especially food where you need it to live you will always have relapses.

Second it’s the fear of something new. You have had your current body for years and years and getting down to a size you have never been or haven’t been since you were younger is a scary thing because in a way you are killing off a part of yourself. Your identity tends to alter when you lose weight and you can feel lost until you get used to it.

Third it’s a self-esteem issue…because sometimes you feel like you don’t deserve better for whatever reason your mind comes up with or due to our past history.

Then you have that fear of failure…though you know you can succeed in losing the weight, the fear of getting there and maintaining it can sometimes sabotage your goal.

And finally when we set-up a goal for ourselves, we tend to think it will make us a little happier in our lives, but the fear or getting there and still feeling the same and not gaining happiness also sabotages us because we are comfortable with being unhappy right now with the hope of happiness because we are used to it…obtaining that happiness and losing it or getting there and finding out that there isn’t happiness on the other-side can feel devastating.

What is boils down to is we are comforted in our discomfort because it's familiar.

There are so many battles fought in the mind when it comes to food which is why we have a million diet programs, products, and gyms and are still an overweight society. We can't win a mental battle with just outward practices, because it’s like putting fresh paint on rotten wood.

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PHOENIX43 5/19/2011 6:41AM

    You have wonderful insight and I am so glad I read your blog. My greatest fear is definitely failure. I work on my body every day and although the progress (for me) has been agonizingly slow - it's still progress and I need to honor it. Thank you for sharing and have a great day!

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BECCABOO127 5/18/2011 8:56PM

    "...we are comforted in our discomfort because it's familiar. "

Truer words were never spoken! I felt this way in my old job, too. Not only do I have to work on feeling better body wise, I have to work on finding my new purpose in life. I am in a holding pattern right now, and my weight is up and down. I still have hope though, that I will come out okay.

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MSBTERFLY 4/14/2011 7:28PM

    yes it has been a real battle for me.

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